Liz Scott


Principles, coaching and spirituality

Many experienced coaches will tell you how their coaching has changed since they first started. In today’s guest post experienced coach Liz Scott shares a bit about how her’s has evolved.

Principles, coaching and spirituality

By Liz Scott

"Principles, coaching and spirituality" By Liz Scott

A few years ago my life transformed. It didn’t transform in a snappy, flashy ‘fireworks’ kind of way, it was more like a gentle defrosting of icy beliefs and fears. Once these beliefs had dissolved I was left standing in mental health, freedom and wellness. Don’t get me wrong. I still experience the full range of human emotions. I feel sad, happy, angry and frustrated. It’s just that I no longer dwell and wallow in these emotions; instead I fall out of them and into peace.

It all started when I came across the Three Principles behind life. When I say principle I don’t mean ‘good idea’ I mean the fundamental spiritual facts that are at the root of the whole of the human psychological experience.

Understanding these principles has been profound. I have shifted my business and life around what I am learning, my husband is too.

If you are reading this with a half skeptical ‘yeah, ok tell me what these magic principles are’ kind of attitude then I wouldn’t blame you. In fact I’d recommend you keep a healthy skeptical mind.

On one level The Three Principles (which are mind, consciousness and thought) are just words. It’s when we understand and experience for ourselves how they operate, that the real shifts begin. These principles point towards the common denominator of the human experience; they point towards the spiritual, creative potential that is in us all.

The other night I looked up onto the moon and my heart filled with awe. I momentarily tried to imagine all the people who through the ages had gazed up at the same moon.  It was too much for my brain to compute – instead I felt a sense of wonder and connection. This feeling of wonder and connection is the birthright of all human beings. I don’t have to gaze at the moon to experience it. When I’m coaching others this is the space I want to be coaching from. It is this space of creative potential that I want to point my clients to.

Another word for it would be spirituality. This is about reconnecting people with their spiritual nature. When we are plugged into this creative infinite potential then navigating through life is more fulfilling and easeful. Life makes more sense.

As coaches I believe we are here to point our clients back to this space. I want them to reconnect with a part of themselves that they have temporarily forgotten.  There is incredible richness for us all to be in touch with this.

About Liz Scott

Liz Scott is a successful business and leadership coach. She co-founded www.coachingconnect.co.uk and is running a one-day event with some of the UK’s best known facilitators and coaches on July 29th  https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/top-3p-facilitators-in-devon-coaching-connect-tickets-25648079095

 


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In today’s guest post coach Liz Scott reflects upon how she’s found a new meaning to what it is to be a coach.

Swallows

by Liz Scott

"swallows" by Liz Scott

The swallow chicks have gone. For the past week I had been talking to them as passed through the garage. They had looked quizzically at me from the nest on the rafters, with their dark intelligent eyes. I’ll miss them.

Their parents left on their migration a week ago leaving the 3 chicks behind. Since then the youngsters have been out hunting all day and building up their strength and reserves for the long journey ahead. A few days ago they left and I felt a twinge of sadness.

They’ve been part of our lives ever since we found the speckled eggshells on the garage floor. We’ve watched them grow, seen their industrious parents feed them constantly and we witnessed their first flight around the garage as they learned to use their wings.

It has been a huge blessing to observe these beautiful creatures taking their part and place in the world. There was no drama or crisis as each bird just effortlessly moved from egg to chick to fledgling.

The natural world seems to get on with life without any fuss; endless skies, changing seasons, migrating birds, ripening fruit, hibernating animals… and so the list goes on.

I can’t imagine nature has a to-do list that she keeps ticking off. There is a grace and humility to her work of constant regeneration. Nature is not a ‘thing’ or a ‘doing’ Nature is an energy that gently breathes beginnings on her ‘in’ breath and ends on her ‘out’ breath. An end is a beginning and a beginning is an end. There is a constant regeneration of life and death.

