productivity


To Do or Not To Do: Coaching Insights from Aesop on Getting Things Done

A cup of coffee in a white cup and saucer is sat on a table. The text reads: "It is one thing to say that something should be done, but quite a different matter to do it." (Aesop)

The quote of the day is:

“It is one thing to say that something should be done, but quite a different matter to do it.” (Aesop)

This quote from Aesop encapsulates a fundamental truth about human behaviour: the gap between intention and action. As a coach, I often observe this gap in my clients’ lives, as well as in my own. I suspect that as a coach, you’ll have your own observations around this topic.

I tend to find that my experience of doing things from my to-do list can vary significantly. There are tasks I just do because they need doing, regardless of my feelings about them. Interestingly, my experience isn’t the same each time I perform these tasks. Sometimes, I have a lot of thoughts about a task; other times, not so much. The tasks with less mental chatter tend to be more pleasant, but this isn’t necessarily a reason to do or not do something. This is a real-time example of how we are living in the experience of our thinking!

Then, there are tasks that don’t even make it to my to-do list. These are spontaneous actions that occur to me in the moment, like dropping a quick message to someone or jotting down notes that turn into a draft for a blog post. These tasks often feel more organic and less burdensome because they arise naturally from my present awareness.

On the other hand, some tasks sit on my to-do list for a long time without getting done. These tasks typically fall into two categories. First, there are tasks I think I “should” do, but that don’t actually achieve anything meaningful. When I look at them honestly, these tasks seldom create genuine progress—they often do nothing except make me look busy or fulfil some other perception I have a thought around. Second, there are tasks burdened with judgmental thoughts about how long they should take. Interestingly, I’m usually wrong about the time required, and often, I end up doing them naturally when the timing feels right, with minimal thinking involved.

Understanding the “Shoulds” and “Shouldn’ts”

One insight I’ve gained is that the tasks burdened with “shoulds” are often tied to external expectations rather than internal motivation. These are tasks we feel obligated to do to meet others’ expectations or societal norms. The challenge is that these tasks can create a sense of resistance and procrastination because they aren’t aligned with our intrinsic goals or values.

Understand that I’m not saying you should now add another rule about shoulds and shouldn’ts. I’m suggesting that when you notice that’s what you are doing to yourself, it can be worth reassessing with a fresh perspective whether it’s something you want to keep on your to-do list. It may be that there are real-world consequences for either completing or not completing a task, and sometimes when we look, there actually aren’t!

The Role of Noticing

It seems to me that as humans, our system is set up so that when we are getting caught up in thinking, adding pressure to ourselves, etc., we feel that. Depending upon how aware we are of that, it can take a lot for us to notice those increasingly less subtle signals.

What if, when we notice that, it can be just a signal for us to “step away from that thinking”? Acting as a gentle nudge that we don’t need to figure out what a particular thought was that is turning up the heat, just that we could mentally do with a bit of fresh air and take a moment to let that settle down.

Embracing Natural Flow

Another key insight is embracing the natural flow of action. When we act spontaneously on tasks that occur to us in the moment, we often experience a sense of ease and accomplishment. This natural flow is disrupted when we overthink or judge our actions too harshly. Trusting our intuition and allowing ourselves to act on impulses can lead to more productive and satisfying outcomes.

Practical Tips for Bridging the Gap Personally

  • Simplify Your To-Do List: Focus on meaningful tasks that contribute to your goals. Remove or delegate tasks that only create the illusion of productivity.
  • Trust Your Intuition: Allow yourself to act on spontaneous impulses when appropriate. Trust that your natural inclinations can lead to productive and fulfilling actions.
  • Challenge Time Judgments: Notice when you’re imposing unrealistic time expectations on tasks. Give yourself permission to complete tasks in the time they naturally require.

What does this quote prompt for you? What do you see as a coach and as an individual around this topic?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can help you transform your journey here.


Embracing Rest: The Importance of Downtime for Coaches

A empty green bench is in the bottom left corner surrounded by green grass and a couple of trees on the edge in the foreground. In the distance is a stretch of blue water with a distant tree line on the far bank. The sky is blue with fluffy white clouds.
The text reads: "Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer's day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means waste of time" (Sir John Lubbock)

Today’s quote is:

“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means waste of time” (Sir John Lubbock)

As coaches, we’re accustomed to giving our all to support others in their personal and professional growth. We’re often passionate about our work and dedicated to helping our clients achieve their goals. But in our quest to empower others, we mustn’t overlook the importance of caring for and listening to ourselves.

