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The Power of Stillness: Listening for the Soul’s Whispers

An image of still water. Light reflects upon the front of this image. The text reads. "Only in the stillness of detachment can the soul yield up her secrets." (Elsa Barker)

The quote of the day is:

“Only in the stillness of detachment can the soul yield up her secrets.” (Elsa Barker)

Have you ever noticed that the most profound moments of clarity often come when you stop striving for them? I think that is what Elsa Barker, an early 20th-century poet, is pointing towards with this quote.

Stillness. It’s one of those experiences that can feel impossible to describe. So much of what we attempt to capture about stillness, presence, or the soul often relies on language—yet language struggles to define what has no real form. Words simply don’t do justice to the experience.

When I reflect on Elsa Barker’s phrase, “the stillness of detachment,” I understand what she’s pointing toward, but something about the word detachment doesn’t quite fit for me. The feeling of that word doesn’t quite match that experience.

For me, detachment implies disconnection, a sense of being removed from what’s around me. But the stillness I experience feels anything but disconnected. It’s alive and aware, deeply present yet unbothered by my usual thinking, which quiets down almost effortlessly. It seems so vast and yet so intimate and personal at the same time.

It’s in this space—where the noise of thought fades—that the soul and its presence become easier to notice. There’s a sense of grounded calm, of being in the moment without striving to have to figure it all out. It can seem that from here special secrets are being revealed.

But perhaps detachment, in this sense, isn’t about isolation or disconnection. It feels different—it’s gentler, more like a release What if detachment, in this context, isn’t about disconnection at all? What if it’s about letting go—of control, of outcomes, of needing to know? When we let go, stillness has a way of rising naturally, and in that stillness, the soul whispers its truths.

There are times when it seems that you are being shared beautiful truths, something precious being surrendered, as if you are being trusted with something of immense value. Things so gorgeous that you well up with emotion. Then there are secrets that when whispered just seem so obvious that you adapt them into your life without giving it another thought – almost as if it always looked that way to you.

It seems to me that when we allow our thoughts to settle, we tap into a natural stillness. It’s not something we create—it’s always there, waiting for us. When the mind quiets, clarity and wisdom often follow effortlessly.

Elsa Barker’s words remind us that the soul’s truths are often revealed not through effort but in moments of stillness. Perhaps the invitation is not to chase these moments of stillness but to notice them when they arrive—trusting that the soul will reveal what you’re ready to hear. Where might stillness already be waiting for you today?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach who helps people reconnect with their inner wisdom and get out of their own way to live the life they would love. With nearly 20 years of coaching experience, Jen works from an inside-out perspective, guiding clients to discover clarity, calm, and creative solutions. She brings a depth of understanding to her writing, offering insights that invite reflection and fresh perspectives. When she’s not coaching, Jen enjoys walking dogs for The Cinnamon Trust, indulging in her love of theatre, and exploring popular science fiction.

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Wise Questions: Navigating Popular Opinion and Personal Insight

A simply drawn image in black and white of a gauge with a curved band above. The pointer is pointing straight up. Below, the scale is marked TRUTH - LIE.
A quote above reads: "If forty million people say a foolish thing it does not become a wise one, but the wise man is foolish to give them the lie." (W. Somerset Maugham)

Today’s quote of the day is:

“If forty million people say a foolish thing it does not become a wise one, but the wise man is foolish to give them the lie.” (W. Somerset Maugham)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How can clients discern wisdom from widely accepted beliefs/trends?
  • How has trusting your own perspective over popular opinion shaped your decisions?
  • How do you balance your own wisdom with feedback from clients/peers?
  • How do you create a safe space for clients to explore & challenge societal beliefs?

Bonus Questions:

  • What role does wisdom play in deciding when to challenge societal norms or when to let them pass?
  • In what areas of your life do you find yourself conforming to popular opinion without questioning it?
  • What strategies help you make decisions that are in line with your business vision, despite popular opinion?
  • How do you ensure that your coaching approach is based on personal insight rather than just prevailing trends?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Intuition Unseen: Coaching Questions about the Invisible

The image features a beautifully ethereal and colorful sky with fluffy clouds tinted in shades of purple, pink, and blue, conveying a dreamy and surreal atmosphere. The clouds are illuminated from behind or within, suggesting the presence of light not visible in the frame, which enhances the mystical and otherworldly feel of the image. Centered in this vibrant cloudscape is a quote by Confucius: "How abundantly do spiritual beings display the powers that belong to them! We look for them, but do not see them; we listen to, but do not hear them; yet they enter into all things, and there is nothing without them."

