Love expands when it moves through us, not when we wait for it to return.
“There are more people who wish to be loved than there are who are willing to love.” (Nicolas Chamfort)
It’s easy to long for love, to want to be seen, understood, and valued.
But sometimes in that longing, we forget the simple act of giving love freely, without waiting for it to come back in equal measure.
The willingness to love first, to open our hearts even when it feels uncertain, often reveals that the love we were searching for was never outside us to begin with.
It’s already here, waiting to move through us.
Love doesn’t need to be earned or reciprocated to exist.
It’s a state of being that grows each time we allow it to flow, through kindness, through listening, through simply being present.
Questions For Coaches
- Where do you notice yourself waiting to feel loved before allowing love to flow?
- What changes when you approach a client, colleague, or friend from the feeling of love rather than the thought of being loving?
- How does love show up in your coaching, even when it isn’t named?
- What becomes possible when you stop keeping score of where love begins and ends?
You don’t need to answer every question, just notice which one feels alive for you.
About Jen Waller
Jen Waller helps people reconnect with the quiet steadiness of love that already lives within them.
Her coaching offers a space to see beyond striving for love, toward simply being it.