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Step Up As A Coach By Leveraging Your Weaknesses 1

 in Guest Post  tagged belief / coach / Frederique Murphy / impact / limiting belief / mindset / perfect / weakness

Mindset strategist Frederique Murphy returns in today’s guest post to share some thoughts around a common belief many coaches have:

Step Up As A Coach By Leveraging Your Weaknesses

By Frederique Murphy

"Step Up As A Coach By Leveraging Your Weaknesses" By Frederique Murphy

As a coach, working with other coaches and professionals in the service industry, such as consultants, speakers, trainers, and also corporate executives, I hear, and coach clients on this one belief that comes up again and again: “I must be perfect in order to help others.”

Can you relate?

I know that this is something that I once believed, and still from time to time, I’m reminded of it, usually when I am about to step up to a higher level.

Before we continue, let’s be clear on a few things:

  • this belief is not true,
  • this belief is what we call a “limiting belief”, as in holding onto it limits you, your capabilities, and your overall success, and
  • believing this is not abnormal: you are not the only one, who has ever believed in this.

I’d even go so far as to say that believing in this belief shows what type of coach you are, and that it is a rite of passage, and one that you can let go of when you are ready to step up. You see, when you believe in this, I see that you care, and you care for your clients, wanting to serve them to the best of your abilities. And, what I want to show you is that by tweaking that belief, you will care even more, and you will serve your clients even more.

Here is what we are going to do: we are going to imagine that you are perfect, and see how it is working for you.

As a perfect coach, when a client needs you, you can draw on your expertise to coach them. You know what technique will work, which pattern to use, what tool to leverage. And, yes, it will probably work.

But, I have a question for you: What makes your approach any different from any other perfect coach out there, who more than likely would pick the same technique, the same pattern, the same tool?
The answer is nothing.

So, how do YOU stand out?

You stand out thanks to your imperfections.

Let me explain…
Your imperfection makes you you; it enables you to connect at a deeper level with your clients. You see, what you once saw as weaknesses – for instance, when you failed at something, or tried to do something many times before you finally succeeded, actually is called experience.

And, experience makes you stand out.

There is nothing short of beautiful that happens when you combine both your expertise and your experience.

Because as a coach, when something happens to you, you, more than anyone else out there, learn from it, and will find a way to leverage this experience to work for you.

So that, when you are coaching this client, and he or she has this specific issue that you actually had too as you experienced that challenge too, yes, you will know, what technique will work, which pattern to use, what tool to leverage, AND you will be able to add your personal experience, because you’ve been there. In that instant, the connection with your client becomes stronger, and the coaching smoother and more impactful.

What you once saw as weaknesses can now be seen as strengths.

Strengths that will help you stand out and step up as a coach.

What do you think? What weaknesses of yours can you transform into wonderful strengths to assist you in your coaching? I’d love for you to share; this will be helpful for the other coaches. Comment below (and, you’ll see I’ve commented first, sharing some of my personal weaknesses)!

About Frederique Murphy

Frederique MurphyFrederique Murphy is a mindset strategist, who specialises in the areas of Inspirational Strategy, Leadership, Communication, Change, Impact, and Achievement. Thanks to her Mountain Moving Mindset platform, Frederique provides individuals, corporate executives, and entrepreneurs with a wealth of mindset resources to help them strategise with vision, design with clarity, act with focus, and lead with momentum.

She shares her M3 Power through her transformational range of innovative products, coaching services, #1 Amazon Best Seller book, award-winning blog, articles and newsletters, unforgettable keynotes and talks, and life-changing events. She believes in guiding her clients through unforgettable journeys towards their own true wealth as they become the true leaders of their life, career and business. For more information on Frederique’s transformational range, visit FrederiqueMurphy.com, join the free M3 Power Community, and start climbing now!

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“Dear money, thank you for . . . .”

 in Guest Post  tagged belief / coach / finance / grateful / Helen Collier / money / thank you

In today’s guest post coach Helen Collier shares a personal thank you ….

“Dear money, thank you for . . . .” By Helen Collier

“Dear money, thank you for . . . .”

By Helen Collier

Yesterday, just before I sat down to write this blog post, a prompt dropped into my inbox. It asked ‘If you were to write a thank you letter to money what would you say?’

What an intriguing question. What would I say? Would it be like one of those countless letters I wrote to my aunts thanking them for the talcum powder, done out of duty rather than real appreciation? What on earth would I say to money if I was thanking it. Here’s what I said:

Dear Money

I’m writing this to say thank you for all the great gifts you’ve given me over the years.

