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Unveiling Life’s Roles Through Coaching Perspectives

 in quote  tagged coach / coaches / coaching / consciousness / perspective / quote / roles / Thought / William Shakespeare
This image is done in a dreamlike style. A lone figue is stood in shadow at the centre of the bottom of the image. Apparently they are stood in either a large wide aisle or down a wide catwalk leading to steps up to a raised stage area. It is not apparent what roles this individual is playing. On either side of the aisle are rows of audience, all sat, who are also in shadow. Impressive looking columns are oneither side of this raised stage. 7 theratical spotlights are shining down onto different areas of the stage with light feflecting off the surface causing a glow. The text reads: "All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages.". (William Shakespeare)

In honour of today being #WorldTheatreDay, today’s quote is:

“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages.”. (William Shakespeare)

I’m going to be looking at this from thoughts it’s sparked for me in relation to coaching, rather than analysing this as you may have done in an English class!

Upon reflecting on Shakespeare’s profound words, what strikes me most is the intricate web of roles we assume throughout our lives. These roles come with a set of implicit rules, dictating our behaviours, expectations, and limitations. We often find ourselves bound by societal norms and personal beliefs, shaping our actions based on perceived obligations and responsibilities tied to each role.

Consider the roles we inhabit daily: parent, partner, employee, friend. Each carries its own script, a preconceived notion of how we should perform and what we should prioritise. Yet, it’s not merely the external expectations that influence us; our internal dialogue, thoughts, and beliefs also play a pivotal role. They shape our perception of these roles, colouring our interactions and experiences in subtle yet profound ways.

Our thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions act as the playwright behind the scenes, crafting the narrative of our lives. They determine which roles we embrace wholeheartedly and which ones we resist. They influence the choices we make, the paths we take, and the relationships we cultivate. In essence, our inner world shapes the stage upon which we play out the various acts of our lives.

Similarly, it’s crucial to ponder what roles we assume that aren’t inherently ours. Often, we find ourselves shouldering burdens and responsibilities that exceed our domain. This self-imposed pressure and tension serve as red flags, signalling that we may be venturing into territory beyond our rightful sphere of influence.

Upon closer examination, we may discover that these perceived obligations lie outside the realm of human control. Attempting to manage or fix situations beyond our purview only leads to frustration and disillusionment. Recognizing and relinquishing these misplaced roles liberates us from unnecessary stress and empowers us to focus on what truly matters within our sphere of influence.

This notion prompts us to delve deeper into our essence beyond the roles we enact. Who are we when stripped of all roles, including the constructs of self-image and identity? Exploring this existential question unveils the core of our being, free from societal expectations and personal narratives.

If we were to wield the pen as the playwright of our own lives, unbound by external scripts or preconceived notions, what narratives would we craft for ourselves? What dreams would we dare to pursue, and what aspirations would we fervently chase? Embracing this creative autonomy empowers us to shape our destinies authentically, guided by our deepest desires and aspirations.

It’s a common misconception to view our thinking as akin to a movie reel, playing out in a linear and predetermined fashion. We often believe that once a thought sequence begins, we’re obligated to see it through to its conclusion, as if it were etched in stone. However, what if we were to reframe our understanding of thought as more akin to a live theatrical performance?

In this metaphor, our thoughts take on the fluid and dynamic nature of a play unfolding on stage. Like actors delivering their lines, our thoughts emerge spontaneously and interact with one another in real-time. However, unlike a movie with a fixed script, a play offers room for improvisation and spontaneity. Just as actors may deviate from the planned dialogue or encounter unexpected plot twists, our thoughts can veer off script, leading us down unanticipated pathways.

Moreover, the theatrical analogy invites us to consider the behind-the-scenes elements of our thinking process. Just as a theatre production has its backstage areas where the mechanics of the show are at work, our minds harbour a realm of subconscious processes and unseen influences. Sometimes, these “backstage” workings manifest in our conscious awareness, offering glimpses into the inner workings of our minds.

Furthermore, technical issues may arise during a theatrical performance, disrupting the flow of the show and revealing the artifice behind the illusion. Similarly, in the realm of thought, we may encounter disruptions or glitches that challenge our assumptions and disrupt our habitual patterns of thinking. These moments of cognitive dissonance or uncertainty serve as opportunities for growth and insight, prompting us to question our ingrained beliefs and perspectives.