As a coach I have noticed within me a gentle spiritual awakening that has made some of the stuff I once found fascinating (money, clients, marketing, business) seem rather hollow. The things that once seduced me no longer hold the same fascination. I find I am more interested in wonder of the world (like the swallows). My focus now rests on witnessing the limitless flow of humanity and spirituality that dance through life. There is a simplicity and intense beauty that dwells within us.

Once I wanted to change the world. I thought coaching could make the world a better place. Now I realise my real purpose is to touch the spiritual depth inside me. When I do this then clients are able to touch their own wisdom and internal depth of peace within.

It seems that many coaches are in the transition of a spiritual awakening. Are you one of them? I am keen to come together with coaches who are finding new meaning to what it is to be a coach. If you find you are fascinated and absorbed by the steady beauty of nature, or if you are experiencing a spiritual transition then get in touch. I’d love to hear your story and discover how it is showing up in your coaching.

About Liz Scott

Liz Scott (www.lizscottcoaching.com) is a leadership coach working in schools and businesses. Her coaching (and life) is being transformed by the development of her understanding of the Three Principles. If you’d like to learn more then you can download an introduction to The Three Principles http://coachingconnectplus.com/3ps/

Liz is hosting a Three Principles event this November. For a full list of speakers and more details visit the Coaching Connect 3P event site

 


Coaching and Wisdom

In this weeks guest post experienced coach and trainer Liz Scott shares some of her personal experience about her journey as a coach.

Coaching and Wisdom

By Liz Scott

A guest post by Liz Scott

The other day a client sat beside me telling me he was stressed. He relayed stories of pressurised work, poor relationships and a tricky childhood. He had a myriad of thoughts, fears and worries and his life was at breaking point. In no uncertain terms he told me he wanted to be ‘fixed’. It was a compelling story and his impatience was palpable. He wanted some tools and strategies to find a quick solution.

The trouble is I don’t work like that any more. Although I have completed hundreds of hours of training and have a myriad of tools, techniques and theories; they are rarely used. Instead I draw on my understanding of something called the Three Principles.

The Three Principles has had a profound influence on my life (I feel more peaceful and relaxed) and I’m starting to share this understanding with my clients. It simplifies my coaching and helps me to focus on inner wisdom.

During this session with my client I noticed a deep feeling of love and compassion and I just kept bringing him back to recognising his own internal wisdom and spirit. Did he skip off into the sunset fired with enthusiasm? No he didn’t. Was this session a success? Yes it was.

The most useful thing we can tell our clients is about the nature of being human; the Three Principles provides the building blocks of understanding. When clients get a glimpse of this they start the most fulfilling journey possible. When they stop trying to fix their thoughts and circumstances they can taste real freedom.

The Three Principles points to the three components of our human experience. These are:

  • Thoughts: We all have thoughts and when we believe our thoughts that is our reality
  • Consciousness: We are all able to bring our world alive. We have the ability to experience an emotional and physical world
  • Mind: There is a spiritual/universal force that is behind life

When you view the Three Principles as a list you probably feel underwhelmed! When you start to experience them at work in your life it feels enriching.

I am still new as a 3P coach and my style may not be slick or clever, but it is authentic. When I get a sense of my spiritual wisdom I am able to share and respond from a grounded and loving space.

Liz Scott and Husband with Labradoodle Buzz

My new journey

If you’d like to learn more about the 3Ps then follow me on my journey (both metaphysical and real).Over the summer my husband and I are cycling from Devon to London and back (with our Labradoodle Buzz) to talk to authors and facilitators of the Three Principles. If you would like to learn more as we learn more then follow this link http://forms.aweber.com/form/58/1527998558.htm

 

About Liz Scott

Liz Scott Coaching and TrainingLiz Scott is a leadership coach and coaching skills trainer. She works extensively in schools helping to develop coaching cultures. Liz and her husband Stu run their business www.lizscottcoaching.com and they also the leaders of a supportive network for coaches www.coachingconnect.co.uk

 

 


Youth of Today

How many times have your clients shared experiences like the one Liz Scott shares in today’s guest post?

