Yearly Archives: 2024


Wise Questions: Navigating Popular Opinion and Personal Insight

A simply drawn image in black and white of a gauge with a curved band above. The pointer is pointing straight up. Below, the scale is marked TRUTH - LIE.
A quote above reads: "If forty million people say a foolish thing it does not become a wise one, but the wise man is foolish to give them the lie." (W. Somerset Maugham)

Today’s quote of the day is:

“If forty million people say a foolish thing it does not become a wise one, but the wise man is foolish to give them the lie.” (W. Somerset Maugham)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How can clients discern wisdom from widely accepted beliefs/trends?
  • How has trusting your own perspective over popular opinion shaped your decisions?
  • How do you balance your own wisdom with feedback from clients/peers?
  • How do you create a safe space for clients to explore & challenge societal beliefs?

Bonus Questions:

  • What role does wisdom play in deciding when to challenge societal norms or when to let them pass?
  • In what areas of your life do you find yourself conforming to popular opinion without questioning it?
  • What strategies help you make decisions that are in line with your business vision, despite popular opinion?
  • How do you ensure that your coaching approach is based on personal insight rather than just prevailing trends?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Questions for Coaches: Guiding the Soul’s Travel Through Curiosity and Discovery

The image features a black-and-white profile of a child's face, superimposed with an illustration of a brain and nervous system, as if seen through the head. Surrounding the head is a digital network of interconnected lines and dots, symbolizing thought processes and neural connections. Above the image is the quote:
"The soul begins to travel when the child begins to think."
(Agnes Repplier)

The quote of the day:

“The soul begins to travel when the child begins to think.” (Agnes Repplier)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you encourage clients to reconnect with their childlike curiosity in their personal growth journey?
  • When was the last time you felt a deep sense of wonder or awe, and what did it teach you?
  • In what ways does nurturing curiosity in clients help you grow as a coach?
  • How do you help clients balance logical thinking with intuitive, soulful exploration?

Bonus Questions:

  • What role does innate wisdom play in your coaching conversations about self-discovery
  • How can encouraging clients to embrace a beginner’s mindset transform their outlook on life?
  • In what ways can cultivating a fresh perspective enhance strategic decision-making?
  • How can coaches create space for clients to explore the origins of their beliefs and values?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


The Power of Perception: How a Childhood Badge Became a Symbol of Magic

This made me smile recently.

For those who didn’t grow up in the UK, a little context: Blue Peter is a long-running British kids’ TV show (it’s been on air since the 1960s!) that awards badges as recognition for achievements or winning competitions.

When I was a kid, I didn’t personally know anyone who had one of these badges, but I was fascinated by the idea that badge winners could get into attractions across the country for free. I’m not sure if it’s still a big deal for kids today, but for those of us who grew up in the ’70s and ’80s, it definitely was!

What’s funny to me now is realising that the badge itself didn’t hold any magical powers—it was really what we thought it represented that made it feel so special. It’s a great reminder of how much meaning comes from our thinking about something and that perception, rather than the thing itself.

Here’s the clip that sparked my nostalgia:


Temptation or Intuition? Guiding Clients to Discern the Difference

A close-up shot of a shiny, red apple, perhaps partially obscured by a leaf.
The apple is positioned against a dark, mysterious background to create a sense of intrigue with dramatic lighting.
The text reads "All temptations are founded either in Hope or Fear." (Thomas Fuller)

The quote of the day is:

“All Temptations Are Founded Either in Hope or Fear” (Thomas Fuller)

Thomas Fuller (1608–1661) was an English historian and clergyman known for his wit and wisdom. His writings often reflect deep insights into human nature, making this quote particularly relevant for coaching conversations.

Temptation is a compelling force, often urging action before we’ve had time to reflect. Thomas Fuller’s observation highlights how hope and fear shape our decisions. As coaches, we frequently encounter clients caught between these forces—unsure whether their next move is a genuine step forward or a reaction driven by fear. How can we help them distinguish between an intuitive nudge and a fear-fuelled temptation?

Recognizing the Voice of Intuition

Intuition often feels like a calm, quiet sense of knowing. It doesn’t demand action, but gently encourages it. In contrast, fear-driven temptation tends to feel urgent and overwhelming, pushing clients toward decisions misaligned with their deeper values. Coaches can help clients pause and explore their inner dialogue.

Key Questions to Ask:

  • How does this decision feel in your body? Calm or tense?
  • If fear wasn’t a factor, would you still choose this path?
  • What would happen if you waited a little longer before acting?

These questions help clients differentiate between impulsive reactions and thoughtful, intuitive responses.

The Role of Hope

Hope is a powerful motivator but can sometimes be mistaken for wishful thinking. When driven by hope, clients often feel expansive and motivated. Yet hope can also lead to temptations that aim to escape discomfort rather than pursue meaningful growth.