I can’t remember you at all for the first few years of my life. You must have been there, no matter how much or how little.

Then the memories start to return.

In my early years there wasn’t a lot of you around. I’m not sure at what point I began to notice this. The people around me all seemed to have the same amount of money. Or did they? There was a fear in the background. (How will we manage? You’ve not paid your stamp! I do my best! There’s a baby on the way.)

All hazy thoughts of the messages that seemed to relate to you. But what were you doing? You were just there. Sometimes more of you (my horse has come in), sometimes less of you (there’s never enough). And here I am.

I have such lovely memories of you. You bought us treats on Saturday night. It was amazing what we could get for 5 shillings (25p) to satisfy the sweet tooth of 5 children and 2 adults. Walnut whip, sherbet lemons, pear drops, chocolate éclairs. You were always there for those Saturday Nights. Thanks for the memories and the tastes.

You felt wonderful as someone passed a piece of you to me on that Whit Sunday Walk. I pushed you into the palm of my hand inside my glove. As the walk continued my glove filled up with money.

I can feel it now. Too much money for a little girl to hold in her hand alone.

When did I realise I could trade you for an Ice Cream and that it could taste so good? When did I move from saying to the second person that gave me a coin,

‘It’s all right I’ve got one already’(how sweet),

to getting really excited and wondering when I’d get the next one, in anticipation of that ice cream? (How greedy) Was it you that was different or was it me as I learned my money dance? Money gets you things (shouldn’t want things). Money, you were just there, sometimes less of you sometimes more of you. Thank you for the delicious ice cream!

The way you slipped into the little charity envelopes, one coin into each of the seven pockets. I loved the feel (money’s tight, there’s not enough). But there you were and there was I and this was helping the children of Africa (good girl).

Thank you money for simply feeling so lovely and snug in those envelope pockets.

In teenage years I began to see that some people had more than others (There’s those that have and those that don’t. We don’t. Can’t change it. That’s how it is. Mustn’t want things, Make do, Must pay your way).

Such shame that I had a second hand uniform. Such shame that I felt shame that I had a second hand uniform (What about the children in Africa?). Such shame that children in Africa didn’t even have a school uniform. Where were you then? You were there, and I was there, and the children in Africa were there.

Do you know money, I need to say a heartfelt thank you for being there in my life – no matter how much, no matter how little, no matter what.

On my way to financial independence, saving for my first ‘grown up’ holiday. One envelope for each expense. One for the travel, one for the B and B, one for spending, one for food. Sixteen by now and I still loved the play part of money. The ordering it, sorting it, anticipation of something good to come. Pride that I was earning and saving it myself. Yet more experiences and learning. Thank you money.

That was the early years and then I got big! It was harder to see you as simply being there. It was easier to adsorb the messages that surrounded you.

People like us don’t have money. If you have money you’re not like us. The only way a working man can get any money is a win on the pools. You have to work hard for your money.

A confusion of messages

Do well. I want more for you. Work to be worthy. Don’t accept gifts of money. Don’t deserve it. If you’ve got money then you’re not us.

More guilt, more shame, more battles, more rebellion. Where were you money? You were just there in different amounts in different places. Thank you money for being there in my life.

In the last few years I’ve been doing more learning and leaning on you. Thank you for being there to support me. There’s still lots to disentangle and I’m seeing more and more that you are simply there as people weave their stories around you. I’m seeing you as a money maypole around which we all dance. With different levels of money, skill, knowledge, understanding, emotion and awareness. Hence the knots, clumps and tangles. Our practical, emotional and spiritual messes around the maypole money.

You’ve been caught and tied up by my mind, my heart and my soul. You’ve tolerated the distortions I’ve woven around you. Thank you for being there no matter how much, no matter how little.

Thank you for continuing to let me dismantle the knots I’ve tied around you so that you can take up your rightful place in my life, no more, no less. Just there.

Helen

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The prompt came from me! It is one of my ‘Money Prompts to your Inbox’ series. I wasn’t expecting it to land just at that moment! There it was right in front of me, it just seemed right and ripe for this blog.

Writing that letter, this week, showed me just what progress I have made personally in getting money into its rightful place in my life, no more, no less.

As a money coach I help clients explore their relationship with money so they too can begin to untie the knots they’ve created around money and give money its rightful place, no more, no less.

So, use it how you will and maybe write that letter yourself. I’d love to hear about it.