The quote of the day is:

“How abundantly do spiritual beings display the powers that belong to them! We look for them, but do not see them; we listen to, but do not hear them; yet they enter into all things, and there is nothing without them.” (Confucius)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How does this quote resonate with you?
  • What practices do you use to become more attuned to the subtle influences around you?
  • How can tuning into your intuition or inner guidance help you make better career choices?

Bonus Questions:

  • How do you align with the belief that spiritual insight is always present, even if not immediately perceivable?
  • What role, if any, does spirituality play in how you handle life’s challenges and uncertainties?
  • How do you guide clients to recognise that not everything of value is visible or immediately understood?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Listening to Your Inner Guide: Tuning Into Your Truest Self

The image features a stack of smooth, rounded stones carefully balanced on top of each other, forming a zen-like tower. These stones are placed on a rustic wooden surface, possibly part of an old bridge or a similar structure. The background is softly blurred, filled with a bokeh effect of shimmering light that creates a dreamy and serene ambiance. This setting evokes a sense of tranquility and harmony, suggesting a moment of quiet reflection or meditation. Above this peaceful scene, there's a quote by Jane Austen: "We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be."

The quote of the day is:

“We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.” (Jane Austen)

I don’t know about you, but when I’m truly in my element, working at my best, everything flows effortlessly. It’s not that there are no challenges, but rather that the next steps seem unmistakably clear. I just seem to know what to do, as if I’ve an inner guide pointing in the best direction.

Yet, there are times when I find myself preemptively strategizing about serious and important matters—times when I feel compelled to intellectually map out each move before taking action.

Although it may seem counterintuitive, it’s during these moments of flow that I tend to do my best work, and it’s certainly more enjoyable. This quote from Jane Austen captures what seems to me a universal truth often overlooked in our quest for direction and clarity: the most reliable source of guidance is nestled within us. In a world brimming with advice at the click of a button, it’s essential to remember that our inner wisdom holds unparalleled value. It also explains my experience of being in flow versus intellectually figuring things out.

Seeking Guidance Internally vs. Externally

It’s easy to seek guidance from external sources—friends, mentors, or even experts in various fields. While these sources can provide valuable perspectives, they often do not fully resonate with our unique experiences and internal truths. The path to genuine self-assurance and decision-making clarity lies in understanding and trusting the voice of our own inner guide.

So often, I find that when I listen to those nudges from my intuition, I end up taking routes that I would never have considered had I thought everything through logically in advance. It’s often like it acts as a trusted friend who can see the bigger picture and is pointing me in directions I just haven’t seen.

Intuition as a Natural Inner Guide

Intuition is often described as a gut feeling, a subtle guide that nudges us in the right direction when logical explanations fall short. There is often talk about learning to trust your intuition; I would suggest that the first step is simply to listen to your inner guide —you always have the choice of whether to follow it or not. The more I listen and notice, the more trust naturally follows. Trusting has never seemed like something that I had to “do.” At some stage, it just became obvious that I trusted those nudges I got.

As I type this, it seems to me that there are infinite depths to explore with this idea. By infinite, I simply mean that there is always more to see, more to expand into. So, I wouldn’t be at all surprised if, in the future, I have seen this at an even deeper level, that I would describe my trust as even stronger. But for now, I’m not going to judge where I am now and just keep listening—it seems a much more pleasant experience than any self-judgment thinking, making up, and comparing how I think this “should be.” So if, out of habit, you have innocently found yourself doing that—know that you don’t have to!

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


I do not know who sings my songs Before they are sung by me

A figure is stood holding a microphone dramatically up as if they are in the middle of a powerful moment singing. They are in silhouette as a bright spotlight is shining behind them with dry ice adding more to the dramatic atmosphere. The text reads: "I do not know who sings my songs Before they are sung by me." (Mary Hunter Austin)

The Quote of the Day is:

“I do not know who sings my songs Before they are sung by me.” (Mary Hunter Austin)

Questions For Coaches:

  • Can you identify moments in your life where insights or revelations seemed to come from a source beyond your conscious awareness?
  • How does this quote resonate with your approach to coaching?
  • How might coaching help clients cultivate a greater sense of trust in their own inner wisdom, intuition and creativity?

