The Secrets of Successful Coaches


Your Book is the Hook 1

In today’s guest post business coach and mentor Karen Williams shares her personal experience and some advice:

"Your Book is the Hook" by Karen Williams

Your Book is the Hook

by Karen Williams

Have you got a secret desire to write a book?

You know you’ve got something to say; if only you had the guts to do something about it. You know you want to write, but perhaps you don’t know what people want you to say or how to share your message.

I tell you this. Writing a book is something that will change the direction of your business. Although very few people make millions from writing a book – it won’t be your retirement plan or the thing that allows you to give up working – but a well written book will help you to stand out in your business.

Your book is the hook that allows you to:

  • Build your credibility, allowing you to get noticed by your ideal clients
  • Grow your community, reach more people and change more lives
  • Position yourself as the go-to person in your area of expertise

Writing a book certainly changed the direction of my business. It was a little over 3 years ago that I published my first book, so let me share with you some of my story.

Why I decided to become a writer

When I started out in business, I didn’t have a clue where to start. Although I’d studied business at College, putting the theory into practice was very different. Making the transition from a pretty secure corporate job to the uncertainty of working for myself was tough. I had to put myself out there, develop the courage to do new things and I had to stand out to get noticed. And it was my first book that allowed me to do that.

However, I never set out to write a book. I did research for a project where I was modelling the mindset behind a coaching business. I contacted and spent time with some of the best coaches in the industry – including Michael Neill and Dawn Breslin – and learnt strategies that changed my life.

When I put these strategies into place in my business, it turned it around. I realised that I had cutting edge information that I had to share, so I decided to write a book. . The Secrets of Successful Coaches came out in 2011, which was followed 18 months later by How to Stand Out in your Business, which shared my own step by step guide to get noticed.

Is your business book ready?

Writing a book, however, is not the start of your journey; there are certain things that you need to do initially. You’ll struggle to achieve success if you just put pen to paper or hand to keyboard without nailing some of the fundamentals first. Your business needs to be book ready.

Without a clear target audience or a message that resonates with them, any book you write is more likely to fail. Without having a specific focus for your book or knowing what you want your reader to do next, you will struggle to make a difference.

Also, as I said earlier, your book is unlikely to make you millions, but when you develop a strategy to use the book to raise your profile, and have a process that allows your readers to work with you on a more intimate level, it will make a huge difference to your business success.

Want to write a book?

If you want to write a book, here are some questions to get you started:

  1. What is your goal or intention for the book?
  2. What is the topic that your readers need to know now?
  3. What is your hook?
  4. What else has been written about your subject?
  5. Who is your ideal reader?
  6. Why should they read your book?
  7. What do you want your reader to do once they have read your book?
  8. What makes your book different from those of your competitors?
  9. What else do you need to do to get your message out?

Then writing it is actually the easy part as you’ve got to get published, promote it, and then you might choose to do it all over again!

Take the next steps

If you know that writing a book will set you aside from other people in your profession, contact me to find out how I can help you.

To find out more about why writing a book will help you to stand out, you can download a copy of my brand new report ‘Your Book is the Hook’ here, where you can also find out more about the writing retreat I am running in Spain later this year.

About the Karen Williams

Karen Williams is the founder of Self Discovery Coaching and is a Business Coach and Mentor, Author, Speaker and Fire Walk Instructor. She predominantly works with solopreneurs (coaches, consultants and therapists) who want to make a difference, but know that to do this, they need to learn the skills to create and grow a successful business. She helps them to get more clients, make more money and do what they love. She is known for helping her clients to succeed by standing out from the crowd, getting noticed and being an expert in their business.

She is the author of The Secrets of Successful Coaches, which reached #1 in the Business charts on Amazon. Her second book, How to Stand Out in your Business, was published in 2012. In the second book she shares the 7 Step Success System that she uses to help her clients to become more visible and create a successful business. She is half way through writing her third book.


How does your mindset affect your business?

Coach and author Karen Williams shares her expertise and knowledge in today’s guest post and asks:

How does your mindset affect your business?

by Karen Williams

Let me share with you one of my beliefs. I believe that you can have all the marketing and business knowledge you need, but unless you have the right mindset, you’ll struggle to make it in terms of running a successful business.

