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Opportunities: Coaching Questions on Recognition, Evaluation, and Intuition

A navy blue piece of paper has a strip torn and folded back on itself so that a whole is exposed in the middle of the paper. Below that gap, is a white surface with the word Opportunity printed in red. The text reads: "Opportunities do not come with their values stamped upon them." (Maltbie Davenport Babcock)

The quote of the day is:

“Opportunities do not come with their values stamped upon them.” (Maltbie Davenport Babcock)

Questions For Coaches

  • How do you recognize and evaluate new opportunities in your life?
  • What criteria do you use to determine the value of an opportunity?
  • What role does intuition play in your decision-making process regarding opportunities?
  • If you knew there was an opportunity you hadn’t seen yet, what would that be?

Bonus Questions

  • How do your thoughts shape your perception of opportunities?
  • How do you address clients’ fears or doubts about pursuing uncertain opportunities?
  • How do your long-term goals and vision influence your perception and evaluation of opportunities?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Mindset Secrets to Successfully Selling Premium Coaching Packages

In this week’s guest post Ling Wong uses her expertise and knowledge as she shares:

Mindset Secrets to Successfully Selling Premium Coaching Packages

By ling wong

"Mindset Secrets to Successfully Selling Premium Coaching Packages" by Ling Wong

A lot of business trainings tell us to sell coaching packages instead of single sessions, and raise our fees while we are at it so we can earn more, work less and have more energy to deliver our best services to our clients. Some of these trainings probably showed you how to design a program and price it.

Sounds good in theory, but… let me ask you – how much are your clients actually paying you? Do you consider the amount you are paid “premium”? (hmm, can you take just one or two new clients a month to pay the bills and more?)

Maybe you have a premium package sitting somewhere on your website, but you somehow have never been paid a “premium” fee; or you revert back to selling the “old” lower-cost packages when the rubber meets the road, i.e. during your sales conversation, because fears and doubts creep in and you chicken out.

If you (intellectually) know offering a premium package is better for your business, and you also have the knowledge to create the package – why aren’t you selling it? Where is the disconnect?

YOU, hold the answer. It’s all in your head.

Everything can sound good on paper, until it comes time to ask for the money.

There are a lot of fears, pre/misconceptions and judgments around “selling”, self-worth and value. Until you bust through these mindset hurdles, you will never feel completely comfortable during a sales conversation.

Your comfort level in asking to get paid is proportional to how much you ultimately get paid.

Preconception

Nobody likes being pushed into buying, and we may perceive people selling to be “bad” because some salesperson gave us bad experience. If you had bad experience with sales people, it is easy to equate selling as “dishonest,” and who wants to be perceived as such? Of course you don’t want to, so you hold back from selling.

Plus, there are many unfavorable images we associate with people doing selling – e.g. the used car salesman, the late-night infomercial dude, even that pushy MLM friend who won’t let you off the hook until you reluctantly sign up for stuff that you don’t want.

What if I tell you, selling = serving? What if you can serve your potential clients while you sell them your services? Educational marketing is a great example. You give people information and provide value to raise awareness about a problem. When they understand the problem they have actually has a solution and you, standing right there, provides that service – they will want to seek you out without you pushing your wares.

I sign a lot more clients after I changed my approach in my discovery sessions from constantly worrying about “what can I say or ask to get them to buy my stuff?” to “what questions can I ask to help this person see a solution to her challenges?” This change in attitude can give the energy behind sales conversations a major overhaul.

QuestionHow can you lead your potential clients into exploring working with you by serving them?

Fears

What kind of selling works? Genuine selling. The kind that you don’t hide behind scripts and templates. The kind that you put yourself forward and connect with your potential clients. But our fears are making us hide… instead of making the connection so critical to getting “yes” from potential clients.

The Fear of Not Being Good Enough can make you feel that you, being yourself, are not enough. It makes you feel there gotta be a script that holds the key to the perfect sales conversation. Maybe you fear that you don’t know enough so you keep babbling on about what you know and where you were trained… completely negating the potential client (who just wants to be heard and be given a damn solution!)

Don’t forget that little voice in your head that keeps saying “who are you to ask for that much money?”

The Fear of Not Being Worthy can cause you to confuse “self-worth” to what people are paying you for – i.e. our services that will give them results. When you don’t feel worthy of being paid, guess what… you don’t get paid!