Just as a theatre production may be interrupted by unforeseen circumstances, such as a power outage or a medical emergency, our thought processes can be disrupted by external events or internal triggers. These interruptions force us to pause, reassess, and adapt to the ever-changing landscape of our inner world.

Then there is always the option of us voluntarily leaving a performance at any point – though with a thought there is no other audience members toes to avoid standing upon in an attempt to creep out without disruption. In this instance, you can confidently just leave the thought performance and go and watch another instead – even picking an immersive interactive thought performance if you wish.

By embracing the metaphor of thought as theatre, we invite a sense of playfulness and flexibility into our relationship with our own minds. Rather than rigidly adhering to fixed scripts or resisting unexpected plot twists, we can approach our thoughts with curiosity and openness, exploring the rich tapestry of our inner experiences with a spirit of adventure.

In doing so, we cultivate a greater sense of agency and autonomy over our thinking, recognizing that we are not passive spectators but active participants in the ongoing drama of our lives. By embracing the fluidity and spontaneity of thought, we empower ourselves to rewrite the script of our own narratives, forging new pathways of understanding and possibility.

So what about you? What thoughts did this quote prompt for you?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer, Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Living in the Present: Welcoming the Wisdom of Each Moment

 in quote  tagged coach / coaches / coaching / living in the present / quote / Sarah Orne Jewett / Thought
The left half of this image is taken up with a photo of Sarah Orne Jewett. It dates from around 1894 so the image is in blacks and greys. It shows a white woman in her mid 40s with her brown hair pinned up. She is wearing a dark coloured simple sleeved blouse with largish round buttons and a largish dark ribbon tied at her neck over the collar position of the top. Although her body is facing forward she is looking to the left of the image.The text to the right reads: "'Tain't worthwhile to wear a day all out before it comes." (Sarah Orne Jewett)

Happy Monday! Today’s quote is:

“‘Tain’t worthwhile to wear a day all out before it comes.” (Sarah Orne Jewett)

This beautiful quote reminds us to welcome the importance of living in the present moment, rather than allowing worries about the future to consume us.

In the fast-paced world, where schedules can be packed and our expectations are high, it’s easy to fall into the trap of constantly worrying about what tomorrow might bring. We can get caught in loops of stacking one thought and the meaning we’ve given that thought on top of each other. Yet, as we explore the essence of this quote, we can uncover profound insights into the transformative power of embracing the present moment.

Living in the present

Which leads to the question of what is living in the present moment like? Before I take a moment to share a few words, what is your answer to that wondering?

For me, when I ponder that it’s just being present. Often my thoughts are quieter and not as loud and demanding but sometimes they can still be going past but without my activley metaphorically grabbing at some and not letting it go. I’m often fully focused upon the one thing in front of me. I’m not living in memories from the past or using those memories to project out into the future to imagine a story of what could be coming up.

Which suggests that it is the quality of our thinking in the moment that makes a huge impact. When we become caught up in worry and anticipation, we are living in a virtual reality of our own making, disconnected from the richness and depth of the present moment.I don’t mean that this is another job to add to our mental to-do list and change all our thinking – it can be far more relaxed than that. It’s about begining to notice when you are getting caught up and as best you can in that moment relaxing back into present. My suggestion would be to skip any beating yourself up for forgetting and just go back to noticing.

This constant mental chatter creates unnecessary stress and robs us of the joy and fulfillment that can be found in the present. But the truth is, all we have is today. So why spend it consumed by worries about tomorrow?

As coaches, I see our role as guiding our clients on a journey of self-discovery and transformation, helping them unlock the wisdom and potential that resides within them. We can empower them to release the grip of worry and anxiety and return to the simplicity and clarity of the present moment.

Thoughts are naturally transient and ever-changing, just like clouds passing in the sky. By cultivating a deeper understanding of their own innate resilience, clients can learn to trust in the unfolding of life and embrace each moment with an open heart and mind.

Ultimately, the quote by Sarah Orne Jewett serves as a powerful reminder that life is meant to be lived fully in the present. So let’s make a commitment to embrace each day as it comes, trusting and welcoming the wisdom of the present moment and allowing ourselves to fully experience the beauty and joy that surrounds us.

Have a wonderful Monday, everyone!

