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The Bright, Shining Tears of Clarity

 in quote  tagged clarity / coach / coaches / coaching / purpose / quote / tears / want / wisom / Zabel Sibil Asadour
The outline of a single bird is silhouetted in front of a beautiful sunrise. The sky is clear and all orange and red. A clear, calm sea is in the for front of the image. The text is a quote: "There are other tears, bright, clear, untroubled, Shining as the sun, untouched of care." (Zabel Sibil Asadour)

“There are other tears, bright, clear, untroubled, Shining as the sun, untouched of care.” (Zabel Sibil Asadour)

Zabel Sibil Asadour, an Armenian poet, novelist, and teacher, beautifully captured the essence of joyful, untroubled tears in her writing. Her words invite us to consider emotions that come not from struggle, but from a place of deep clarity, connection, and joy.

In my coaching, I often guide clients toward this kind of clarity—the moments when their eyes shine with the light of new understanding, unburdened and free. But what does it take for someone to reach that place?

Exploring What They Truly Want

One of the most profound gifts you can offer your clients is the space to explore what they truly want. Not the surface-level desires driven by external expectations, but the deeper longings that often lie hidden beneath layers of “shoulds” and “ought tos.”

This process involves looking beyond logical next steps and even past desires, to discover what feels alive for them right now.

As coaches, we help clients get in touch with what they would love—the life they want to create, the work that energises them, the relationships they long for. But this exploration doesn’t always feel easy for all clients, all of the time.

What gets in the way? Fear of disappointment, a sense of unworthiness, or even the discomfort of acknowledging something they’ve buried for years. Maybe a client has a lot of thinking and beliefs can be held around it being wrong to actually say what you want – did they grow up hearing “I want doesn’t get” as a rebuke? Helping clients navigate these blocks with compassion and curiosity is fundamental to unlocking those moments of clarity.

The Spark of Shining Eyes

You’ve likely seen it before—that moment when a client connects with something deeply meaningful, and their eyes light up. It’s as if they’ve tapped into a reservoir of inner wisdom, and for those moments, the clutter of the mind clears.

That feeling—the one that brings shining eyes or even joyful tears—is worth paying attention to. It’s often a sign they’re on the right track, reconnecting with their truest desires and purpose.

Encouraging clients to trust these moments and lean into them, rather than brushing them aside, can be transformative. When they allow themselves to sit with that feeling, it can provide the clarity and confidence they need to move forward.

Your Role as the Coach

How comfortable are you when a client wells up with emotion, especially joyful tears?

For some clients, these moments can feel overwhelming or even embarrassing. They might start to apologise or laugh it off, dismissing the depth of what they’re feeling. This is where your presence as a coach becomes invaluable.

Can you hold space for those emotions without rushing to reassure them or diminish their importance? Can you gently help clients recognise the significance of what they’re experiencing and see it as a signal of alignment with their true selves?

And what about you? Have you noticed moments when you, too, connect with that feeling, when your eyes shine alongside your client’s?

Reflection for Coaches

  • How do you support clients in exploring what they would truly love?
  • What do you notice when your clients have moments of clarity or insight?
  • How do you respond when a client wells up with happy tears or shining eyes?

Personally, in those moments of shining eyes and joyful tears, you witness your client’s deepest connection to themselves. While it’s not the only way this connection can reveal itself, I find it a huge honour—and one of my greatest joys of being a transformative coach—to be with someone as they recognise that connection.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here

Questions of Desire: Fuelling Purpose and Excellence in Coaching

 in quote  tagged Charles Babbage / coach / coaches / coaching / desire / purpose / questions / quote
A 3D figure made from modelling clay is holding a fountain pen, which is larger than the figure itself, so it is resting on their right shoulder and angled as if to write on the ground in front of the figure. The text reads: "I have no desire to write my own biography, as long as I have strength and means to do better work." (Charles Babbage)

The quote of the day is:

“I have no desire to write my own biography, as long as I have strength and means to do better work.” (Charles Babbage) [Written in his own biography]

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you define “better work” in your personal and professional life?
  • When have you felt the most motivated to do your best work?
  • What steps can you take to consistently improve your skills and knowledge?
  • How do you support clients in finding their passion and purpose in their work?