"Youth of Today" A guest post by Liz Scott

Youth of Today

By Liz Scott

What do you think of the youth of today? Are they loutish, rude thugs? After a quick search on the Internet, a quote from the Daily Mail confirmed this view: “British youths have been branded as the most unpleasant and potentially violent young people in the world.” Youngsters get a bad press so it’s easy to start believing these stories.

There’s a man I know, called Jack, who often complains about the youth of today. He’s in his 80’s and talks of a time when young people were respectful and polite. Nowadays all he ever sees are children dropping litter, spitting in the street or putting their feet on the seats of the buses. He finds youngsters frightening and intimidating.

The trouble is that once we start to believe a story like this then we ignore anything that contradicts it. It means that when we look in a newspaper we tend to disregard the stories about youngsters doing good deeds; instead all we see are scary, violent youths.

The other day Jack went shopping and he had a particularly memorable experience with a youngster. He was in the local shop and was chatting to the lady on the till whilst waiting for his change. He said goodbye to her and leaving the shop he started to walk home.

Out of nowhere a young lad, in a hoodie, tapped him on the shoulder. It made Jack jump out of his skin. As the lad lent forward Jack could feel his heart pounding in his chest. The lad reached into his pocket and terrifying thoughts erupted in Jack’s head; ‘Was he pulling out a weapon?’ ‘Should he call for help?’

The teenager took out a two-pound coin and handed it to him. “Here Mister, you forgot your change,” he said, and then giving him a big smile he sauntered on his way.

We are all a bit like Jack. We get stuck in a way of thinking and put the blinkers on. We are expecting the worse and are completely dumbstruck when our view of the world is challenged.

For Jack it was the young people, for you and me it is something else.

Do we really see the world as it is? It’s easy to over-dramatise a story and take it out of proportion. Maybe, now and again, we should challenge our view of the world and try to see things from a different perspective.

About Liz Scott

Liz Scott is a leadership coach and trainer. She is currently working in schools helping to develop coaching cultures; coaching helps bring back fun and passion into teaching and learning. www.lizscottcoaching.com

Find Liz on Twitter at @smartcoachliz

 


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Coach Liz Scott shares a story she tells to clients in today’s guest post.

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Re-energise your life and get a service

By Liz Scott

The other day my vacuum cleaner stopped working. It was half way through cleaning a rug and it suddenly died.

It wasn’t a surprise, as it hadn’t been working well for a long time. In fact I’d been picking bits of the carpet and stuffing them down the nozzle to help it out.

When it started making a funny noise I had thought to myself, “This vacuum cleaner needs a service”. That was when it stopped working all together.

As I looked despairingly at the broken machine and the half cleaned carpet I realised that for at least a year now I’d been promising it a service.

For months it had been limping along. The noise of the motor had sounded strained. But I had kept putting off a service; it had always been inconvenient.

We took the vacuum cleaner to a repairman. He took one look at it and asked when we’d last changed its filter. It’s three years old and we’ve never changed its filter. He looked aghast and made no promises that it was mendable.

He did get it working again and when we sheepishly picked it up he said he was surprised that we hadn’t burnt out the motor, the filter was so dirty. Apparently these filters need to be changed twice a year. Woops!

It was great having the vacuum cleaner back, we’d been without it for nearly a week and the house was crying out to be cleaned.

Switching it on it leapt into life with a purr of the motor. It was like we had a brand new machine. It was practically sucking up the rugs it was so powerful now. I couldn’t believe the difference.

I tell this story to some of my coaching clients. Everyone I work with is busy. These are people who have lives that are stuffed full of ‘doing things’ and they feel stretched to the limit.

They often have a glazed look of exhaustion in their eyes. They know they are working flat out, they know they are not very efficient in what they’re doing because they’re so tired; however they keep fighting on.

What we don’t realise when we get into that cycle of busy-ness is that we are quite literally wearing ourselves out. Like the vacuum cleaner, we begin a slow decline. Tasks, which we once breezed through, become arduous; decisions that seemed easy are now unclear.

We are still able to function and do our job, however the passion is gone and our hearts sink with the effort.

