Coaching Quote of the Day 25th April 2011
“Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.”
(Mignon McLaughlin)
“Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.”
(Mignon McLaughlin)
“I care not so much what I am to others as what I am to myself. I will be rich by myself, and not by borrowing.”
(Michel de Montaigne)
“Today’s gratitude buys tomorrow’s happiness.”
(Michael McMillan)
In this week’s Friday guest post Lenny Deverill-West, returns for a second time. This week he shares his thoughts and knowledge about memory and how new discoveries in neuroscience can be helpful to coaches and change workers.
by Lenny Deverill-West
I am still blown away at the amazing results coaching and many other types of change work get. And for a long time I had no idea why or how what many of the techniques and approaches, like coaching, NLP and hypnosis really worked. Of course I had all the metaphorical explanations, which I was given, but at the time no one really knew exactly what was really happening in the brain and why people changed?
It was explained to me once that it was like the brain is a black box and we don’t know what happens in the black box. At one end we can use suggestions, coaching or techniques and what come out of the black box, is the result, which gives us clues weather what we are doing is having the desired effect.
And you can work this way and still be a coaching or therapy genius. For a long time I did this learned what worked and what didn’t work and often acted intuitively sometimes with no idea as to why used a certain technique or asked a specific question. I just sort of knew what I had chosen to do would probably work.
However, we really do live in exciting times where neuroscientists are making discoveries in how the brain really works which can provide us with an understanding to help us use our skills even more effectively.
One of discoveries in neuroscience that really made a difference to the way I work is reconsolidation theory.
Reconsolidation theory came from some experiments in memory consolidation by researchers Joseph LeDoux and Karim Nader.
In this article Ledoux describes the tradition understanding of the mechanics of memory (consolidation)
“Most neuroscientists, myself included, believed that a new memory, once consolidated into long-term storage, is stable. It’s as if every long-term memory had its own connections in the brain. Each time you retrieve the memory, or remembered, you retrieved that original memory, and then returned it.
Reconsolidation theory proposed a radically different idea—that the very act of remembering could change the memory.”
Ledoux and Nader researched this theory with a series of experiments on laboratory rats. The rats had been conditioned to associate a darken box with an electric shock and very quickly the rats learned to avoid the box, and became fearful and froze each time the box is introduced. When the rats where given a drug that prevented them from creating short term memories, the rats still feared the darkened box, because it was now in their long term memory and remained stable.
However if the rats were shown box just before they were given the drug, the rats would lose their conditioned response, they a forgotten that they were scared of it and the memory had been erased.
Our brains record an experience by firing of a sequence of neurons, which leaves them connected. This memory trace becomes more permanent as synapses connect it with other parts of the brain. This memory pattern is built deep in parts of the brain like the hippocampus and eventually migrates out in cortex.
What Reconsolidation Theory shows us is that not only do memories move from the hippocampus to the cortex during consolidation, but are also returned back to the hippocampus by calling them, at this point they become unstable and can be changed, in effect memory is plastic.
It’s a bit like opening a new word document on your computer so you can see it on the screen and then typing on to the new page. Consolidation could be likened to then saving the document to your hard drive.
Reconsolidation would be like opening this document from your hard drive so it appears on your screen at this point you can change the document so when you save it, it will disappear from your screen and be saved in your hard drive.
As coaches and change workers many of the problems we help our clients with, will often to be connected to how they perceive past events in their life, because our brains like certainty and will quickly create behavioural patterns to maintain this.
It’s pretty cool that when we recall a memory that is the reference experience for a problem we have later in life, the possibility exist to change the meaning of that experience so it is no longer a problem.
So if you’re working with a client with a memory or belief that is a problem for them in someway then here’s some ideas of you can use this.
Lenny Deverill-West is a Cognitive Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Coach and Corporate Trainer based in Southampton.
Lenny spends most his time seeing clients at his Southampton practice and is also developing trainings courses and Hypnotherapy products that are due out early next year. For more information about Lenny Deverill-West visit www.startlivingtoday.co.uk.
Read Lenny’s first guest post from 2010 here.
“Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable.”
(Melody Beattie)
“Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.”
(Mary Kay Ash)
One of the “models” that a training department I used to work with was Comfort, Stretch and Panic Zones. If you have not come across that model it is usually explained using 3 circles, all with the same centre but increasing in size.
The smallest circle is normally labelled your comfort zone. With this model you put things that are part of your every day life that you do naturally, possibly even without thinking about them. As the label suggests, it is the items that you are comfortable doing that “fit” into this section.
The middle ring is normally labelled your Stretch zone. This is where things that are not part of your everyday life and/or that you are not so comfortable doing fit. It’s things that stretch your skills, capabilities and perhaps even your attitude to carry out.
The outer ring is the panic zone. This is the area where it moves from just stretching your capabilities and moves into one of panic.
In a learning context you may have found that you are encouraged to work by moving into that state of stretch – one that challenges your abilities and away from comfort.
However, the approach with this model that I don’t hear mentioned as much is one that brings an activity into a client’s comfort zone. Or even one where they are comfortable “playing” with a new approach or capabilities.
Personally, I don’t think any approach is “right or wrong” in general. I do think that some approaches will be preferred, easier and work quicker for some individuals than others. Surely the important bit is the one that is used is one that works for the person using it 😉
In case anyone is reading this and thinking “but I’m a coach not a trainer” – For me this is a model about learning not training. It’s not outside the realm of possibility that a coaching client will turn to a coach for support with something that they feel is currently a stretch for them.
So the question I invite you to consider today is:
As a coach, how you are stretching your clients?
“Nothing is more revealing than movement.”
(Martha Graham)