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What If You Didn’t Have to Be Perfect?

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The quote of the day is actually a proverb:

“A beautiful thing is never perfect.” (Egyptian Proverb)

Isn’t it funny what we can do to ourselves with busy thinking? Sometimes, our minds create an endless loop of judgment, striving, and assumptions about how things should be. And often, perfectionism is at the heart of it.

Perfectionism, to me, seems like a lot of thinking. It’s fuelled by the assumption that things could always be better than they are right now. While the idea of improvement isn’t inherently bad, perfectionism often carries a sense of “not enough”—a constant inner critic pointing out what’s wrong or incomplete.

But what if we didn’t have to carry the heavy weight of assumptions about how things should be? What if we’re not inherently broken? What if, ironically, we’re already perfect just the way we are? Not perfect in the sense of flawlessness, but perfect in our wholeness, our humanity, and our capacity for growth.

Does this mean striving for improvement is wrong? Not at all. There’s a world of difference between moving forward with curiosity and intention versus mentally beating yourself up with judgment and self-criticism.

When I reflect on the Egyptian proverb, A beautiful thing is never perfect, I’m reminded of the richness in imperfection. The cracks, quirks, and so-called flaws often hold the most meaning. They make something real, alive, and uniquely ours.

What would it be like to live from that perspective? To see yourself as whole and complete right now, even as you continue to grow and evolve? What if, instead of striving for perfection, you simply allowed yourself to be?

How would your life change if you really didn’t have to be perfect? How would your relationships shift, your work, or your sense of well-being? What could that look like?

And if you’re a coach, what impact would really seeing this have for you and your clients? Imagine what could open up for someone if they stopped chasing an impossible standard and instead embraced the idea that they’re enough exactly as they are.

Perhaps the greatest irony of all is that in letting go of the relentless pursuit of perfection, we might discover we’ve been enough all along. Perfection was never required to create beauty, connection, or joy.

So, what if perfection wasn’t the goal, but rather an invitation to see the beauty that’s already here—within us and around us? What if, instead of focusing on fixing ourselves, we noticed what’s already whole?

Maybe, just maybe, we’re already more than we thought we needed to be.

If all this feels like a step too far for you right now, I invite you to play with taking a more compassionate perspective toward yourself and seeing where that leads. And remember—you don’t have to be perfect at letting go of perfectionist thinking either. It’s simply nice to know that you don’t have to hold on to those thoughts to still be whole underneath.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.

If today’s reflections on perfectionism resonated with you, reach out to explore how coaching can create space for new insights and possibilities.


Beyond Mistakes: Coaching Questions to Inspire Action and Self-Compassion

The image features two directional signs positioned at an angle, illustrating contrasting ideas. The sign pointing to the left is red and labelled “NOTHING” in bold white letters, while the sign pointing to the right is yellow and labelled “ALL” in bold black letters. Beneath the signs, there is a quote in large, clear font that reads: "Only he who does nothing makes a mistake" This quote is attributed to a French proverb. The background is simple and white, allowing the signs and text to stand out prominently.

The quote of the day is:

“Only he who does nothing makes a mistake” (French Proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you currently handle mistakes in your personal or professional life?
  • What role do mistakes play in driving innovation and creativity?
  • How does your perception of mistakes affect your willingness to take action?
  • Is choosing to do nothing always a mistake?

Bonus Questions:

  • What insights arise when you reflect on past inactions and their impact on your life?
  • How do you define failure, and how does that influence your willingness to take action?
  • What role does self-compassion play in helping you move past the fear of making mistakes?
  • Is there an area of your life where you are more reluctant to take action in case it is an error?
  • In what ways can you support clients in taking action despite their fear of it not working?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Examine What Is Said: Questions for Coaches Evaluating Truth in a Message

The image features a three-dimensional, featureless, white humanoid figure standing in the centre. This figure is holding a large, bright red megaphone with its right hand, directing it to the left side of the frame. The figure and megaphone are set against a plain, light gray background, which emphasizes their simplicity and the bold colour of the megaphone. The megaphone is large in comparison to the figure, drawing attention to its significance in the composition. Above the figure and megaphone, there is a text in black that reads: "Examine what is said, not who speaks." (Proverb).

The quote of the day is:

“Examine what is said, not who speaks.” (Proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you currently assess the quality of information or advice that you receive?
  • If there’s a particular thought you use to berate yourself, does it have the same impact if it’s said in the silliest voice you can imagine?
  • In what ways do you help clients create a habit of asking “Is this true?” rather than “Who said this?” when evaluating information?

Bonus Questions:

  • What insights arise when you stop associating wisdom with status or authority and focus on the truth in the message?
  • How do you encourage clients to be open to insights from unexpected sources in both their personal and professional lives?
  • What wisdom are you ignoring because it’s coming from a new and previously unnoticed source?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Reflections of Our Thinking: Coaching Questions About How Inner Beliefs Shape Our World

The image presents a breathtaking view of Earth from space, capturing the planet in a striking, luminous display. The Earth is shown at night, with city lights twinkling brightly across the continents, primarily highlighting Europe and parts of Asia and Africa. The horizon glows with a soft, radiant blue light, where the sun's rays just begin to brush the curvature of the planet, creating a delicate gradient from day to night. The vastness of space serves as the backdrop, dotted with countless stars that add a sense of depth and infinity. This celestial scene is both awe-inspiring and humbling, emphasizing the beauty and fragility of our planet within the expansive universe. Above this majestic view, a quote reads: "What you see in yourself is what you see in the world." (Afghan Proverb)

The Quote Of The Day is:

“What you see in yourself is what you see in the world.” (Afghan Proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • In what ways do your inner beliefs shape your view of challenges or opportunities in the world?
  • How does your thinking about your capabilities affect the risks you take or avoid in your career?
  • How do you help clients recognize the connection between their self-perception and how they view the world?
  • What does this proverb prompt for you?