Our mindset has an incredible affect on what we do and how we do it. It is more than just belief and confidence, it is about the way we approach a situation, our outlook, our mental attitude and the way in which we think. It is about the language we use to talk to ourselves and others, as well as the thoughts we have in our head about a problem or a solution.

Think about it now. Have you been with someone where their mindset has not been at its best? Perhaps they have been feeling down, depressed or concerned about something. Or maybe they have been feeling unsure or frustrated. Now that’s not to say that we always have to be on top form, but noticing your mindset, your thoughts and your actions is the starting point of understanding how it impacts on your success.

Let’s think about another person you know who has a positive mindset. Someone who always sees life with the glass completely full, has energy and enthusiasm, and a zest for life.

Where do you fit?

How do you feel about that?

If you are like most people, you are probably somewhere in the middle. Some days you will be feeling fantastic, and on other days, you will want to stay beneath the duvet. So with my comment in mind that your mindset affects your success, what can you do to recognise your state and do something about it when you need to?

The first step is to recognise how you feel every day and be aware of your emotions and feelings. If you are feeling negative or frustrated, what can you do to change your state? I know that sometimes you’ll want to wallow for a while, but think about how you will feel when you’ve broken the pattern and done something else instead? One of the strategies I follow is the premise that motion changes your emotion, so physically get up, do something different and return to your task later.

The second step is to be aware of what you could do differently to retrain your brain. In a nutshell, we have thousands of thoughts every day and we need to decide what to hold onto and what ones to ditch. Our beliefs often inform the thoughts we have, which inform the feelings we have about the beliefs, then this influences our behaviour and the consequences. You then have a choice on whether you create a vicious circle or a virtuous circle. If you keep thinking negatively, which creates negative behaviour, you will enter a downward spiral, but if you break the pattern, you can create a virtuous circle. These, by their very nature, then create more happiness and wellbeing.

The third step is to be aware of the impact that other people’s behaviour has on you. You could say that it is your choice how another person’s behaviour can affect you, it is often difficult to put this into practice, especially if this behaviour is pessimistic. Generally negativity breads negativity, so it can be difficult to break the pattern. But there are things you can do about it. The late Jim Rohn said that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. So ensure you spend your time with inspirational people whose goals, aims and intentions are bigger than your own. When you do this, you’ll raise your game, achieve more, and get the support to step through your comfort zone quicker and more easily than you could do by yourself.

Before I move on, I’d like to give you something else to think about.

Five frogs are sitting on a log. Four decide to jump off. How many are left?
Answer: five
Why? Because there is a difference between deciding and doing!

With this in mind, what are you going to decide to do differently going forward? Are there new strategies and habits you need to put into place? Only you can decide to have a success mindset. Then when you have chosen this mindset, you will be focused on abundance rather than lack, success rather than failure, so can you see now how it can make a difference to your business?

You’ll be the one achieving results, getting more clients and generally feeling inspired and inspirational! Doesn’t this sound like a great place to be?

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out” ~ Robert Collier

About the Author/Further Resources

Karen Williams runs Self Discovery Coaching and is the author of The Secrets of Successful Coaches, which reached #1 in the Business charts on Amazon. Having interviewed 24 top performance coaches, Karen has learnt from the experts how to create a successful coaching business. Since just 10% of coaches make it in terms of running a successful business, she gets frustrated when she sees coaches who are amazing, but don’t have the business skills or confidence to make a difference. Karen’s big vision is to enable more coaches to reach more people and help them to live a happier and fulfilled life.

You can download Karen’s 38 Success Mindset tips at http://www.thesecretsofsuccessfulcoaches.com/successmindset/ and follow Karen’s current Ultimate Blog Challenge – 31 posts in 31 days so I make this number 32!

You can also follow Karen on Facebook and Twitter.


Become A Confident Coach 2

In this week’s guest post, Karen Williams shares her thoughts and expertise about becoming a confident coach.

Become A Confident Coach

By Karen Williams

As an experienced coach, mentor and the author of The Secrets of Successful Coaches, I often work with new coaches who struggle to have the confidence to become known and get clients.

They may believe they lack the confidence to coach. They may be scared of their abilities or lack of experience, worried they will get stuck or are not yet ready to tell people what they actually do.