About Helen Collier

Helen Collier is a money coach working with clients around money issues, focusing on relationship and money. She trained with the Money Coaching Institute in California. Helen developed Harmoney as a direct response to her growing disquiet that something was out of balance in the financial world. She set an intention to play her part by supporting people to put money in its rightful place in their lives, no more, no less. Helen writes a weekly column for the Yorkshire Evening News and blogs regularly.

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How To Make It Rain Money

 in Guest Post  tagged Anja Schuetz / belief / business coach / business coaching / charging / client / clients / coach / coaches / coaching / coaching courses / coaching qualifications / coaching skills / coaching techniques / coaching training / executive coach / leadership coaching / life coach / life coaches / life coaching / money / nlp coach / performance coaching / personal coach / personal development

Coach Anja Schuetz shares her experience and knowledge in today’s guest post:

Money in dollar sign falling from sky in dark night

How To Make It Rain Money

by Anja Schuetz

I grew up in communism where religion and any kind of belief system were suppressed and discouraged.

After the wall came down and I grew up and got to travel the world, I was able to look at different cultures, beliefs, traditions and superstitions from the outside, with curiosity and respect, and without any judgment.

I noticed that beliefs come from either conditioning (upbringing) or choice. Either someone “told us a story” or we’ve been telling a story to ourselves.

I saw how beliefs could be inspiring and comforting, or limiting and guilt instilling.

When I realized I had a choice, I decided to go for inspiring and comforting! I started to believe in a friendly universe; a universe that wants to partner up and co-create with me and help me reach my full potential. All I have to do is show up like I mean it!

As soon as I started to really commit to what I wanted, the universe started doing its part, too: it opened my eyes to opportunities I didn’t see before and I “magically” met the right people who helped me move forward – either through important information or contacts.

Since then, I question my own limiting beliefs and choose better ones all the time, in order to create more magic in my life:

  • “You can’t teach at a university if you never went to university yourself!” Says who? Watch me!
  • “You can’t start a business in a financial crisis!” Oh yeah? Let’s see if that’s true!
  • “Walking under a ladder brings bad luck!” Who ever made THAT up? I say, “It’s raining money on me when I walk under a ladder!” And I will seek out ladders to walk under! And it usually does rain money on me a few days later, because I choose to believe it and I show my commitment by confidently walking under them and imagining the feeling of catching thousands of Euro notes flying around me!

Beliefs are stories that we (or someone else) made up – not always based on real evidence. Some people may have real and solid evidence for their beliefs, but we can’t simply copy and paste their beliefs on us. What’s real for them may not apply to us. That’s why – if we feel stuck in a certain area of our life – we need to question our beliefs! We need to really look at what evidence has shown up in our life. And if we notice there isn’t any real evidence and those beliefs are not serving us any longer, we need to make up better ones! It’s as simple as that!

I know… simple doesn’t mean easy! It can be a big deal to let go of a conditioning we’ve been brought up with and lived by for our whole life! Beliefs can be super sticky – whether it’s harmless little superstitions or big, essential philosophies that have become part of our identity (and even that is only a belief).

But – as with everything – it just takes practice. Start with the little superstitions and practice letting go of them, or even better – turn them around! Use them for something good!

Are you really circling around ladders because you have solid evidence that walking under them brings bad luck? Have you verified that myth or did you just subscribe to it without questioning and allowed it to become a habit? What if you decided it brings good luck instead?

Do you really believe breaking a mirror brings seven years of bad luck? Do you believe saying Happy Birthday a day too early brings bad luck? Do you believe missing that one bowling pin brings seven years of bad sex??

My guess is you don’t really believe in all of that. My guess however is also, that when it happens to you or to someone else, you say something like, “Uh-oh! Seven years of bad luck!” And you might not even mean it, but words are powerful. Even if you don’t wholeheartedly believe in them, repeating them re-affirms those statements and registers them somewhere in the depths of your subconscious, and you never know in what ways they might be holding you back.

It’s time to re-frame and reaffirm positive, inspiring beliefs instead!

Next time you’ll see a black cat crossing the street – what will you choose to believe it means? It could mean that good news is around the corner for you! And if the cat walks in the opposite direction, how will that be even better for you?

Your beliefs are all yours! Make them fun and inspiring and have them serve you and others!

About Anja Schuetz

Anja Schuetz is a Personal Coach for Thirty-Something women, and a Customer Service consultant. Her 5-week online community course “The Supergirl’s Moneycure” starts on June 8 and will offer a mix of money magic, math and manifestation! It will also strengthen your “receiving muscles”. Get a pre-chapter here: http://anjaschuetz.net/moneycure and follow Anja on http://facebook.com/virtualanja