Exploring Hope with Clients:

  • What future are you envisioning? Does it align with who you’re becoming?
  • Are you pursuing this path because it excites you or feels like the only option?
  • How does this hope connect to what you would love?

When grounded in purpose, hope can inspire courageous action. When fuelled by avoiding pain, it may divert clients from what truly matters.

The Fear Trap

Fear often disguises itself as practicality or necessity, insisting that clients “must” act now to avoid loss. Recognising this pattern is crucial for breaking free from fear-driven decisions.

Strategies to Uncover Fear:

  • Encourage clients to name their fears. What’s the worst that could happen?
  • Consider the long-term impact. Will this choice still matter in a year?
  • Explore alternative perspectives. Could fear be clouding judgment?

When clients acknowledge their fearful thinking, they often find clarity and courage on the other side.

Intuition as a Guide

A common outcome I see in coaching is clients learning to recognise and trust their inner wisdom. Intuition is a gift available to all of us. By distinguishing between hope, fear, and intuition, clients make choices with greater confidence and authenticity.

Final Reflection

Temptation often disguises itself as urgency, practicality, or even hope, making it difficult to discern from genuine intuition. Helping clients navigate this distinction can be transformative. By guiding them to pause, reflect, and listen to their inner wisdom, we empower them to make choices rooted in clarity and authenticity.

How do you guide clients to distinguish between intuitive nudges and fear-driven temptations? Is this distinction relevant in your coaching practice? I believe this question can spark rich conversations, helping clients tune into their deeper knowing, you guide them beyond the pull of hope or fear and toward their true path.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world.

If this post has intrigued you or sparked questions about distinguishing between fear, hope, and intuition in your decisions, Jen offers a supportive space to explore these insights further. Connect with her to discover how transformative coaching can guide you toward clarity, confidence, and empowered choices

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Noticing The Quiet And Silence With a Scale of Self Compassion – Coaching From the Soul

Coaching From The Soul: A Glimpse into Self Compassion

Here’s a short clip from our Coaching From The Soul live stream on November 6th. Every 3-4 weeks, I join some of my coaching colleagues for an open, insightful conversation exploring what it means to be human.

In this session, we began by discussing self-compassion and reflecting on where we each place ourselves on a self-compassion scale. This clip offers a glimpse into that part of the discussion.

How to Watch More Coaching From The Soul

If you’re curious to see where this conversation led, you can watch the full live stream here.

We’d love for you to join us for our next live call!
📅 When: Wednesday, 18th December
Time: 6:15 PM UK Time

Tune in to see what fresh insights and topics come up this month.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


What If You Didn’t Have to Be Perfect?

A beautiful thing is never perfect. 600 x 400

The quote of the day is actually a proverb:

“A beautiful thing is never perfect.” (Egyptian Proverb)

Isn’t it funny what we can do to ourselves with busy thinking? Sometimes, our minds create an endless loop of judgment, striving, and assumptions about how things should be. And often, perfectionism is at the heart of it.

Perfectionism, to me, seems like a lot of thinking. It’s fuelled by the assumption that things could always be better than they are right now. While the idea of improvement isn’t inherently bad, perfectionism often carries a sense of “not enough”—a constant inner critic pointing out what’s wrong or incomplete.

But what if we didn’t have to carry the heavy weight of assumptions about how things should be? What if we’re not inherently broken? What if, ironically, we’re already perfect just the way we are? Not perfect in the sense of flawlessness, but perfect in our wholeness, our humanity, and our capacity for growth.

Does this mean striving for improvement is wrong? Not at all. There’s a world of difference between moving forward with curiosity and intention versus mentally beating yourself up with judgment and self-criticism.

When I reflect on the Egyptian proverb, A beautiful thing is never perfect, I’m reminded of the richness in imperfection. The cracks, quirks, and so-called flaws often hold the most meaning. They make something real, alive, and uniquely ours.

What would it be like to live from that perspective? To see yourself as whole and complete right now, even as you continue to grow and evolve? What if, instead of striving for perfection, you simply allowed yourself to be?

How would your life change if you really didn’t have to be perfect? How would your relationships shift, your work, or your sense of well-being? What could that look like?

And if you’re a coach, what impact would really seeing this have for you and your clients? Imagine what could open up for someone if they stopped chasing an impossible standard and instead embraced the idea that they’re enough exactly as they are.

Perhaps the greatest irony of all is that in letting go of the relentless pursuit of perfection, we might discover we’ve been enough all along. Perfection was never required to create beauty, connection, or joy.

So, what if perfection wasn’t the goal, but rather an invitation to see the beauty that’s already here—within us and around us? What if, instead of focusing on fixing ourselves, we noticed what’s already whole?

Maybe, just maybe, we’re already more than we thought we needed to be.