Rest isn’t just a luxury; it’s a necessity for our well-being and effectiveness as coaches. Here are a few reasons why embracing rest is essential:

  • Renewed Energy: Just as our clients need breaks to recharge and refocus, so do we. Taking time to rest allows us to replenish our energy reserves and approach our coaching sessions with renewed vigour and enthusiasm.
  • Enhanced Creativity: Rest provides space for our minds to wander and explore new ideas. When we give ourselves permission to step away from our work, we create opportunities for inspiration and innovation to flourish.
  • Improved Focus: Constant busyness can lead to burnout and diminished cognitive function. By prioritising rest, we can sharpen our focus and attention, enabling us to be more present and engaged in our coaching sessions.
  • Stress Reduction: Many find the demands of coaching and running a business can be taxing, both mentally and emotionally. Incorporating regular periods of rest into our routine can help alleviate stress and promote a sense of calm and relaxation.

So, how can we embrace rest in our busy lives as coaches?

  • Schedule Downtime: Treat rest like any other important appointment in your calendar. Block off time for relaxation and leisure activities, whether it’s a leisurely walk in nature, reading a book, or simply enjoying a quiet moment of reflection.
  • Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to activities or commitments that drain your energy and leave you feeling overwhelmed. Prioritise self-care and honour your need for rest, even if it means disappointing others temporarily. I often find setting expectations at the start of working with someone helps – For example I ensure that clients know I reply to emails within 48 hours – usually much faster but there will be times when I’m not reachable every moment of the day. It may be that you are happy to be “on call” 24/7, it’s just not something that works with my other commitments – and its easier to be transparent about that up-front. Any client that is looking for that level of support and its a deal breaker then I’m not the coach for them – I feel its better for us both to find that out quickly.
  • Listen to yourself: We spend a lot of time in coach trainings looking at listening to others – how much do you actually listen to yourself? What do you want to do right now? What do you know to do?
  • Seek Support: Don’t be afraid to reach out for support when you need it. Whether it’s leaning on friends, family, or fellow coaches, having a strong support network can help you navigate the challenges of coaching while prioritizing your well-being. You don’t have to do everything on your own!

In conclusion, rest is not a luxury reserved for the idle; it’s an essential component of a healthy and balanced life. As coaches, it’s important to honor our need for rest and relaxation, recognizing that it’s not only beneficial for our own well-being but also essential for our effectiveness in supporting others. So, let’s embrace rest as a valuable tool for self-care and recharge our batteries so we can continue to make a positive impact in the lives of our clients.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


How to Bolster Group Productivity (and Enjoyment!) Using Retrospectives 1

Business productivity coaches Laura Waite and Collin Lyons share a technique in today’s guest post:

"How to Bolster Group Productivity (and Enjoyment!) Using Retrospectives" A guest post by  Laura Waite and Collin Lyons

How to Bolster Group Productivity (and Enjoyment!) Using Retrospectives

by Laura Waite and Collin Lyons

If you’re working with a team, as a coach or as a member, you’ll know already that a well-oiled working group is wonderful to behold and even more enjoyable to be a part of. Fortunately, it’s easy to encourage because the exhilaration of seeing your team grow far outweighs the effort of making it happen. As a coach, there is an easy technique available to you to help your team do just that.

It’s called a Retrospective, and it’s about sharing feedback as a group. It’s a simple technique to help you find new opportunities to improve and to catapult your team to incredible levels of effectiveness, which is inspiring for everyone in the group. It only requires stepping away to pause, reflect and decide what actions to take in order to make improvements. Here’s how:

Reflect silently on the event or time period

Ask the group to take 3-5 minutes to look backwards and reflect on the event (e.g. a meeting, a workshop) or time period (e.g. the last two weeks or month) and in silence write down their answers to the following four questions:

  • What went well? In other words, what took place that we want to recognise and acknowledge as having gone well?
  • What didn’t go so well? What took place that didn’t go as we would have liked?
  • What did I learn? We want to think about what we’ve learned about how we worked together. It’s less about the content and more about the process.
  • What still puzzles me? This question allows us to capture things that happened that left us feeling unclear or puzzled.

(In case you’re interested, these questions are adapted from the daily temperature reading and other wonderful work of Virginia Satir, which continues to help so many people in different fields and walks of life to build and maintain healthy relationships.)

As you begin, remind everyone that:

  • They may not have answers for every question – and that’s okay!
  • They should only consider what happened and avoid identifying suggestions of what to do in the future… that’s for later.
  • They should be succinct in their answers so we can share them quickly and keep the energy levels up in the next step.