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Navigating Self-Doubt: Guiding Clients to Unleash Their Potential

 in quote  tagged coach / coaches / coaching / comfort zone / quote / Thought / Vincent Van Gogh
The background is done in the style of a Vincent Van Gogh oil painting of a sky. This means there are swirling blues, yellows and touchings of white representing a nights sky. A semi-transparent grey rectangle, with rounded corners sits over the middle. The black text on that reads: "If you hear a voice within you saying, "You are not a painter," then by all means paint, boy, and that voice will be silenced, " (Vincent Van Gogh)

The quote for today is:

“If you hear a voice within you saying, ‘You are not a painter,’ then by all means paint, boy, and that voice will be silenced.” (Vincent Van Gogh)

In the realm of coaching, Vincent Van Gogh’s words shared in a 1883 letter points towards lsitening to your own inner wisdom as well as that voice of self doubt. A journey many clients embark upon, with the guidance of their coaches.

As coaches, we often encounter individuals whose aspirations are stifled by their own insecurities and fears. Our role is not merely to offer solutions but to facilitate a transformative journey towardself-discovery and empowerment. In light of this, let’s delve into the questions raised:

How do you encourage your clients to step outside of their comfort zone?

Let me take a moment to discus comfort zones. The most common way I’ve come across the use of comfort zones is when discussing learning. Visualize three concentric circles stacked on top of each other. The innermost circle represents the comfort zone, where individuals feel at ease and familiar with a particular skill or situation. It is typically associated with minimal pressure and stress levels. The next circle, labeled stretch/learning, signifies the area where individuals are pushing the boundaries of their perceived or actual abilities, venturing into new territories. This can generate a mix of excitement, discomfort, and mild anxiety. Finally, the outermost circle is often referred to as panic or overwhelm, which is not conducive to effective learning.

Encouraging clients to step outside their comfort zones is a delicate yet essential aspect of coaching. It involves creating a safe and supportive environment where clients feel empowered to explore new possibilities and challenge self-imposed limitations. Techniques such as reframing limiting beliefs, setting achievable goals, and celebrating progress can help instill confidence and motivate clients to embrace unfamiliar territory.

When I first started coaching, my approach focused on expanding comfort zones and encouraging clients to step into the stretch/learning zone. This approach remains relevant and is still an option to explore in any coaching situation. However, I’ve also come to recognize the power of understanding that we live in the feeling of our thinking. Exploring the energy of thought and how our experience is directly linked to it has become an integral aspect of my coaching practice. Recognizing that our thinking can sometimes be an unreliable indicator of actual reality enables clients to naturally see through and question the illusions created by their thoughts, using the feeling as an indication of when they have drifted off track.

As I continue to evolve as a coach, I’ve found that incorporating this understanding into my practice has profound implications. It allows me to guide clients in exploring thinking and understanding the impact they have on their emotions and actions. By recognizing that our feelings are a reflection of our thinking in the moment, clients can gain a newfound awareness that empowers them to navigate challenges with clarity and resilience. Instead of being consumed by doubt or fear, they can observe their thoughts with curiosity and compassion, knowing that they hold the key to unlocking their potential.

This shift in perspective fosters a deeper level of self-awareness and self-trust, enabling clients to tap into their innate wisdom and make choices aligned with their values and aspirations. Ultimately, it’s about guiding clients to access their inner guidance system, where intuition and insight pave the way forward. By cultivating this awareness of the interconnectedness of thought, feeling, and action, coaching becomes a transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

How does that relate to comfort zones? Well sometimes all it takes is a new thought and that comfort zone expands naturally. Skills can still be developed and learning take place but it doesn’t always have to feel like hard work to push that edge of the circle out some more. I think that the experience that Van Gough is describing is that comfort zone expanding.

How do you motivate someone to pursue their passion despite their self-doubts?

In the quote Van Gogh talks about “a voice within you saying ‘you are not a painter'”, one label that could be put onto that is self-doubt. Motivating clients to pursue their passions in the face of self-doubt requires a combination of empathy, encouragement, and strategic guidance. By helping clients identify their core values, desires, strengths, and aspirations, coaches can inspire a sense of purpose and direction. Additionally, providing actionable strategies, accountability, and ongoing support can empower clients to overcome obstacles and stay focused on their goals.

Similarly to what I pointed to in the earlier section – those thoughts we often label self doubt can loose the power if we begin to see them not as an omnipitent judge but just as falible as any other thought that passes by.

Where do you start when working with a client who doesn’t believe in their own potential?

