happiness


What If Innate Happiness Exists?

The background is a bright teal/green shade. To the right is a yellow balloon floating in the air with a string fastened to it and dangling down and out of sight at the bottom of the image. The yellow balloon has two eyes drawn on in black and a big smiling face.
The text to the left reads: "Happiness is not a possession to be prized, it is a quality of thought, a state of mind." (Daphne du Maurier)"

Today is #InternationalDayOfHappiness so you’ll never guess what I’ve selected today’s quote to be about:

“Happiness is not a possession to be prized, it is a quality of thought, a state of mind.” (Daphne du Maurier)

In our journey through life, we often seek happiness as if it were an external possession to be acquired, chasing after fleeting moments of joy and pleasure Today I invite you to play with a thought experiment: What if, happiness is not something we need to pursue or attain; what if, it is an innate quality of our true nature, a state of mind that arises from within?

What if, at its core, happiness is not contingent upon material possessions, external circumstances, or fleeting moments of pleasure. Instead, how we feel emerges from the way we perceive and interpret the world around us. It is a lens through which we view life—a perspective that colors our experiences and shapes our reality. And under all of that is a innate sense of peace and happiness?

Du Maurier’s insight challenges the conventional notion of happiness as an external pursuit and invites us to explore its true essence within the realm of our thoughts and emotions. It suggests that happiness is not dependent on the accumulation of wealth, status, or achievements but is rather a byproduct of our internal state of being.

What if, at its essence, happiness is not something we need to strive for or chase after; it is already within us, waiting to be uncovered and realized? By recognizing the role of Thought in shaping our reality, we come to understand that our experience of happiness is not determined by external events but by the quality of our thinking in the moment.

As we delve deeper into Du Maurier’s quote, we uncover the transformative power of understanding the nature of thought. What if happiness isn’t about changing external circumstances but the shifting nature of our perspective on life dependent upon our thinking? What if it’s about recognizing the innate resilience and wisdom within us?

Imagine living in a world where happiness isn’t contingent on achieving a certain goal or possessing a specific object. Instead, it flows effortlessly from our ability to embrace the present moment with gratitude and acceptance because that’s when we are closer to our innate nature.

By acknowledging that happiness is our innate state, we could free ourselves from the relentless pursuit of external validation and find solace in the knowledge that true contentment comes from within. It’s not about denying our challenges or pretending that everything is perfect; it’s about embracing life with all its ups and downs and finding peace in the midst of chaos.

So, on this International Day of Happiness, let’s take a moment to pause and reflect on the true nature of happiness. I invite you to play with this thought experiment, that happiness isn’t something to be chased after—it’s something to be discovered within ourselves, in the quiet moments of reflection and gratitude.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


TED Talk Tuesday 22nd May 2018

This week the clip chosen because of its interest to coaches is from a 2014 independent TEDx talk. Watch cognitive neuroscientist Heather Collins look at happiness, lifelong growth and your mind “Successful thinking — it’s a know brainer”.

Successful thinking — it’s a know brainer: Heather Collins at TEDxCharleston


Clip length: 11 mins 26 secs

Prefer to watch via YouTube? In that case you’ll need to click here.


Discover The 6 Figure Coach Myth

In today’s guest post Freedom Business Coach Rachel Henke shares some of her expertise as she discusses something she’s observed:

Discover The 6 Figure Coach Myth

By Rachel Henke

"Discover The 6 Figure Coach Myth" by Rachel Henke

Everywhere I click lately people seem to be promising to teach how to hit 6 figures in your coaching business. You’ve probably noticed it yourself and had one of two reactions:

  • “Only 6 figures? I hit that years ago. What’s the big deal? I’m ready to hit 7” OR
  • “6 figures? Are you kidding me? If someone would just show me how to hit 6 figures I’d be over the moon and happy forever.

And here’s the other thing I’ve noticed.

The coaches who’ve already hit 6 figures still have problems or what look like  problems to them but let’s be honest here; they’re not going hungry.