The silence part is the key here: it’s been shown that, when brainstorming (that is, coming up with various ideas for consideration as a group), it’s best to give individuals a chance to gather their thoughts before having an open-aired expression of ideas. Taking a moment to identify your own ideas in silence allows each individual to freely explore their own thoughts before being influenced by those of others. After all, as Nobel Prize-winning chemist Linus Pauling said, “The best way to have a good idea is to have a lot of ideas.” It’s a simple adjustment, but one that vastly improves the quality of feedback available for consideration during your Retrospective.

Share with the group and consolidate the answers

Now we want the group to share their answers with everyone. One by one, go around the room and have each person share their answers. Some people like to focus on the first question before moving on to the next question. As people share their answers, capture them in a centrally visible location, such as a whiteboard or flipchart paper on the walls around the room. There’s no need to capture duplicates.

One of the key elements of a Retrospective is giving everyone on the team the opportunity to be heard – something that can assist greatly with team morale. Don’t lose that opportunity! Make sure that you write what the person actually said, not your interpretation of it. As an illustration, recently a team member said, “Product Management missed some of our key meetings, such as the FSCM discussions, and that meant we made decisions without the correct amount of input,” but what was written up on the board was “Product Management”. Quite a bit different – and very much open for interpretation. It’s a skill to write what is actually said that, thankfully, can be improved – so go easy on yourself if it feels difficult to do initially.

Select a few valuable areas to make improvements

Now that everyone can see all the answers provided, as a group, we want to identify a few high value items to work on – but only a few. Why? Because there’s only so much change we can take on at one time – 3-5 items is usually a good amount.

Identify actions that will lead to team improvement

Up until now, everything we’ve done has been about looking backwards. We’ve looked back over the specific event or time period and reflected on what happened. Now it’s time to look forward. What do we want to do differently next time in order to improve? For each of the items selected in the last step, the group should agree an action that can be taken to make an improvement. This action should be something within the control of the team. Request volunteers for a champion – it’s worth making clear that the champion isn’t necessarily the person who will do the action. Often they are simply the person who will be the conscience of the team to make sure the action is taken.

Why is it important to consciously separate the time you spend reflecting on the past from the time you spend thinking about changes for the future? As humans, we have a natural desire to think about how to make things better. The problem is, if we jump to the solution too quickly, we often find that we’ve come up with a great solution to an entirely different problem. This can be prevented by specifically separating the activity of reflecting on the past (by answering the 4 questions) from the activity of coming up with actions for improvement.

When trying to create an environment of continuous improvement, the most important thing to do is to keep everyone enthusiastic and optimistic that the change will, first of all, work and, second of all, stick. Your chances of achieving this are greatly increased if you tackle the most valuable areas of improvement – the ones that are causing the most pain, to the most people – so that when the change happens the positive benefits can be felt by as many team members as possible. They’ll get excited and happy to press on with further changes – it’s a win-win situation that will keep your team improving, now and in the future!

Delve a Bit Deeper into Retrospectives

If you’re interested in learning more about Retrospectives and some great insights into how to really get full value from there, have a look at our tips for using continuous improvement to bolster a group’s productivity – you can find out how to get full value from your Retrospectives, how to feel the power of celebration and how to hear every member of the team’s voice.

About the author

Laura Waite and Collin Lyons are the duo of business productivity coaches behind Flowmotion. For people in the office world who want to feel the buzz, Flowmotion is an enterprise that will awaken your passion for work. To address the all-too-typical experience of unenergetic working lives, our mission is to redesign how people interact with their environment to generate engaging, productive and collaborative atmospheres and organisations. We share several decades of experience providing organisational transformation and executive coaching and have worked with large and global organisations including: British Telecom, British Petroleum, Standard Life Assurance and Investments, British Gas/Centrica, JPMorgan Chase, Wells Fargo, Allied Irish Bank and the UK Government. You can find us at www.flowmotioncafe.com

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Meeting Outcomes

Business productivity coaches, Laura Waite and Collin Lyons, share their thoughts and expertise in today’s guest post.

Meeting Outcomes:

How to get your meetings where you want them to go

by Laura Waite and Collin Lyons

If you spend any time in meetings, here’s a scenario you may find familiar: an hour is allocated to discuss the issues and what needs to be done about them. The group examines every angle, shares each person’s opinions, and then turns its attention to considering what to do… only to discover the time is up.