The Fear of Lack can make you discount or settle for the client purchasing a smaller package even though you know she needs something more extensive because you don’t want to end up with nothing! By settling for less, at least you get the client to pay you something… (note how this makes you come from a place of lack, and not one of service)

The Fear of Being Vulnerable can get you to puff up as a protective mechanism, setting up a wall that prevents you from deeply connecting with your potential clients (people buy high-ticket items with emotions, you need to make that connection). Or, maybe you are afraid of being criticized so you hide from having conversations with potential clients or JV partners. If you hide, they can’t find you!

The Fear of Rejection can make you not ask for more money under the misconception that you will get more “no’s” if your price is higher. If you have this fear, the problem is not the price, the problem is you not having figured out how to communicate the value you deliver.

Question

Can you recognize when you fears kick in during your sales conversations?

Boundary and Codependency

In this article, I explored money boundary and codependency extensively. Here is the highlight:

  • If you are undercharging and not asking for a “premium price,” you may feel that you need to give everyone access to your service and you have the limiting belief or misconception that you can “help more people” by charging less. (You are trying to give everyone your stuff whether they want it or not – and this, is a violation of the other person’s boundary.)
  • If you are over-delivering (e.g. going overtime during your sessions, writing pages after pages of support emails, “throwing in” extras), essentially giving “premium” services without being compensated for it, you may be feeling responsible for your clients’ results even though they need to do the work to succeed. Because you feel responsible, you would bend over backwards – compromising your own boundaries in order to “help” that person with the misconception that somehow, you can do the work for your client (By the way, the client may or may not want to be helped, so in a way, you are violating that her personal choice.)
  • If you have been constantly discounting, you may be buying into the client’s money stories and somehow made felt responsible that your fee will turn into the cause of her distress so you discount to make yourself feel better. (By the way, you have no rights to decided for the other person what she can or cannot afford… it’s her priority and her decisions to make.)
  • If you have been giving away services for free – STOP! This is martyr mentality stemming from a fear of not being worthy (you are trying to prove to yourself that you are) and can turn into victimhood that kicks you off the driver’s seat altogether.

When your boundary is overstepped, it is you who allows that to happen.

QuestionIf it’s your boundary crime to commit, can you recognize your triggers and “rehearse” what you can do or say in those situations?

Self-Worth vs the Value of Your Program

I have a bone with the phrase “charge what you are worth” – I explained it in this post.

If you can separate your self-worth from the value you deliver through your program, then the question “how can my time be worth that much” will not even enter the equation.

Focus on the value your clients get out of your program or service package, not how much time you spend on the phone with them.

If they get a more out of your service than what they pay you, then offering them your package is doing them a service. The key, again, is to communicate effectively so they understand the value of your program, and the impact it has on their lives.

ExerciseWrite down how your work impacts your clients in the areas of health, career, finance, relationship and personal growth. Then put a monetary value (wherever possible) against each item. Now, add it all up and see for yourself how much value you deliver. Can you charge more?

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Selling, and selling high-ticket items, is not scary. You can sell more with integrity by having the right mindset and perspective, overcoming your fears, strengthening your boundaries, and properly communicating the value of your offer.

About Ling Wong

Ling offers “Business Soulwork + Marketing Activation” to help coaches nail their Messages, claim their Superpowers and muster up the Guts to monetize their Truth so they can build a purposeful and profitable Personality-Driven business that is a full expression of their individuality and creativity.

Through her “left brain meets right brain” approach, Ling helps her clients tap into their intuition and ground those light bulb moments with practical strategies and marketing tactics to build a profitable and sustainable business.

Ready to Nail Your Message, Claim Your Superpowers and Monetize Your Truth for a Personality-Driven business? Get your FREE “Monetize Your Truth Mindset + Marketing Training” here.


Insecurities of a coach – how to avoid them sabotaging your success 1

In this weeks guest post Charlotta Hughes shares her experience and knowledge.

"Insecurities of a coach - how to avoid them sabotaging your success" by Charlotta Hughes

Insecurities of a coach – how to avoid them sabotaging your success

By Charlotta Hughes

Being a coach, may that be life, business or corporate coach, is a wonderful profession. As I hope you agree!

It can, however, also be challenging. Business wise and emotionally.

Let’s quickly explore the business challenges faced by coaches today. Contrary to many training providers message to aspiring coaches, the market is very competitive and many coaches struggle to find enough clients to run a sustainable business.