If all this feels like a step too far for you right now, I invite you to play with taking a more compassionate perspective toward yourself and seeing where that leads. And remember—you don’t have to be perfect at letting go of perfectionist thinking either. It’s simply nice to know that you don’t have to hold on to those thoughts to still be whole underneath.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.

If today’s reflections on perfectionism resonated with you, reach out to explore how coaching can create space for new insights and possibilities.


Simplicity: Discovering the Real Meaning of Things

The image features a background of soft yellow and light green tones, evoking the feeling of a sunny autumn day. On the left, a thin branch extends, holding several leaves in various autumn shades of orange, yellow, and green. The quote by Constantin Brâncuși is displayed in black text on the right:"Simplicity is not a goal, but one arrives at simplicity in spite of oneself, as one approaches the real meaning of things."

The quote of the day is:

“Simplicity is not a goal, but one arrives at simplicity in spite of oneself, as one approaches the real meaning of things.” (Constantin Brâncuși)

Constantin Brâncuși, one of the most influential sculptors of the 20th century, believed in stripping away the unnecessary to reveal the essence of his subjects. For me, his words point to simplicity isn’t something we chase; it’s what remains when we peel back the layers and connect with deeper truths. These truths aren’t always hidden—they’re often right in front of us. Yet, in our rush to understand and solve, we sometimes overlook them.

In coaching and personal growth, I often think of an insight as seeing something new—a fresh understanding or perspective. Sometimes, it’s subtle, like noticing a different way of responding to a familiar situation. Other times, it feels profound, as though the whole structure of my understanding has shifted. What’s consistent, though, is this: the closer I get to these deeper truths about how we function as human beings, the more I find myself saying, “Oh, it can be even simpler than I was making it.”

The Deeper Truths Beneath Complexity

Life can feel complicated, and it’s easy to assume that complexity is inherent to solving problems or making progress. But when I look more closely, I often see that complexity is something I’ve added—through layers of overthinking, analysing, or trying to control outcomes I’ve no way of actually being able to control. Beneath that complexity lies something far simpler: the deeper truths that govern how we experience life.

As I see it, one of these truths is that our thoughts create our experience of our reality. What I mean by that, is that our experience isn’t determined by circumstances themselves, but by how we interpret them. This understanding doesn’t just simplify life—it transforms it. Suddenly, I don’t have to fix everything in the outside world to feel at peace. Instead, I can look inward, look to the underlying quiet and recognise that clarity often comes when I stop wrestling with my thoughts.

The Present Moment as a Gateway

Another truth I’ve seen is that simplicity often arises when I’m present—when I’m here, in this moment, instead of lost in stories about the past or projections about the future. Being present allows me to step outside the loops of mental effort and see life as it is, without the filters of worry or judgment. In this space, the unnecessary drops away, revealing what truly matters.

And here’s the paradox: the intellect, as useful as it is, often makes things more complicated in its attempts to solve or control. But when I’m present, I’m no longer relying solely on intellect. I’m tapping into a deeper intelligence, an innate wisdom —one that works effortlessly, providing insights and solutions that feel obvious in hindsight. This is where the real meaning of things often becomes clear.

Simplicity and the Real Meaning of Things

Simplicity, then, isn’t something to be forced or achieved. It’s what emerges naturally when we align with these deeper truths. It’s the clarity that comes from understanding how our minds work and from being present with life as it unfolds. This doesn’t mean life is always easy or straightforward. Challenges and uncertainties are part of the human experience. But even in those moments, simplicity is available—not as a goal, but as a by-product of seeing life more clearly.

So today, I invite you to pause and reflect: What truths about life or yourself might already be present, waiting to be uncovered? Where might you be adding complexity that isn’t needed? And what might you see differently if you allowed yourself to step back and simply be?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Questions on Anger: Navigating Forgiveness and Trust in Coaching

The image shows a vibrant sunset or sunrise sky, transitioning from soft blue and purple hues at the top to warm orange and yellow tones near the horizon. The quote is centred in black text and reads: "He that advised thee not to let the Sun set in thine anger, did not command thee to trust a deceiving Enemy next Morning." The quote is attributed to Thomas Fuller.

The quote of the day is:

“He that advised thee not to let the Sun set in thine anger, did not command thee to trust a deceiving Enemy next Morning.” (Thomas Fuller)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you support clients in understanding the difference between letting go of resentment and trusting someone untrustworthy?
  • How does learning to forgive without being naïve empower you to maintain healthier relationships?
  • If it was OK to forgive yourself, what does that prompt?

Bonus Questions:

  • How do you decide when to let go of anger and when to take a stand for yourself?
  • What impact does holding onto anger have on your ability to make clear judgments about others?
  • Is there a “right” amount of time that needs to pass before you can forgive?
  • What does this quote prompt for you?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.