Coaching Confidence guest post meeting outcomes. Meetings next exit sign

Many of us find meetings less productive than they should be. This may be familiar to you, either in your meetings or those of your clients. As coaches, on committees or in teams, we rely on meetings to come together, share ideas and ultimately make decisions. However, research shows that only 50% of meetings get through all the planned content*.

You don’t have to be stuck in that rut, and neither do your clients! There’s a simple tool that can turn meetings into brainstorming powerhouses and, whether you find yourself running group meetings or you have a client whose productivity levels are low, everyone can end the meeting feeling positive and clear about the road ahead.

The tool is called “Meeting Outcomes” and it’s the key to a productive meeting, because it ensures you are engaging the right people on the right problem. Essentially, a Meeting Outcome is a brief description of what you will make, decide or generate during that meeting. It provides a solid goal for attendees to achieve. Here are some tips to make Meeting Outcomes work for you:

Before the Meeting, Decide Your Outcomes

  • Write a description of the Outcome – A Meeting Outcome is a description of “what” will be made, decided or generated during the meeting, not “how” we should go about doing so. (By contrast, an agenda provides a path through the meeting – a description of “how” that Meeting Outcome will be achieved.) If you are leading the meeting, write a brief description of what you intend the group to make, decide or generate during that meeting, which you can then include in the invite you send to attendees. Specifically describing the Outcome for the people invited to the meeting allows them to be clearer on their ability and desire to help achieve that Outcome, which in turn ensures that the people in the meeting are interested and eager to actively engage.
  • Often, the best Outcome is an expression of a problem that needs to be solved, for example: Do we have action plans for addressing the most important risks? Do we have a basic understanding of how we will be working together? Do we all agree on the new team structure? Thinking of an Outcome as a question gets you to really focus on the problem or situation to be addressed. This is a great tip for ensuring you don’t end up with an agenda (the “how”) instead of an Outcome (the “what”). The second reason, and some may argue the more important reason, is that a question forces everyone to think about the answer: rather than just saying “done”, you’ll need to think about whether the answer is “yes or no”.
  • The Meeting Outcome needs to be clear and specific and you’ll want to aim for one that can be realistically completed in a single session. It’s usually best to have just one Meeting Outcome, whenever possible, to encourage focus.
  • If necessary, break the Outcome down – If your Meeting Outcome is too large to be completed in a single session, break it down into smaller ones that the group can achieve over multiple sessions.
  • Communicate the Outcome and invite participation – Make sure that every potential participant receives the description of the Meeting Outcome. Open up the invitation list widely to ensure you get the right people to solve the problem. You should find that those people who choose to attend are the ones who are most passionate about achieving the meeting’s Outcome. Not everyone will have a vested interest in achieving the Meeting Outcome. It might fall outside their expertise, or relate to a project or goal that person isn’t working on, or is simply something they aren’t interested in. Giving every potential participant the Meeting Outcome beforehand allows them to make a well-informed decision about their participation. If the passion isn’t there, nor should be the participant.

Coaching COnfidence guest post, Meeting Outcomes. Want to deliver?

Meeting Outcomes are one of the most valuable tools on our coaching belts – we use them whenever we plan a meeting and our clients are regularly impressed at both the outcome and the ease of application, often remarking that it increases the productivity of the meeting substantially. Ultimately, the energised, focused attitude that Meeting Outcomes encourages not only increases a meeting’s productivity by making sure it goes where you wanted it to go, it also provides you with positive, willing attendees who will be excited about your coaching ideas – and excited to take them away and use them!

Want to enhance your technique? Tips for deciding Meeting Outcomes together as a group, using Meeting Outcomes to decide whether to attend a meeting and helping people focus on Meeting Outcomes once you have them are available on our website 🙂

* CyberMeetings by James L. Creighton and James W. R. Adams

About the Authors

Laura Waite and Collin Lyons are the duo of business productivity coaches behind Flowmotion. For people in the office world who want to feel the buzz, Flowmotion is an enterprise that will awaken your passion for work. To address the all-too-typical experience of unenergetic working lives, our mission is to redesign how people interact with their environment to generate engaging, productive and collaborative atmospheres and organisations. We share several decades of experience providing organisational transformation and executive coaching and have worked with large and global organisations including: British Telecom, British Petroleum, Standard Life Assurance and Investments, British Gas/Centrica, JPMorgan Chase, Wells Fargo, Allied Irish Bank and the UK Government. You can find us at www.flowmotioncafe.com 🙂