Bonus Questions

  • How do you measure the success of your work in your business?
  • How does your sense of purpose drive your daily actions?
  • What lessons from your past do you apply to your ongoing work? Are they lessons that are still relevant?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.

Embracing Purposeful Coaching: A New Perspective

 in quote  tagged coach / coaches / coaching / Joseph Addison / nature / purpose / quote
A river flows through the centre of the image. In the background are green pine trees, apparently going all the way up the river valley's slopes. Immediatly on the banks of teh river are small bush type vergitation in autumnal shades. The text reads: "Nature does nothing without purpose or uselessly." (Joseph Addison)

Today’s quote is:

“Nature does nothing without purpose or uselessly.” (Joseph Addison)

I’ve noticed a perception among some new coaches that everything in coaching must be meticulously planned in advance. However, that’s not my approach. For me, coaching is a conversation, and I can’t predict the other half of the dialogue before my client even speaks. While I may make educated guesses based on past interactions, it doesn’t guarantee the same outcome. Change can happen in any moment; new insights, ideas, and perspectives can emerge outside of our coaching sessions. What seemed true to a client in one session may not hold the same weight in the next.

So, how does this relate to today’s quote? I believe it challenges us to reconsider our perceptions of seemingly insignificant actions or situations within our coaching practice. Rather than dismissing them as purposeless, what if we consider that they make sense given the individual’s perspective?

What if all it takes is one fresh thought to gain a new perspective? This realisation alleviates the pressure of having to figure everything out. It’s reassuring to know that while action may be necessary, a single moment of inspiration feels much lighter.

Acknowledging the infinite possibilities around us enables us to tap into the full potential of coaching. Instead of being confined by preconceived notions, we remain open to new ideas and perspectives, essential for growth and adaptation in our field.

The quote also touches on purpose. Some clients may feel a sense of emptiness, unsure of their purpose, while others believe they have a clear direction. I invite a different perspective: What if by being your authentic self, your purpose becomes evident? What if you can bypass the stage of trying to figure it all out in advance?

These are just some of my reflections inspired by this quote. What are your thoughts on coaching related to this? Feel free to share your comments below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Making A Difference

 in Guest Post  tagged growth / Jennie J Gorman / journey / personal development / purpose / wisdom

One of the motivators that attract many coaches to coaching is the desire of making a difference – in today’s guest post Jennie J Gorman discusses:

Making A Difference

By Jennie J Gorman

"Making A Difference" By Jennie J Gorman

‘Did I do enough today to make a difference to someone?’ This is what I ask myself at the end of every day.

It is such an important question. Not only to ask oneself, but knowing and hearing the answer is just as important, as we dig deep within for the answer and reflection of how our day progressed.

‘What counts in life is not the mere fact we have lived. It is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead’. Nelson Mandela

Making a difference for me is what my life is all about. I spend many hours a day on social media, knowing from the messages and feedback I get, that the posts that go out do make a difference, not only those people I know but also to many I have never met.

We all have the opportunity every day to change someone’s life by just being aware of the world around us. If you love what you do, you will be in the minority unfortunately. These are the people who want and intend to change the world in their own way. They are not the complainers or the people who just tolerate what they have to do to survive. These are the change-agents.

Do you see yourself as someone who is making a difference? Are you a change-agent?

We all have the opportunity to make a true and measurable impact in our own unique way. We have our gifts that give us the opportunity to use, as an influencer, in not only our own life but with others as well. It may be to change the life of one person or hundreds or thousands. It does not matter, as long as we are creating a change in whatever way we are able.

Often people who have struggled with some misfortune are given the chance to give back, and become privileged where they would never have imagined they would be. Often they come from disadvantages backgrounds, have a physical disability or have had their own life transformed as a result of an experience. The secret for them is that they recognised it and changed their own life, and then, the lives of others around them to a more positive attitude and outcome.

To make a difference, we need to recognise that we are blessed with something special to pass onto others. Everyone has something special if they the time and care to look and be aware. This comes to us all in different ways and it is getting out of our own limited thinking into a positive attitude that will distinguish us from others.