Like the vacuum cleaner, we need a regular service. This year make sure you take time for yourself – give yourself a ‘service’. In other words do things that re-connect you with life.

About the Author/Further Resources

Liz Scott is a leadership coach and trainer. She is currently working in schools helping to develop coaching cultures; coaching helps bring back fun and passion into teaching and learning. www.smartcoachingforschools.com

Find Liz on Twitter at @smartcoachliz


Recapping January – March 2012 guest posts 1

Over the next few days I’m going to briefly recap the last years worth of guest posts that appear here each Friday.

Today we start by looking at the first three months of this year.

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January

In the first post of 2012 Amber Fogarty shared how she is in the “habit change business” discussing something she talks about a lot with clients in “Developing Better Habits”.

Coach and trainer Lorraine Hurst then followed with a post that could be of use to both yourself and your clients. “Blue Monday – what colour will yours be?” was published just prior to the third Monday of the year – read the post to see the significance of that date!

Coach and author of “Secrets of Successful Coaches”, Karen Williams, shared her expertise and knowledge in the third guest post of the year: “How does your mindset affect your business?” Read how Karen believes mindset, marketing and business knowledge will affect a successful coaching business.

The final post in January saw Karen Wise sharing a personal experience in the post “Relationship drama.” How familiar is this incident in either your own life or with what your clients tell you?

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February

As we started the second month of the year, coach Marie Yates turned her attention to the action taken to the goals and plans made at the start of the New Year. This post contains a series of questions to assist you to make progress. Read “The warm up is complete… It is time for the main event.” 11 months since this was first published – what would your answers to these questions be today?

Liz Scott loves bringing coaches together to share experiences and knowledge. Her post focused upon “Parallel conversations and coaching”, using her personal experience as a lesson to be used in coaching sessions.

Lenny Deverill-West shared how he has been practically incorporating other teachings into his own work with clients. Read more about what he is doing in “The Coaching Aha!”

Social Media coach Nicky Kriel discussed errors she’s seen coaches make attempting one particular marketing approach. Are you making any of the blunders featured in “5 Big Mistakes that Life Coaches make Networking”?

March

March

Coach Richard Nugent invited you to “Explore Some Half Truths Of Coaching” with the aim of getting you to think about your own professional beliefs that could help you be more successful.

A coaching website is on many new coaches to do list, in the second guest post in March Mei Qi Tan shared her expertise and knowledge about what to focus upon. Read her post “Websites: It’s not just about content – it’s about users.”

Coach Angus MacLennan, who delivers practical Business Support to Business Owners, turned his attention to the subject that can have many new coaching business owners scratching their heads in the post “Niching Has Failed”

How to market your coaching is an often requested topic, in our next guest post coach Cindy Hillsey shared her expertise and knowledge in “Marketing and your Ideal Client”

In the final guest post in March Coach Toni Knights discussed what she considers to decide if it is necessary to refer clients for additional help, in her post “Identifying When Clients Need Counselling”

Visit tomorrow

Come back tomorrow for a post recapping April – June, or if you can’t wait, clicking here will bring a list of every post that has been published on this site labelled as a guest post.

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Coach Liz Scott shares her expertise and knowledge in today’s guest post.

Parallel conversations and coaching

by Liz Scott

What’s a parallel conversation? Let me give you an example. The other day I was meeting a friend for coffee at ‘Marsh Mills Sainsbury’s. She was late – so I thought I’d give her a call.

On answering the phone she assured me that she had already arrived and was waiting for me. Whilst still on the phone I looked around the cafe but she was nowhere to be seen. She was insistent that she was there and said she was moving towards the till and the food counter. Still I could see no one.

It was very frustrating; I stood up too and said I was moving towards the food counter could she see me? This conversation carried on for what seemed an age (but was only about a minute!). “You are at Marsh Mills?” She asked me. “Yes,” I said, “I’m at the Sainsbury’s café.”

Suddenly the penny dropped and we realised that we had arrived in different locations. I had gone to Sainsbury’s she had gone to a pub called ‘Marsh Mills’. We had been having a parallel conversation on the phone, both thinking we were talking about the same thing, but meaning something very different.

