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Navigating Goals: Key Questions for Coaches and Achievers

The image features a clear, large lightbulb against a plain, light gray background. Inside the lightbulb, the filament is uniquely shaped to spell out the word "goal" in a cursive, glowing neon style. Below the lightbulb, there is a Greek proverb: "Before you score, you first must have a goal."

Today’s quote of the day is a proverb:

“Before you score, you first must have a goal.” (Greek Proverb)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you adjust your coaching methods when a client struggles with defining what they want or committing to goals?
  • What obstacles have you faced in goal-setting?
  • Where do you want to be in 5 years time?
  • How do you define a goal?
  • How important are goals in relationship to your coaching?

Bonus Questions:

  • Generally, what is your experience of working towards a goal? Are there any you have at the moment that are not following that trend?
  • What role does a clear mind play in identifying and committing to any goals?
  • What steps can you take today to define and commit to your most important goals?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Finish It Up Friday:

When you set up your own coaching business and become “your own boss” there’s lots of ways you can organise your time and business. In today’s guest post coach Jaynine Howard shares one aspect of how she organises one day a week …

Finish It Up Friday:

Why I Don’t Require My Team to Work on Friday

By Jaynine Howard

Finish It Up Friday By Jaynine Howard

Friday – oh how that word can invoke a series of fleeting emotions ranging from dread to delight.

I have coined the phrase Finish It Up Friday as a way to make a mindset shift from dread to delight. It is the day to sleep in an extra hour. It is the day to enjoy that first cup of morning coffee knowing there are no real deadlines for the day. There is no better way to start a Friday than listening to the birds chirping, reading morning inspiration, and enjoying that first cup of coffee.

I and my team work long arduous hours Monday through Thursday. We do not prescribe to a normal 8 hour day. My day is typically starting by 5 or 6 am and ends around 10 or 11pm. My team works diligently providing fabulous services and meeting deadlines so that I meet my deadlines so my clients meet theirs. Much of what my team does for me is often not seen by others. They are busy researching and gathering statistics for my clients or for whatever program I am currently working on. They are busy writing media releases, preparing marketing materials, proofreading and taking care of the invoicing.

Just as many of us observe Sunday as a day of rest I and my team observe Friday as a day of rest. Adopting a casual Friday allows me and my team to recharge our batteries. When we have a fresh brain we are more creative. Also, since they know that I do not expect them to be available on Friday they know they can schedule personal appointments and plan their time off accordingly without fear that there will be work that needs to be completed.

Not much quality work gets completed when you or your employees are mentally exhausted. Using Friday to follow up with clients, finish up a few tasks or projects, and plan for the following week is a great way to unwind and prepare to enjoy the weekend. I am usually only at my desk a few hours on Friday morning taking care of loose ends. Making time to review my week and self-reflect on what went surprisingly well and what was a bit off provides me growth opportunities. I learn from the lessons of the week.

Designing a plan for the upcoming week has shown to increase productivity and increase income. Taking time to plan the tasks I will delegate, prepare for client sessions, and set aside time for writing also reduces the stress that would normally be felt if I had not planned to enjoy a successful week. I have learned when planning what I will delegate I must set up my emails to my team so they do not post until Monday morning because they are so very dedicated they will work on the tasks over the weekend regardless of the due dates.

Finish It Up Friday is a great way to self-reflect on your week, finish up projects or tasks that didn’t get completed, and prepare for the new upcoming week. Know your energy level and planning for self-care is key to success. I encourage you adopt a Finish It Up Friday and allow your employees extra time off. They will reward you with continued hard work, an increase in productivity and creativity as well as loyalty.

About Jaynine Howard

Coach Jaynine is the owner of Dream Catcher Business and Career Coaching. Jaynine uses the knowledge and skills she acquired during her 20 year career in the United States Marine Corps, working as a Psychologist in a locked mental health hospital, and being an entrepreneur to help medical and mental health professionals, small business owners, and medical spa owners grow their businesses by teaching them her five step process for attracting their ideal clients and turning them into paying clients. You can learn more about her signature program and download her free ecourse My Five Steps to Networking Success by visiting http://coachjaynine.com/

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Use visualization techniques and the desired results will come

In today’s guest post Stacey van Gogh shares some of her personal experience and expertise:

Use visualization techniques and the desired results will come

By Stacey van Gogh

"Use visualization techniques and the desired results will come" by Stacey van Gogh

My name is Stacey van Gogh and for almost 20 years of my life now I have been a personal fitness trainer and a marathon coach.

I have spent years reading about diet, nutrition, conditioning, strength training – you name it. But it wasn’t until a life changing event hit me, before I made a change for the better.

My divorce was the catalyst for delving into the power of “creative visualization”, which basically is all about intending the desired result of what you want. I started to learn about how positive mental attitude plays a large role in the achievement of a goal.

I read books on visualization like Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles and Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret, and started using a vision board, while inspiring and coaching clients to do the same.

And before I knew it, my clients started to get results faster, I started to get more business (even though the economy was in a downturn), and this whole concept of visualization had trickled down to affect other parts of my life in positive ways.

So, what exactly is visualization and how is it done? How can you use this with clients to increase efficiency and effectiveness in goal seeking behavior? And why will this help other areas of your own life simultaneously? Check it out:

What is visualization and how is it done?