If you are a mover and shaker, who wants to change the world in your own unique way, it is because you recognise how blessed you are and dedicate yourself to giving your life a meaning and purpose. To do this, you need to be prepared to take risks, knowing in yourself that you have a message to pass onto others. Once you recognise your purpose you will become driven and focused to make the difference in whatever way you can perceive. You know that all you need to do is to move forward with commitment to do whatever your purpose.

Another thing, I notice with people who want to make a difference, is that they are on the road of self-improvement understanding that they are not perfect and only have to do the best they can for the outcome they are pursuing. They also know that every day is a new learning that will guide them forward in their endeavour to reach their goals. They are innovators who are open to learning and experiencing and not concerned about showing their loving compassionate heart. Their aim is to be the best they can be whilst they create the way forward for others.

Having been a relationship builder and teacher for many years, I understand the importance of how a positive attitude is in being an influencer, as we open to all those around us. Building good relationships is about being a giver (not a taker) in all things. We all have exceptional gifts that we can share with others, that will mutually benefit the world around us. By sharing our gifts, knowledge, strategies and talents we can freely give of ourselves to others our opinions and support authentically, without expectation of some return. We know that all authentic relationships are equal, supportive and positive, and that these create the foundation to what we wish to create and achieve.

Wanting to be a change-agent in this world, in whatever capacity we do it, takes time and effort. It is not something that happens overnight. It takes personal energy, and lots of trust in ourselves, to impact others, by striving to be and do the best we can in whatever area we are beckoned to make the difference. Self-belief is what pushes us forward to affect the change we are wishing to make in others, be it through thinking, behaviours, boundaries or beliefs. We know in ourselves that this will create something bigger and better in the long-run in their lives too.

Sharing what we know is important to all change-agents. We are happy to share our time, knowledge, work and ideas without any fear of loss. We know that what gifts we have been given to share are for anyone who wants them. They are not ours to keep for ourselves, they are given to us to share and teach in a true and positive way for the enhancement and growth of others. I believe, as all change-agents do, that the more we give, the more we receive in return. In fact, we receive ten-fold in unexpected and mysterious ways, which would not have been there had we not shared in the first place.

We are here to uplift others to be the best they can be. It is not about us. It is about the people we are given the opportunity to influence so they can become the best they can be. We are just the door opener for others, by inspiring and uplifting them to reach their full potential to make a difference to others as well. As we help and support others, we in turn are helped and supported to make the difference we set out to make in the beginning. We sow what we reap and this in turn gives others the opportunity to do the same.

So make a difference, be the leader by operating from your own heart-centre, by moving others forward with grace and ease, compassion and care. We are blessed to have the opportunity to make a difference.

I suggest that you ask yourself two questions.

question mark smallThe first one, are you personally impacting the world around you?

question mark smallThe second question, how significant is your life to this juncture?

For more information on how you can be supported email je****@**************om.au or http://www.AnOnPurposeLife.com.au

About Jennie J Gorman

My passion and mission has always been to help and support not only business professionals and SME’s to create business relationships to claim their place in the marketplace but to support those wishing to become more self aware too.

I support people through Business MasterMinding, using a process which I have been developing over the last seven plus years, giving participants their own individual ‘board of directors’ to keep them accountable and on track.

I am known to motivate and inspire people to perform at a level that they hadn’t yet recognised by either doing one-on-one sessions, on-going Coaching, Mentoring or MasterMind groups.

My book ‘Awesome Authenticity’ – mastering business relationships is available via my website or Amazon.

 

 

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Awaking the Sleeping Giant Within

 in Guest Post  tagged challenge / clients / coach / coaching / Diane Dutchin / empower / impact / motivate / passion / purpose / questions / reflect / talent

In today’s guest post Coach Diane Dutchin shares her expertise and knowledge to benefit both you and your clients.

Awaking the Sleeping Giant Within

by Diane Dutchin

"Awaking the sleeping Giant within" by Diane Dutchin

“Sleeping never moves you forward, it’s the awakening process that stirs you to action”

(DianeD)

I know, the title to this topic is not the usual you come across in your mail box like “how to uncover and tap into your niche”, or “how to attract more clients”. However, stay with me, this is an appropriate fit because it’s about you the coach and your client.