Bonus Questions

  • What insights emerge when you realise that your experience of the world reflects the nature of your thoughts and feelings?
  • How do your attitudes toward yourself shape the way you approach challenges and setbacks in life?
  • How does your view of your personal and professional worth shape the way you promote your coaching?
  • How do you guide clients to recognize that their external challenges may reflect internal beliefs or fears?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Navigating Goals: Key Questions for Coaches and Achievers

The image features a clear, large lightbulb against a plain, light gray background. Inside the lightbulb, the filament is uniquely shaped to spell out the word "goal" in a cursive, glowing neon style. Below the lightbulb, there is a Greek proverb: "Before you score, you first must have a goal."

Today’s quote of the day is a proverb:

“Before you score, you first must have a goal.” (Greek Proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you adjust your coaching methods when a client struggles with defining what they want or committing to goals?
  • What obstacles have you faced in goal-setting?
  • Where do you want to be in 5 years time?
  • How do you define a goal?
  • How important are goals in relationship to your coaching?

Bonus Questions:

  • Generally, what is your experience of working towards a goal? Are there any you have at the moment that are not following that trend?
  • What role does a clear mind play in identifying and committing to any goals?
  • What steps can you take today to define and commit to your most important goals?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Where Love Reigns: The Power of Connection in Coaching

The image depicts an artistic representation of a heart made from strings and pins. Red pins are arranged on a white background, and red strings are threaded between the pins to form the outline of a heart in the centre. The strings extend outward in a pattern that resembles a sound wave or heartbeat, suggesting movement and vitality. The text reads: "Where love reigns, the impossible may be attained." (Proverb)

Today’s quote is a proverb:

“Where love reigns, the impossible may be attained.” (Proverb)

I don’t know what sprang to mind when you read this proverb, but does it have a connection to coaching for you?

You may have heard the phrase “holding space” for a client in reference to coaching. The phrase itself makes it sound like another task to add to your to-do list as a coach. And maybe that description fits with your approach. I’m certainly not saying it’s right or wrong; rather, I’m inviting you to consider if it aligns with your coaching experiences.

For me, the space and connection that occur when a client and I settle and seek clarity around a topic have a unique feeling. Part of that feeling, I think, is a sense of peaceful love. Michael Neill describes this space as one where miracles can happen. Just the other week, a client described it as being able to feel the magic in that space.

This isn’t a post about finding an eloquent or elegant way to explain that feeling, but to point towards something that we can sense, even when words fail us. It’s a feeling that, for me, includes a sense of safety, allowing us to play and explore.

The Magic of “Holding Space”

“Holding space” might sound like a task, but it’s more about creating an environment where your client feels safe and supported. It’s about fostering a connection that allows for openness and exploration. When love and trust reign in this space, the impossible often becomes attainable.

The Feeling of Peaceful Love

In those moments of true connection, there’s a palpable feeling—a blend of peace, love, and clarity. This isn’t just about being nice or kind; it’s about genuinely caring for your client’s journey and believing in their potential. This sense of peaceful love can be the catalyst for profound breakthroughs.

Inviting Miracles

Miracles in coaching don’t always mean dramatic, life-altering changes. They can be subtle shifts in perspective, moments of deep insight, or the courage to take a small but significant step forward. By holding space with love and presence, we create the conditions for these miracles to occur.

Creating a Safe Space for Exploration

Safety in coaching isn’t just physical; it’s emotional and psychological. When clients feel safe, they’re more willing to take look at what seems risky, take action, make mistakes as part of learning, and explore new possibilities.


Remember, this post isn’t about having the perfect words but about pointing towards a shared experience that, even when words seem insufficient, can be profoundly felt. It’s about fostering a space where both you and your client can connect deeply, explore freely, and achieve the seemingly impossible.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Shine: Thought-Provoking Questions for Coaches

A black background has a single lit candle in the centre of the image, with the flame giving out an orange glow of light. The text reads: "It’s better to light a candle than curse the darkness." (Proverb)

The quote of the day is:

“It’s better to light a candle than curse the darkness.” (Proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • What does this proverb prompt for you in connection to coaching?
  • If you were to shine a light as suggested in this proverb onto something to do with your coaching or coaching practice, what would that be?
  • How do you encourage clients that it is safe to shine a light into the darkness?
  • What small step, like lighting a candle, would make a huge difference to you, right now?

Bonus Questions

  • How can focusing on opportunities rather than obstacles help your coaching business grow?
  • What are some small steps you can take to bring more light into your life?
  • What does this proverb prompt for you in reference to coaching?
  • What if you were the light that could shine?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Questions on Embracing the Silence: Enhancing Conversations and Coaching

A tranquil image of still water stretching out to the horizon. Occasionally a smooth stone is sticking out above the water line. The text reads: "Don't speak unless you can improve on the silence." (Spanish proverb)

The quote of the day is:

“Don’t speak unless you can improve on the silence.” (Spanish proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • What does it mean to you to “improve on the silence” in a conversation with others and with yourself?
  • How do you handle situations where speaking may not be necessary?
  • How can you empower clients to find their voice while respecting the importance of silence?
  • How can you use silence as a tool for reflection and introspection?

Bonus Questions

  • What insights arise when you take a moment of silence before responding to this question?
  • What have you noticed about choices you make when your mind is quieter and when your mind is noisy?
  • How do you address clients’ discomfort with silence during coaching sessions?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.