It’s a great reminder for coaching. Never assume you really know what your client it talking about. As the words come out of their mouth you will no doubt understand some of what they are saying. However, there is an iceberg of meaning beneath the surface: most of which you’ll never have access to. When they talk of ‘stress’ or ‘efficiency’ or ‘feeling vulnerable’ you will never really understand what it means. If you do make an assumption and you get it wrong it can jolt the client out of their journey of discovery.

How do you avoid going down the road of a parallel conversation? Don’t feel you have to be wise, or smart or overly clever. Use the language that they are using, and have a light touch. Remember – less is more. This means never assume you know what they really mean and give them the space to resolve whatever they need. If you can do this then you will find your coaching can become incredibly powerful.

About the Author/Further Resources

Liz Scott is the co-founder of Coaching Connect.  Coaching Connect brings coaches together to share experience and expertise both on the web and at popular coaching events.  Meet like minded coaches at the next Coaching Connect events on March 16th click http://coachingconnect2012.eventbrite.com/ for details.

 


Coaching in schools

What’s the best way to deliver coaching in schools?

How can pupils and staff benefit from coaching when budgets are so tight?

Liz Scott is a coach working extensively in education; she’s discovered that pure ‘leadership coaching’ isn’t the answer when working with teenagers. Here are the three key points she learnt from coaching in schools.

Coaching in schools

by Liz Scott

You would think that it would be pretty straight forward when coaching students. You would think that all you need to do is to slightly adapt head teacher coaching to suit a teenager. So when I was asked to coach students I was excited, enthusiastic and very naïve. I thought about ‘Dead Poets Society’ and imaged I would inspire these students to great things using coaching instead of poetry. It wasn’t quite that simple. I rapidly had to modify my technique to suit young people. Here are the three key things I learnt.

1. You need a liberal sprinkling of mentoring.

Realisation dawned rapidly as I sat with my first 15 year old that pure leadership coaching wasn’t the answer.

Students spend such a lot of time at school being told what to do and when to do it. The looseness of pure non-directive coaching wasn’t something they were comfortable with. The students responded best when a structured, mentoring approach was mixed with a non-directive framework.

2. Coaching could produce rapid change

The year 10 students had issues ranging from confidence, communication and organisational-skills.

It was astonishing how quickly they adjusted their habits and behaviours when they saw something from a new perspective. For example, one young lad was incredibly disorganised, he’d forget books, homework and pencils on a daily basis. His teachers were frustrated and he felt they were ‘picking’ on him. After a bit of coaching he realised (for himself) that he needed to do something differently.

As a result of the session he decided he would pack his bag every night before school. When he left I couldn’t believe he would remember this on a daily basis. However, he did. When someone ‘finds their own solution’ through coaching, then things can change quickly,

3. It’s better to train the staff in coaching skills

In an ideal world it would be great for students to have an experienced, qualified coach working with them. However, in reality there isn’t the time or money to do this.

I felt real frustration at the small impact I was able to make with individual students. I could only see a limited number of youngsters and time was tight when I saw them (each session was 20 minutes).

It seems that the real leverage is when the staff are trained in coaching skills and can scatter coaching into their conversations and interactions with the students. This is the area I began to focus on. Instead of me delivering coaching with an ad-hoc number of students I began to work with teachers and TA’s to help them use coaching skills to transform student-relationships, lessons and day to day conversations.

It’s so much better to help the staff learn fundamental coaching skills. When they can do this then the impact can be felt across the school.

Summary

Working in schools is incredibly rewarding. For me the biggest reward is helping the existing staff to adapt their communication using coaching skills. Teachers are already highly skilled in working with young people, so giving them the additional skill of coaching can make a real difference in a school.

About the Author/Further Resources

Liz Scott is part of www.smartcoachingforschools.com. She works with a coach delivering coaching skill training courses in education. Liz also brings coaches together as part of Coaching Connect. You can come to the next Coaching Connect event in October www.coachingconnect.eventbrite.com