My intent is to deliver a one two punch of relevant information to empower you to reflect, to reapply methods of being and doing in your journey as a coach, and hopefully lead to a revival, renewal/refreshing to both you and your clients.

Let’s start with you the coach:

Reflect: when you first started your practice what was your attitude like? Aside from the excitement of finally doing what I felt I was created to do, I was focused on uncovering what areas of life I was deeply passionate about and connected to.

Forget about what the experts are saying you should or shouldn’t do, and what the latest niche is. What fired you up and awakened your spirit? Is that fire still there or is it a dying ember? Or, are you more motivated by external realities than your internal convictions? Stay consistent to your internal convictions. Here are some steps I follow to help me awaken sleeping giants in my journey

Revisit/Reapply: your core values and your personal beliefs. Revisiting my values gives me the opportunity to assess my present state, and how much of my values/beliefs are still in line with my living, and make adjustments where needed. By doing that you sharpen:

  • Your talents – what you know you’re really good at
  • Your passions – what you deeply care about
  • Your purpose – what is it you want your life to count for
  • Your impact – what is the outcome you’re looking to achieve

By incorporating your basic style of coaching with fresh ideas, tips and tools you can strengthen your practice, and find yourself at the advantage of serving with excellence.

Revive: your truth, your internal realities, and your purpose – not someone else! It’s easy to place too much emphasis on what others are doing, and dismiss what convicts and motivates your particular style. Yes, it takes someone with courage to stay consistent, recognize opportunities, and accept the calling to be a coach of positive change. I am not saying to ignore growth, but don’t throw out the baby with the bath water by neglecting the fundamentals you established your practice on.

Renew/Refresh: your life, your vision, your focus, your practice and your delivery. By taking the time to reflect, revisit/reapply and revive areas, thoughts, actions or saying about your life and practice, you could experience a welcomed renewal that can improve your delivery add deep refreshing to you and your practice.

All about the client:

Seeing that you’re in the coaching profession, I am going to automatically assume part of your focus when working with your client, is to:

  • Guide them towards the door of awareness
  • Empower them to open the door,
  • Challenge them to step into the journey
  • Motivate them to discover their answers, solutions, etc. in specific areas.

So, why is it some coaches overcomplicate this process? As a coach you want to remain mindful of lining up your words with your actions. I would rather have someone under promise with their words and over deliver with their actions, instead of over promising and under delivering.

Clients come to you because they have a need, and are drawn to you based on a number of factors:

  • What they’ve read on your site
  • What they heard through a referral
  • What your past clients said/testimonials
  • What was felt through the initial connection

In my experience I’ve found my most effective encounters and results came when I avoided the flashy and fancy approach. People aren’t looking necessarily for how much credentials are behind your name, or how many hundreds of clients you’ve served – all they care about is “can you help me with______?”

The basic foundational questions still works and can be extremely effective to get the journey of awareness, and empowerment to change started:

  • Why, when, where, what and how? (in whatever order)

You still have opportunity to ask other questions like:

  • What are your internal/external realities?
  • How important are values and beliefs to you?
  • On a scale ____? How do you feel about____?

My experience is that this way such questions will automatically fall into place!

There should be a natural flow when serving your clients. Be cautious of “trying” a new thing you read about, or what happens to be the “new style of coaching”. If not, it could show up during the session and mat be the last one with the client.

As a coach you can awaken and elevate areas of your personal and professional life to higher levels of fulfillment, and stir your clients forward to have a more impactful, and life transforming experience.

How do you know when an area in your life needs to be awaken, and what action do you take to revive it?

You are your Greatest Investment!

About Diane Dutchin

“Diane – life coach with a passion for living her best life and motivating others to do the same. I provide quality coaching and facilitating services to clients and coaches on a personal and professional level. I work with people to improve the quality of their lives on a personal and professional level.

Check out my site at www.makethemovecoaching.com and connect for a free 1 hour strategy session.”