Bonus Questions

  • Can you recall a coaching session where a client’s journey of self-discovery seemed to be guided by an unseen source of wisdom or inspiration?
  • How do you navigate moments of unexpected insight or inspiration that arise during coaching sessions?
  • How do you support clients in trusting their instincts and following their inner guidance as they navigate challenges and opportunities?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer, Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Some Thoughts About First Thoughts

A dark grey/ black background with a wood grain effect. A white, empty thought bubble takes up the top right quarter of this image. The text reads: "First thoughts are not always the best." (Vittorio Alfieri)

Today’s quote is:

“First thoughts are not always the best.” (Vittorio Alfieri)

The key phrase in this quote for me is ‘always.’ That qualification is a valid point. Sometimes our first thoughts are merely a product of our current state of mind, influenced by transient factors that may not accurately reflect our deeper wisdom or truth. It’s not that they don’t serve a purpose – they can be great for ‘getting the ball rolling’ and seeing what else emerges.

When working with clients, it’s common to encounter situations where their initial thoughts lead them astray. Perhaps they react impulsively out of fear or uncertainty, making decisions that they later regret. Or maybe they hold onto limiting beliefs that cloud their judgment and hinder their progress. In these moments, Alfieri’s quote serves as a gentle reminder to pause, to step back from our initial reactions, and to explore alternative perspectives.

We can guide clients to tap into their innate capacity for insight and understanding. By quieting the noise of their busy minds and tuning into their deeper intuition, clients can access a reservoir of wisdom that transcends their initial reactions. It’s what’s pointed at by phrases such as ‘your gut reaction’ and ‘intuition.’

How do you tell the difference? For me, there’s a distinct feeling around that inner wisdom. If I take a moment to ask variations of ‘is that what I really want?,’ ‘is that true?,’ or ‘do I actually think that?,’ then many first thoughts are obvious ‘no’s,’ the product of a busy mind. Whereas, my own wisdom has a much more centred, calm knowing feel. There may not be a logical, well-thought-out, many-page reasoning behind it, but I just know.

Moreover, Alfieri’s quote reminds us of the dynamic nature of thought. Our thoughts are not static; they are fluid and ever-changing, influenced by a myriad of internal and external factors. What may seem like a clear and rational thought in one moment may evolve or dissolve upon closer examination. By embracing the fluidity of thought, clients can cultivate a mindset of openness and adaptability, allowing them to navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and resilience.

As coaches, we play a crucial role in supporting clients on their journey of self-discovery and growth. Rather than imposing our own judgments or assumptions onto clients, we hold space for them to explore their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism. We encourage them to trust in their innate capacity for insight and understanding, guiding them towards greater clarity and self-awareness.

In conclusion, Vittorio Alfieri’s quote serves as a powerful reminder for coaches and clients alike to approach their first thoughts with a sense of curiosity and discernment. By recognizing the transient nature of thought and tapping into our innate wisdom, we can navigate life’s challenges with greater clarity, resilience, and insight. Sometimes there’s wisdom in second thoughts, guiding our clients towards a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer, Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Life’s Whispers: Exploring Wisdom With Coaching

This is a scene of waves rolling up a beach with the sun setting in the distance. The text reads: "Life is the wave's deep whisper on the shore of a great sea beyond." (Henry Abbey)

Today’s quote is:

“Life is the wave’s deep whisper on the shore of a great sea beyond.” (Henry Abbey)

I think this quote beautifully captures the essence of life’s profound wisdom and interconnectedness. As a coach, I’ve found myself drawn to metaphors when talking about those invisible aspects, such as our own wisdom. Like the sea, with its vastness mirroring the depth of human experience, it helps to describe those things which we all refer to but can’t nip down to a local shop to buy, or physically put into a container. This quote, in particular, invites us to explore the whispers of life’s wisdom and their implications for our coaching journey.

So what is this quote pointing towards? For me, one aspect that jumped out at me was, what if life is not happening to us; it is happening through us? Just as the wave whispers its secrets to the shore, so too does life whisper its wisdom to us in every moment. When we listen deeply to this whisper, we open ourselves up to profound insights and understanding that can transform our coaching practice and our own lives.

The metaphor of the wave’s whisper speaks to the interconnectedness of all things—the ebb and flow of life, the rhythm of our thoughts and emotions, and the vastness of the human spirit. Just as the wave rises and falls in a dance with the sea, our thoughts and feelings also ebb and flow in a dynamic interplay of energy and our awareness.

Now, let’s consider how this quote’s imagery of life as a whisper on the shore of a great sea beyond can deepen our understanding of coaching. Just as the sea’s vastness mirrors the depth of human experience, coaching can also delve into the intricacies of our inner wisdom and interconnectedness. This quote serves as a poignant reminder of the profound insights awaiting us in our coaching journey

In my coaching, embracing the ebb and flow means recognizing the transient nature of our thoughts and emotions. Just as the wave eventually returns to the sea, our thoughts can also naturally dissipate and dissolve when we don’t hold onto them. By understanding the fluidity of thought, it helps us, and our clients, navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and resilience.