And the coaches who feel desperate to hit the 6 figures also have problems or what look like problems to them too …

And perhaps they are struggling with the financials more than the first group but they’re usually not going hungry either.
So as I develop my coaching business and my understanding of what I want and what I can help my clients achieve, I experienced an insight which rocked my world.

Whether you’re at 6 figures and beyond, or yearning and striving to reach the infamous 6 figures, has little connection with how happy you feel each day.

Yes, it’s true that since I jumped off what I call my 10 year cash roller coaster, I’m able to have more of the experiences I want that I pay for with money, but I notice I still face some of the same old problems.

They just look different and show up in a different way.  It was actually quite surprising because in my first business model I can see quite clearly that I lived in the future.

‘When I reach xxx I will be so happy.’

‘When I help someone reach xxx we will both be so fulfilled.’

‘When I reach that level my problems will be over.’

‘When we can have our dream holiday it will be amazing.’

Now it’s important I’m clear about something here. I’m not saying that money can’t boost your happiness because in my experience it really can.

When I say yes to my kids rather than no to something ‘expensive’ that I want to say yes to, that makes me very happy… at least in that moment.

When I just booked our dream holiday it made all of my family, including me, very happy.

So I’m not going to become one of those guys who tells you that money isn’t important because in a physical world I think that’s just silly.

BUT it is interesting to notice how our happiness comes from the inside in the same way that the horrible feeling of worry does too.  And whether you are dreaming of 6 figures or are way beyond it, I’m betting that you still feel like you have some problems sometimes.

For example, I’ve realised that if you’re in the habit of worrying about money which so many people are, it’s just as likely that you will still worry about money even when you have a bigger flow coming in. How crazy is that?

You’ll just worry about different things such as taxes, what to invest in and how to manage your money.

I didn’t get this before but now I can see clearly that worrying is just a habit and whether you worry about whether you’re good enough to hit six figures or how you handle your business now  you have it, the worrying can feel curiously the same.

If you want to go deeper on this, your challenge today is to ask yourself a couple of questions:

question mark small 1) Why is it important to you to create or maintain a 6 figure business?

If it’s just because everyone talks about it and it feels like a sexy number then I’d encourage you to have a think about what you really want to create and why.

question mark small 2) How much of your 6 figures do you actually get to keep with your current business model?

Let’s face it, 6 figures is a nice number presuming it’s 6 figures in a solid currency, but if most of it goes back out the door again, then what’s the point?  I had a business like that for years and it was exhausting.

question mark small 3) How many hours do you have to spend travelling, preparing, delivering, marketing and generating new clients just to keep your business going?

If you’re so burned out from running your 6 figure business then your business is pretty much running you.

At the end of the day, as conscious entrepreneurs and coaches I believe we’re driven by the impact we can create but please don’t forget to make that impact on your own life too.

I hope this was helpful for you. Please share on your favourite social media and let me know what you think.

About Rachel Henke 

Rachel HenkeRachel Henke is the bestselling author of “The Niche Expert” – Harness the power of the internet to attract perfect clients, publicity & opportunities, and she is the Freedom Business Coach to thousands around the world via her Marketing & Mindset ezine and podcast.

Rachel is the founder of www.Rachelhenke.com which offers virtual coaching & simple online marketing systems for entrepreneurial experts to boost their expert factor with a magnetic brand whilst creating a life of freedom, purpose and profits.

‘Breaking free’ of the corporate world upon relocating to a sleepy village in the UK after living in Jerusalem for many years, she started her first home based business working a couple of hours a day from the breakfast bar round her two young daughters back in 2003 and has never looked back.

Several years later, tired of being out of the house & away from her children so much, she turned to the internet & social media to attract a global following and became what she now calls a ‘freedom coach.’

An in demand online marketing, personal branding expert and published author, Rachel has been featured on BBC Radio, Association for Coaching, International Coach Federation and other international media.

Claim Your Free Training & Discover The Secret Formula To Attract An Abundant Flow Of Perfect Premium, Clients Who Value Your Expertise & Want What You’re Selling:  http://rachelhenke.com/coachingconfidence