There are a number of reasons for this that I’ve experienced and witnessed; both personally and in my coach mentoring clients. They include that:

  • The market is pretty flooded with coaches. It’s sold as an inspiring and easy way to earn money, on your own terms. Whilst it’s incredibly inspiring when you work with great clients, it’s pretty tough if you can’t get them!
  • Coaching isn’t yet a regulated profession meaning the market gets even more flooded as individuals with no relevant qualifications nor experience are free to call themselves coaches.
  • The lack of regulation also challenges the reputation of coaching, and some are skeptical about its effectiveness due to a bad experience with a cowboy or cowgirl, or simply have heard of bad experiences by others.
  • Great coaches are not always great business people. For some, their emotional sensitivity can act like a saboteur of their business mindedness and focus. Whilst it’s part of what makes them fabulous coaches, it can leave them a little vulnerable to the competitive, hard nosed reality that many experience.

Some or all of the above hurdles, can result in self-doubt. Self-doubt around whether you’ve chosen the right profession, whether that ‘calling’ you enjoyed early on is to be trusted and maybe even whether you’re actually any good as a coach.

Such a spiral of negativity and self-doubt can, if left uninterrupted, result in any manner of self sabotage.

Whilst self sabotage is a concept many coaches have knowledge of and regularly help clients recognize and overcome, ironically, it’s also a concept that many coaches themselves accidentally fail to recognise and address in themselves and in the development and maintenance of their coaching practices.

Here’s a few tips on how to ensure you stay in control and don’t allow yourself to inadvertently sabotage your own success or enjoyment:

1. Accept that you’re selling a service not YOU. When identifying what you offer as yourself, rather than a service, you may feel inflated pride when someone buys your services. This feeling can be very seductive! However, the flip side to this is that you’re also vulnerable to feeling rejected when someone says no thanks. You then find yourself taking an emotional nose dive! Too extreme a high and too severe a low. Reframe your thinking and consider it as you would an offer of a free coffee – if you turn it down, it’s not personal to the coffee shop. You’re just not in the mood, you don’t know how delicious their coffee is or you haven’t got time to stop. The same goes for coaching.

2. Don’t expect yourself to be perfectly happy and confident always. Just because you help others maximize aspects of their lives doesn’t mean YOURS has to always be perfect. After all, we accept there is no such thing as perfect and wouldn’t expect our clients’ lives to be. So why set ourselves up to fail like this?

3. Don’t knock a little bit of self doubt. It’s the thing that might ensure you keep learning and listening. It’s what makes and keeps you great and it could be key to your success. If you had none, ever, always knowing you’re right and excellent, you’d run the risk of becoming pretty unbearable. It also helps you relate to your clients, increasing your level of empathy and ability to coach them effectively. Keep it in check though – it needs to be at a healthy level!

4. Are you uncomfortable networking and marketing your services to your contacts? Do you worry they might not respect coaching? Remember, you’re not contacting them for validation but to let them know what you offer. They don’t need it? That’s fine! Like it’d be fine if they don’t need new paper to a paper salesman. S/he’d rather you bought some but s/he’s not personally affronted that you didn’t.

5. Insecure about justifying the value of coaching to those who are successful without it? There are people who complete a marathon without much training. It doesn’t mean they wouldn’t have got a better time, or wouldn’t have enjoyed the run more, with the right training

6. Don’t confuse wisdom with common sense. Often intuitive coaches feel their insights, deductions and conclusions are obvious and therefore undervalue them. In the words of Brian O’driscoll, “knowledge is knowing tomatoes are a fruit. Wisdom is not to put them in a fruit salad.” You have the knowledge and wisdom and you’re a great coach because of the very fact that they feel obvious to you.

If some or all of the above resonate with you, try having them nearby as a reminder to call upon whenever you feel the self doubt creeping in along with the classic avoidance techniques (or self sabotage if you will) such as procrastination, missing deadlines, avoiding the calls to potential clients or spending time on negative self talk. Use them as a way to centre yourself, pull yourself out of autopilot responses and crack on with the next positive thing. Make your coaching practice the wonderful experience it truly is, for your clients and yourself!

About Charlotta Hughes

Charlotta HughesCharlotta has been coaching professionally for over 12 years and in March 2013 she won Life Coach of the Year, awarded by the national body Association of Professional Coaches, Trainers and Consultants.

Her background is within Human Resources and she started her busy coaching practice, be me life coaching, in January 2007.

Charlotta specialises in coach mentoring, confidence, direction and entrepreneur coaching.