I had a session with a new coach a few weeks ago and one thing she said to me was that she was expecting an inquisition and it didn’t come. We were just having a conversation – although, a constructive one at that. You don’t have to be formulaic, following the GROW model (although the principles are great), you just need to be or do what your client wants at that particular time.

When I interviewed Hannah McNamara for The Secrets of Successful Coaches, she said to me:

“It’s actually got nothing to do with you and your abilities; it’s what that client needs at that given time. Sometimes they need to be coached, sometimes they need to be taught, and sometimes they just need to offload. And they don’t want someone saying, ‘So what are you going to do about it?’ They just want to hear ‘Oh God, that sounds awful.’”

I love this philosophy. It is not about enforcing our thoughts or ideals onto our clients but being there for them. But on the other hand, I also advocate that sometimes we need to be tough too. If a client wants to achieve an objective but is putting up barriers in the way or is not doing what they say they will do, we have the right to challenge them supportively, to help them to achieve it or to check that this really is their goal.

When I talked to Michael Neill about running a coaching business, this was his advice:

“Be an amazing coach. It starts with your ability to make a difference. If you can’t do that very well, work on your coaching, not on your business. One problem is that a lot of coaches don’t get that coaching is a business, but there are also a number of coaches who don’t seem to get that effective coaching is at the heart of the business. They put all their energy into marketing and getting a website, building their newsletter, raising their profile, but they are not very good coaches yet. First, learn how to change lives – then you can figure out the marketing.”

Very pertinent, I’m sure you will agree. Many coaches, when they qualify, will concentrate on the business skills; but they need to become great coaches too.

So if you want to become a confident coach, here are my six top tips:

1. Learn how to be a great coach

This is more than getting a coaching qualification. Get practice in asking questions, listening to others and building rapport. This can be in a coaching situation with a client, or it can be just in day to day conversations with other people.

2. Get experience

When I qualified, I didn’t have a clue how to market myself as a business. So to become a great coach, I asked in a forum whether anyone wanted pro bono coaching and got 2 clients this way. This gave me the opportunity to further my experience and as one of these became a paying client, this kick-started my business too.

3. Develop your toolkit

You don’t have to attend all the different types of training available, but having a toolkit of resources will help you and your clients greatly. This starts from you and your own skills, and you can build on these with the knowledge you have, the information you can share and the resources you have at your finger tips.

4. Don’t be afraid to get it wrong

Sometimes you just need to put yourself out there and go for it. And don’t worry if you think that you will get something wrong. To be honest, your client won’t know what you were going to say and if you mess up, they probably won’t notice. And if they do, what is the worst that can happen? Learn from it, get it out of your system, and then move on.

5. Contract with your clients

One piece of advice that I give my mentoring clients is the importance of contracting with your client in the first place. Get their permission and find out how they want you to bring them back on track, whether they want you to make suggestions and explore your mutual expectations too.

6. Just do it!

Whether you want to visualise a great coaching session, use affirmations, act ‘as-if’ you are a confident coach, or just get on with it, this is the next step.

Here’s to being a confident coach!

About the Author/Further Resources

Karen Williams is a qualified coach and NLP Master Practitioner. She has been running Self Discovery Coaching since 2006, specialising in helping career changers and those facing redundancy to find a job they will love. She also works with new coaches to enable them to create a successful business and turn their passion into profit.

She is the author of The Secrets of Successful Coaches, which is based on spending time with 11 inspirational performance coaches and sharing their strategies for success. Her book was published by Matador this spring and is available on Amazon or via her website www.thesecretsofsuccessfulcoaches.com.

Karen has also created a great toolkit for coaches with the Self Discovery Success Club to enable them to have the best techniques for both themselves and their clients. You can get a month’s free membership when you buy a copy of her book.


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The Friday Guest post on Coaching Confidence is taking a break over the festive period. (Want to be a guest poster in 2011? visit HERE)

Instead, today you will find a list of all the guest posters since we started the feature with links to their respective posts.

I’d like to take this moment to thank all these posters for taking the time to share so generously. I’d also like to wish everyone a Happy New Year.