When working with clients who doubt their potential, it’s essential to establish a foundation of trust and rapport. Coaches can start by listening attentively to their clients’ concerns, validating their experiences, and acknowledging their strengths. From there, coaches can collaboratively identify areas for growth, set realistic expectations, and co-create a personalized action plan tailored to the client’s needs and aspirations. There’s the opportunity to explore who the client really is, to allow them to identify their own knowing, wisdom and creativity at a pace and speed that’s right for them.

In conclusion, the journey of overcoming self-doubt and embracing one’s potential is a deeply personal and transformative process. As coaches, we have the privilege and responsibility to guide our clients through this journey with compassion, insight, and unwavering support. By cultivating a nurturing coaching relationship and empowering clients to believe in themselves, we can help them unleash their full potential and achieve their greatest aspirations. So, let’s heed Van Gogh’s timeless advice and encourage our clients to paint their own masterpiece, silencing the voice of doubt and embracing the brilliance within.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Unleashing Infinite Potential: Coaching Insights from Thomas Aquinas

 in quote  tagged coach / coaching / infinite potential / quote / Thomas Aquinas / Thought / universe
The image appears to be at night set in an outsie setting. In the middle of the image is a human stood on a hill, with their back to the viewer, looking up into the sky. In the sky are stars and planets - these are much larger than would be visible to the naked eye in reality. The text below reads: "The greatness of the human being consists in this: that it is capable of the universe." (Thomas Aquinas)

Today’s quote is:

“The greatness of the human being consists in this: that it is capable of the universe.” (Thomas Aquinas)

The Infinite Potential Within:

Thomas Aquinas invites us to recognize the infinite potential within ourselves. Each individual is a universe of possibilities, with untapped capabilities waiting to be discovered and harnessed. You coould argue that this idea goes beyond traditional notions of limits and boundaries, urging us to explore the depths of our potential.

Experiencing the Universe through Thought:

The quote also alludes to the unique capacity humans possess to experience the universe through thought. Our thoughts shape our perceptions, emotions, and actions. While we live in a physical world with tangible experiences, our ability to navigate and interpret these experiences is profoundly influenced by the thoughts that pass through our minds.

Coaching and Tapping into Universal Capability:

As a coach, I see that one aspect of my role is to help clients tap into their universal capability. This involves guiding them to realise that their potential is as vast and expansive as the universe itself.

My approach to this has changed and evolved over time, just like the way I talk about this topic has altered and will no doubt to continue to expand over time. Here are some approaches I use and have used to inspire and support clients in this realisation:

  • Awareness Encouraging clients to an awareness allows them to observe their thoughts without judgment. This process opens the door to understanding the impact of thoughts on emotions and behaviors.
  • Exploration of Limiting Beliefs: Identifying and challenging limiting beliefs. By questioning assumptions and beliefs that may be constraining, clients can broaden their perspective and recognize the vastness of their capabilities.
  • Goal Setting and identifying what a client really wants: Guiding clients through goal-setting and visioning exercises helps them articulate and envision their aspirations. Digging deep enough to allow and identify true desire allows them to connect with the expansive possibilities that align with their authentic selves.
  • Acknowledging Resilience and Strength: Celebrating clients’ resilience and strengths reinforces their ability to navigate life’s challenges. Recognizing past achievements builds confidence and expands the perception of what is possible.

What else would you add to this list?

Conclusion:

For me, the journey of coaching involves unveiling the greatness within each individual, acknowledging the vast capabilities they possess. There’s an element of working from a space where clients recognise their potential as vast and limitless, mirroring the universe itself.

How do you, as a coach, incorporate the concept of universal capability into your coaching methods? What insights does this quote inspire for you? Share your thoughts and experiences below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the suppurt Jen provides here.

Navigating the Terrain of Thoughts

 in quote  tagged coach / coaches / coaching / quote / reflection / Thought / wisdom
This image has a patchwork watercoloured background of navys and purples. 8 thought bubbles with a white background surrounds a larger central thought/ speach bubble. The outside thought bubbles cntains circles of different shades of either red, green, blue or yellow. The central thought bubble contains the following text: "First thoughts are not always the best." (Vittorio Alfieri)

Todays coaching quote is:

“First thoughts are not always the best.” (Vittorio Alfierl)

In the fast-paced realm of coaching and entrepreneurship, decisions are often swift, and first impressions carry weight, whilst some prefer to naturally reflect. As we embark on this exploration, let’s delve into the intricacies of navigating the nuanced terrain between initial reactions, thoughtful responses and where wisdom fits in with all of this.