Her academic qualifications include professional Life and Corporate Coaching qualifications. She also has a BSc (hons) in Psychology & Computing, an MA in Human Resources Management and she is a Member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development.

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Coaching Confidence Chatterbox with Emma Fowler 1

Chatterbox

Coaching Confidence Chatterbox with

Emma Fowler

The Coaching Confidence Chatterbox is an interview feature with coaches where the questions are generated based on the origami fortune teller/chatterbox game.

Name: Emma Fowler

Name of your Coaching Business: Free your career

Website: www.FreeYourCareer.com

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(The answers to the above questions are then used to generate a choice of numbers)

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Select one of the following numbers 7, 2, 3 or 6: 7

“What do you look for when choosing a coach for yourself”:

A combination of coaching and training; a chemistry between me and the coach.

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Select one of the following numbers 8, 1, 4 or 5: 1

“Tell us a bit about your coaching”:

I offer three different types of coaching:

  1. career coaching;
  2. executive coaching
  3. a blended solution which offers life coaching.

There is no hard-and-fast rule to stick with one when I coach people, we deviate according to the needs of the client. Career coaching is my passion.

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Select one of the following numbers 8, 4 or 5: 5

“What is your favourite way that a client has found out about your work?”:

I coached the husband of one of my clients when he changed from his long-term permanent career to contracting, because she was enjoying my service and liked that I might help her whole family rather than just her.

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What question would you like to add to the Chatterbox for another coach to answer?:

What’s the most difficult situation you have faced as a coach and what advice would you give other coaches if they face the same?

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How would you answer that question?:

It’s sometimes hard with existing relationships in your network to take things from a supportive conversation to a monetised consulting service, especially when you’re starting out.

In order to understand why someone should employ you as a coach, you need to value the service you are giving (and your time) and appreciate the significant positive impact your work will have on the person, in order to explain to a potential client why a relationship should transition to being a paid service (of course using discretion with friends!)

Thanks for playing Emma, if you want to find out more about her work visit www.FreeYourCareer.com.

If you are a coach and want to play with the Coaching Confidence Chatterbox send an email via this page.


The KISS principle- Keep It Simple, Silly

Dave Oldham, shares his experience as a coach, teacher, entrepreneur and charity founder in today’s guest post:

The KISS principle- Keep It Simple, Silly

by Dave Oldham

Kevin Hall, the author of the book Aspire defines a coach as someone who “carries a valued person from where they are to where they want to be!” This comes from the concept of a stagecoach from generations ago, which was the method of travel for the elite.

As a coach, it is so important that our belief system includes the value of the people we are working with. Without fully giving value to the people you work with, your heart cannot be engaged in the process of taking them to where they want to be. Once you have value for the individual, you can then focus on where THEY want to get to, not where YOU want them to get to. This can be a challenge as the coach may see a different path.

To meet this end, there is a simple three step process to follow. The key is in the simplicity of it all, and the magic comes from daily, consistent action.

  1. Determine where the person you are working with is at, and accept this unconditionally. What is the current skillset, experience, commitment level and motivation for improvement
  2. Where do they want to get to? This must be specific and goal oriented. Are they wanting increased sales, income, satisfaction, relationships, clients, time freedom, independence, autonomy, or any other valued benefit.
  3. How can we get them there? As a coach, the greater the diversity and ability to help the people you work with gain new skills, keep consistent with action, measure results, reflect, and build upon improvements the more value you can provide.

As a high school basketball coach, the above plan has allowed our program to guide more high school athletes to college and university basketball than anyone in Western Canada over the past five years. The process is about the athlete, which has contributed to 100% buy in. Training sessions are focused and target specific areas that will allow the athlete the opportunity to play post-secondary athletics. Belief systems are instilled that promote excellence, commitment, and daily action to self improvement. The process is all about working with the athlete on where they want to go. Athletes are challenged to explore their thinking, push the limits, and challenge themselves; however setting goals and deciding where they want to go is left up to them.

We also go through this process as a team at the start of our season. Everyone sets goals, but the art of coaching comes in the plan set forth to obtain those goals.

The X’s and O’s of coaching basketball are irrelevant to this, and therefore can be applied to any sport, or any coaching situation in or out of sport. Coaching is about building relationships and as Kevin Hall states “carry a valued person from where they are to where they want to be!”

About the author

Dave Oldham is a high school teacher and basketball coach, entrepreneur, charity founder/director (www.childrenofecuador.ca), husband and father to two girls, and world traveller.

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