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Soul Values – It Starts Here

 in Guest Post  tagged belief / Business with Passion / Living From Your Heart / personal development / possibility / Reeny Carvotta Barron

September is one of those times of year when many take the opportunity to reflect on their progress and plan. In this weeks guest post Reeny Carvotta Barron shares some of her experience and knowledge in:

Soul Values – It Starts Here

By Reeny Carvotta Barron

"Soul Values - It Starts Here" By Reeny Carvotta Barron

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and writing and planning this year as I launch my business and refine my message and my purpose – it’s hard work but it feels like the most valuable work there is in many ways. I’m learning so much, I’m connected with amazing people and I feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be. It’s exhilarating – even though some days are exhausting. Who knew thinking could be so tiring?

Lately I’m thinking about the ego vs. the soul and what motivates and drives us to succeed and accomplish and how the soul and ego fit into the picture. Both the soul and the ego exist and they both have their place – even when they are in conflict with one another.

In my view, the soul drives us to be, rather than do – the soul is connected to our higher purpose and isn’t as concerned with the day to day or with the outer.

It’s a delicious part of ourselves that we sometimes forget to take time to nourish. It’s where our inner wisdom lives. It’s where we know that we’re exactly right and perfect just as who we are and where we are. It’s a place that is always satisfied and doesn’t experience the longing that is so human and so defeating sometimes.

The soul is where we know that exactly what we’re doing right now and exactly what we’re experiencing is what is right for our growth and development.

And, it is. Truly it is. So often we don’t really see, believe or understand that it’s all right and perfect until we have the distance and luxury of time. Then we can look back and understand perfectly why things unfolded the way they did and we get that crisp, brilliant perspective on life. That’s when we understand that it all happened/happens as it ultimately meant to.

Why not skip the waiting and just know that right now? Not so easy you say? Agreed. But we can work toward that…

The ego on the other hand is like the competitive neighbor who wants what the person next door has, just because. Because why? Because it can, because it’s bent on desiring and agitating.

That ego agitation does generate motivation and drive and that certainly has a purpose, keeping our feet on the ground and the processes moving forward.

I’m going to spend some time this month on the soul vs. ego and I hope you’ll join me on the journey, by reading along and telling what you think, and how you see it. Together, let’s gain clarity about it all and see how we define these ideas… ready?

 

About Reeny Carvotta Barron

Reeny brings together the strengths of Higher Purpose Guidance Open Heart Coaching Heart of Business Mentor to guide intuitive sensitive women find their voice and embrace a soul aligned path to financial empowerment.

Her blogs, includes inspirational articles to guide you into the change you want to be.

You can have access to over 10 templates tools and meditations to use to realize change for yourself as you continue to live your life on purpose http://www.passionandpossibilities.com/gifts

 

 

 

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As a coach, how are you judging if you are doing a good job? 1

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It’s possible that the scenario that you are coaching in is likely to partly influence the focus and perspective of how you judge a specific coaching session.

If you are coaching where you are developing and practicing a specific ability in a training environment then perhaps you will use how you performed a specific technique, coaching model or skill as a way to judge.

If you are coaching in a business context as an internal member of a team then perhaps the judgement about how well a coaching session is influenced by other aspects of the expectations of your job role.

If you are coaching in a business context as an external provider then you may have other influences about how you judge a session was a good one.

Broadly speaking there are 5 different scenarios you may find yourself coaching:

  • In a training situation to develop a specific skill, technique or style.
  • A “formal” session in a business where you are also a team member – An example of this is a manager running a coaching session for a team member.
  • A “formal” coaching session in a situation where you are “paid” by someone other than the person you are actually coaching.
  • A “formal” coaching where you are “paid” directly by the individual you are coaching.
  • An “informal” coaching conversation with family, friends or colleagues.

For the purposes of this list by formal I mean a session where both you and the person you are having a coaching conversation with are aware that you are coaching.

By “informal” I mean a situation where the other person may describe it as a chat at lunch, or an interesting conversation in the corridor etc. – As a coach you may have been very aware that you were having a conversation that would easily be identical in a formal coaching session. It’s just not necessarily the label the other person would use.

The question I ask today is as a coach, how are you judging you are doing a good job? I appreciate that potentially the scenario and context you are coaching in may influence your judgement.

Do you form a judgement given what you have personally seen or heard? Perhaps you just get a specific feeling that tells you that you’ve done a good job.

Maybe you let your client(s) be the guide about if it was a good session and use the feedback from those directly involved.

Another aspect that some people use to judge is criteria either given directly to you by someone other than your client (ie a trainer/organisation). Alternatively, you can judge using a comparison with someone else.

You may have noticed that I specifically used the word judging, as in “to form an opinion about,” in my question.

Each method of judging can have an impact on how confident you feel about your coaching and the action that you take which can positively or negatively impact your business.

As always, if you are judging if you are doing a good job, and that way is working for you then do keep doing what you are doing. If it isn’t working you may want to consider how you are forming that judgement and what you are doing with that opinion.

Here are a few questions and observations that will apply more to some judgement methods than others:

  • Not confident about your coaching? Leonard Orr’s said “What the thinker thinks, the prover proves.” (Otherwise known as Orr’s Law.) Are you ignoring “evidence” from another perspective?

Just for fun, if you were to consider the opposite to your judgement, what “evidence” could you find? If you were to use that judgement what would you do differently?

  • Comparing yourself with someone else? What are you doing with that comparison? If you are using it to beat yourself up with “I’m not as good as” thoughts, is that a useful action?

I’ll also mention that many people pick someone with years of experience and thousand of hours of practice to use as a comparison – hardly a fair comparison if you haven’t also got years of experience and thousands of hours practice as well!

  • Totally ignoring what your clients are saying and preferring to make a judgement using other methods? Just for a moment consider the question: “What actions would you take if you let your clients guide that judgement?” What impact would those actions have on your coaching practice, either your literal business or how you approach coaching?

If you haven’t already I invite you to consider how you are judging your coaching and the impact that is having.