The Dichotomy of Snap Judgments and Deliberate Responses:

It’s an all too familiar scenario – faced with rapid decisions and quick judgments. Alfieri’s words invite us to pause and consider the dichotomy between our instinctual, knee-jerk reactions and the more deliberate, thoughtful responses. How do you discern between the two in your coaching practice and entrepreneurial journey?

Personally I don’t thik judging an initial reaction or a thought out response to be better than the other is that useful. I think both can have their place given the circumstances. I do think it can be useful for you to be aware of that and not give either more weight than the other.

Unraveling the Threads of Inner Wisdom:

Last Wednesday, we pondered the essence of wisdom. Now, let’s contemplate how today’s quote intertwines with the fabric of our inner wisdom. What language do you employ to articulate the difference between a fleeting first thought and the resonating echo of inner wisdom? How do you distinguish the impulse from the profound and the simple known certainty?

For me there’s a differnt feel to that but that doesn’t mean that your experience will be the same – I’ve found its unique for you, so there is no right or wrong answer to this one – just your current answer.

Resonance with Coaching Philosophy:

I heard coaching described recently as guardians of transformation and growth. Wether thats a description you are comfortable describing how you work I think many coaches inherently navigate between immediate insights and nuanced understanding and reflection. How does Alfieri’s wisdom resonate with your coaching philosophy? Does it prompt a reevaluation or fortification of aspects within your coaching practice?

Embracing the Pause for Enriched Insights:

As a coach I’m sure you’ve had occasions where a client has taken a pause to just be silent before answering a question. Its like they fall into a space between stimulus and response where thoughtful reflection and insights occur. This interval allows for a more profound understanding and richer insights. In your coaching interactions and business decisions, how do you cultivate or spend time in this space for enriched responses?

Share your thoughts and insights in the comments below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Beyond the Comfort Zone: Coaching and the Courage from Within

 in quote  tagged Aesop / coach / coaching / comfort zone / courage / quote / Thought
A silhuted figure is stood with their back to the viewer. There is a glowing light source in front of them. A break in some clouds reveals the golden light source against a gainst a greeny blue sky. There are clouds that look like they are parting towards the light source from where the individual is stood. The clouds get darker towards the side of the image and the bottom to corners of the image is black. The text above the light source reads "It is easy to be brave from a safe distance." (Aesop)

Today’s quote of the day is:

“It is easy to be brave from a safe distance.” (Aesop)

Today’s quote of the day by Aesop appealed to me with regards to the with the world of coaching as I think it points to the experience many clients can feel at some point in the process.

Courage in Uncomfortable Spaces:

In the realm of coaching, clients often seek support precisely because they find themselves in uncomfortable situations or are challenging the norms that they feel have defined their lives. It’s easy to be brave when the challenges are at a safe distance, but I feel its imprortant to acknowledge the courage that emerges when faced with any discomfort of personal growth and change. Coaches play a pivotal role in creating a safe and supportive environment where clients can explore these uncharted territories.

Understanding the Battles:

A key aspect of coaching is recognising that everyone is fighting their own battles. Clients bring their fears, uncertainties, and challenges to the coaching relationship, seeking guidance on how to navigate them. Establishing trust and providing support I feel are essential components of coaching. Approaching each client with an open mind, actively listening to their stories, and standing by them as they take what can feel like a leap of faith contributes to the transformative power of coaching. I often think that part of my job description can include a profesional hand holder – providing reassurance if a “wobble” occurs.

Empathy and Perception:

While it’s crucial not to entirely adopt a client’s perception of a situation, empathy remains a powerful tool in coaching. Even if a challenge seems less intimidating from the coach’s perspective, understanding and acknowledging the client’s perception fosters a deeper connection. It’s an invitation to empathize with their feelings and fears, creating a more compassionate coaching relationship.

The Safety of Our Thoughts:

Aesop’s quote also prompts reflection on the ways we can scare ourselves with our thinking. Even when physically safe, we are quite capable of thinking stories that induce fear and anxiety. Coaches and those on the journey of self-improvement can explore the impact of thoughts and those narratives, recognizing that sometimes the greatest hurdles are the stories we tell ourselves.

Prompting Personal Reflection:

Now, it’s your turn. What does Aesop’s quote inspire in you? How does it resonate with your experiences in coaching or even personal development in general? Share your thoughts and reflections in the comments below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.