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The secrets of successful coaches 5

In this weeks guest post Karen Williams shares her experience and knowledge about running a successful coaching business.

The secrets of successful coaches

what stops coaches from running a successful business?

By Karen Williams

In 2006 I trained to be a coach. After experiencing coaching to help me to refocus my stuck career, I realised that I found my true vocation and started my training with one of the UK’s leading coaching organisations. When I qualified in the November, I set up my business, Self Discovery Coaching. Like many new coaches, I expected clients to come to me as I knew I had a great service to offer to them, but I quickly I realised that I didn’t have a clue about how to run a business.

“The difference between someone who is or is not successful is that total self-belief.” ~ Dawn Breslin

Rolling on a few years, I established a reasonably successful career coaching business, but still felt something was missing. I was also noticing that there were great coaches out there, but many lacked the business know-how to develop a successful business. Many were returning to their previous profession or getting consultancy work to supplement their coaching income.

“Success takes bravery, courage or something. You do things that frighten you; you feel the fear and do it anyway.” ~ Blaire Palmer

I started some research and I found that many coaches were struggling with the same problems:

  • Getting, finding and retaining clients
  • Deciding on a niche
  • Getting the marketing message right
  • Managing their time
  • Being frustrated by lack of funds
  • Demotivation due to lack of clients
  • Taking action rather than waiting for everything to be perfect
  • Having enough self belief and confidence in their skills

So in 2009, when I had to carry out my modelling project for the NLP Master Practitioner qualification, I knew exactly where to start. I decided to model the mindset behind a successful coaching business and had the great opportunity to learn from some coach business owners and model what works for them.

“Success means being the best coach I can be and leading a life that is in balance, in keeping with my values” ~ Suparna Dhar

I realised that I was learning some key principles from each of these people. I had the enormous pleasure of interviewing 11 successful coaches and business owners such as Michael Neill, Gladeana McMahon, Duncan Brodie, Hannah McNamara and many more. So I decided to turn my research into a book, and The Secrets of Successful Coaches was born (out early 2011).

“Success does not require a positive mindset, but enjoying success does. If your coaching business is not a part of your wonderful life, what’s the point?” ~ Michael Neill

So what are their secrets of success?

  • They run a business that they are passionate about, based around their values.
  • They have a strong self belief and a winning mindset, focused on a clear business vision.
  • They have quickly learnt that they have needed the business skills to make their business a success.
  • They have a clear long term vision about their business and take daily steps to make it a success.
  • Most of them have a clear niche that enables them to focus on their ideal customer and how they can help them.
  • For those who don’t have a niche, they create amazing successes with clients that they love to work with.
  • Much of their business is built on referral and recommendation, so they are each great coaches as well as business people.
  • They have great networks that they have developed and many work with other experts in their field to further develop their strengths.
  • They have a good support network, such as a virtual assistant, IT support, a cleaner, associates, and web designer.
  • They have a coach, mentor, supervisor or all three to further develop their business.

“Success is also about being with other people and seeing them grow and develop, and having the satisfaction of having had some part in that, however small.” ~ Gladeana McMahon

So what are you going to do to create your successful business?

In November 2010 I created a mentoring programme for people who are in the early stages of setting up a coaching business. If this is you, you will have a dream, goal or plan, but will find it hard to know where to start. You will probably feel overwhelmed by the volume of information out there and not know where to start. I see creating a business just like baking a cake and you need to know what ingredients you need and in which order to place them in order to make your business a success.

To find out more about the business mentoring programme for new coaches, just email me or call 023 9200 6418 and I am offering a discounted strategy session for the first 5 people who contact me.

About the Author/Further Resources

Karen Williams is a qualified coach and NLP Master Practitioner. She has run a successful career coaching business since 2006 supporting individuals to transform their career and find a job they will love. She also runs a business mentoring programme for new coaches who want to turn their passion into profit.

She is the author of the upcoming book, The Secrets of Successful Coaches and you can find out more about her research and free reports at www.thesecretsofsuccessfulcoaches.com. You can also download free podcasts with people like Michael Neill, Suzy Greaves, Allison Marlowe and other people interviewed for her book which will be available early January.

You can also find Karen on Facebook, follow her on Twitter or connect with her on LinkedIn.