Moreover, the metaphor of the wave invites us to explore the deeper currents of consciousness—the vast sea beyond the surface of our thoughts. Beneath the surface noise of our minds lies a profound stillness and presence that is always available to us. By guiding and pointing my clients to tap into this deeper wisdom, my coaching can help them find clarity, peace, and purpose in the midst of life’s storms.

As coaches, we have the privilege of accompanying our clients on their journey of self-discovery and transformation. Just as the shore provides a stable anchor for the wave, so too can we offer a safe space for our clients to explore their innermost thoughts and feelings without judgment or fear.

The quote by Henry Abbey reminds us that life is not a destination; it is a journey—a journey of exploration, discovery, and growth. What does this quote point you towards? Does it resonate with your experience and approach to your coaching?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer, Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Finding Resilience: Lessons from Queen Victoria’s Wisdom

This image is split into two halves. On the left is a empty great hall with columns around the edges and giant arched windows behind a stage. All the lights are shining fully and seats either side of an aisle are all facing towards the stage.
The image on the right is of an office with a sindle desk with an empty chir in front of a computer. Papers and files are pilled everwhere , including on the floor and some of the boxes on shelves are stacked haphazardly.
The text reads: "Great events make me quiet and calm; it is only trifles that irritate my nerves." (Queen Victoria)

Happy Thursday! Today’s quote is:

“Great events make me quiet and calm; it is only trifles that irritate my nerves.” (Queen Victoria)

In what seems to many as today’s fast-paced world, where the constant barrage of information and stimuli can overwhelm even the most resilient among us, Queen Victoria’s words offer a timeless reminder of the power of perspective and resilience. Let us delve deeper into the wisdom encapsulated in this profound statement and explore how it can inform our approach to navigating the ups and downs of life.

At first glance, Queen Victoria’s assertion may seem paradoxical. How can someone remain serene and composed in the face of significant events while being easily perturbed by minor inconveniences? Yet, upon closer examination, her words reveal a profound truth about human nature: our responses to external circumstances are shaped by our internal perceptions and thinking.

Stormy seas

Consider the metaphor of a ship navigating through stormy seas. During moments of great turmoil and upheaval, when the waves are crashing against the hull and the winds are howling, the captain must remain steadfast and focused. It is in these moments of crisis that calmness and clarity of mind are most crucial, guiding the ship safely through the tempest. All the Captains attention is on focusing upon what is happening in that moment – there is little room to get caught up in thinking around other things or even what may happen in any time but the immediate future.

In much the same way, when confronted with major life events or challenges, we are called upon to summon our inner strength and resilience. Whether it be the loss of a loved one, a career setback, or a global crisis, maintaining a sense of quietude and calm can help us weather the storm with grace and dignity. It’s not uncommon for individuals to report, after experiencing a significant event, that they operated almost instinctively, without overthinking. This suggests that in moments of crisis, our natural response is to prioritise immediate action over complex thought processes – just focus upon that one thing in front of you.

Trifles

On the other hand, it is often the trifles—the things we can think of as petty annoyances and minor inconveniences—that have the power to unravel our composure and apparently disturb our peace of mind. From the frustration of being stuck in traffic to the irritation of a malfunctioning device, these seemingly insignificant disturbances can seem to chip away at our patience and resilience. We can get caught in loops of thinking, piling meaning and stories upon how we think about the original circumstance so that we end up feeling totally overwhelmed by our own thinking.

Perspective

So, what can we learn from Queen Victoria’s words, and how can we apply it to our own lives? One key insight is the importance of perspective. By recognizing the relative insignificance of trifles in the grand scheme of things, we can choose to respond to them with equanimity rather than allowing them to dictate our emotional state.

One way you could do that is by using that feeling of overwhelm as a type of alarm clock if you like, a reminder that any moment we can relax our metaphorical grip on all the pile of thinking we have going on and let that just evaporate so we can just see that original circumstance for what it is without all the extra baggage of story telling and thinking.

Resilience

Moreover, Queen Victoria’s words remind us of the power of resilience—the ability to bounce back from adversity and remain steadfast in the face of challenges. It’s often said that kids can bounce back so much faster from things than adults and I’d like to suggest that this is because we are all born with that ability, we just often get into the habbit of overthinking that we forget that at any moment we can relax back into that space of inner wisdom where it seems resilence comes from.

In essence, Queen Victoria’s quote serves as a poignant reminder of the value of maintaining perspective and resilience in the face of life’s challenges. By embracing her wisdom, we can cultivate a sense of calm amidst the chaos and navigate the journey of life with grace, dignity, and fortitude.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.