  1. Visualization (creative visualization) is based on the idea of starting with ‘the end result in mind’ and imagining your desired result before even beginning to take action.
  2. Vividly imagine and intend exactly what you are seeking, and how it will feel to have this. Create a vision board by posting pictures of your dreams alongside quotes and affirmations; you can use any board, for example, a cork or poster board.
  3. Live as if every day. Act as if you are already there. You control your actions. The rest will fall into place; just have faith, and do your part to make your dreams come true. This way you will be focused, aware, motivated and empowered to take action to achieve your dreams every day.
  4. Use affirmations and vision charms as a reminder in order to notice more day to day queues that will lead you to your goal.

How can we use this with clients to increase efficiency and effectiveness in goal seeking behavior?

  1. Advocate for the creation of a vision board; you can get pictures out of magazines or buy vision board starter kits online
  2. Review your client’s vision board together and ask questions. Talk through the various goals. Why do you want this? How will this make you feel? That way you understand what your client is seeking and how to best motivate them.
  3. Have your clients allow their minds to conceptualize how it will feel to actually have achieved these goals. Once you feel the emotions linked to these desires, you will have a more focused and intentional client to work with.
  4. Advocate for your clients to literally put visual reminders in their environment to maintain focus on the desired results. Use notes, quotes and affirmations. Next to vision boards you can use vision charms, so they always have it with them.

How can you benefit from it?

  1. Everything you do with your clients will also have a positive effect on your own life as well. By teaching it, you are doing it implicitly! I speak from experience here, because nothing has had a more positive effect on my life, ever.
  2. You can gain even more trust from your clients which will helps your advice and teachings to have greater influence on clients’ productivity. This can become even more effective with your results as a coach and attract even more business through referrals (this happened to me).

I am speaking from experience on all of the above. I have created the life of my dreams using creative visualization and I have helped many of my clients to finish marathons, lose weight, increase strength and to just feel better overall.

It wasn’t easy for me at first, but when I mastered visualization and shared it in my life (with my clients, and even friends and family), I saw amazing results for myself and for my clients.

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I would absoStacey van Goghlutely suggest you making a vision board, reading books like The Success Principles by Jack Canfield, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, and using LivingMyDream’s Vision Charms to stay focused on your desired results, and sharing all of these great tools with your clients.

Read my blogs on www.livingmydream.com for many more tips. Have a positive day!

About Stacey van Gogh’s LivingMyDream

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Co-Coaching

In today’s guest post Amanda Clegg shares some of her experience and observations about some of her recent coaching work.

"Co-Coaching" A guest post by Amanda Clegg

Co-Coaching

by Amanda Clegg

A teacher comes into a staffroom and says “I can’t…”

It doesn’t really matter what the end of the sentence is because you have probably already heard it many times before and it is not a joke!

I have found during thirty years in teaching and senior management that as a profession we are rife with self limiting beliefs. We are ready to talk ourselves down and often think we are not as good as the teacher in the neighbouring classroom etc.

I was coaching a teacher prior to the summer and she confided that she spent most of her waking hours every summer worrying what the GCSE results day would bring. This was a good teacher who was well organised and had no evidence to suggest she needed to worry at all.

The results were fine and whenever we see each other in the corridor this term, our mantra is “no evidence”.

A Co-Coaching Programme

I was asked to set up a co-coaching programme in a local secondary school. The Head teacher was clear that every teacher should be coached. The challenge was to support all teachers to deliver good and outstanding lessons consistently and that meant working with individuals to address their own particular strengths and challenges. This was to be an important part of the school commitment to continuing professional development.

In many schools up and down the country, teachers who wished to develop their practice in an area (or if their line manager felt they needed to) are given brochures of relevant courses. Research carried out in 2003 observed that:

‘there is a much better chance of learning from someone in the next classroom than from someone 20 miles away’ (Reynolds D. (2003) News & Opinions, TES 20 June)

This agreed with research in 1995, by Joyce and Showers, who reported that:

‘Training courses and workshops fail to make a long-term impact on classroom practice’ (Joyce, B. and Showers, B. (1995) Student Achievement through Staff Development. White Plains, New York places: Longman)

Regular coaching by staff working side by side in the same school with the same students should make an impact and it does.

The school in question has 60 teaching staff including the senior leadership team. Staff were asked to apply for the role of teacher coach by letter. The post would have two periods of extra non-contact time and a small monetary increase. Ten teachers applied for the role and all were interviewed and appointed. Coaching would be 1-1. The school had dabbled with coaching triads and buddies in recent history but these had not had the desired impact and quickly faded.

Teachers are ‘fast listeners’

I ran two twilight coaching training sessions for the newly appointed teacher coaches (6 hours in total) where we looked at what coaching was and was not. We practiced active listening, the GROW model technique, selected appropriate questions and developed a Coaching Protocol for staff to sign. The coaches also invited each other into their class for an observation and then conducted a coaching session with each other.

The Senior Team also wanted to be coaches and so I trained them using the same materials.

The most difficult aspect for all teacher coaches was to avoid suggesting what to do, giving ideas and solving the problem for the coachee. Teachers are “fast listeners”- usually solving the issue that is been presented before the person has stopped talking! This desire to solve the problem can stop us hearing what the issue exactly is.

We also need to stop letting others delegate their thinking to us. How often does someone bring you a problem to solve which is well within their capability? What do you do?

Are you hooked in and solve the problem?

Or do you ask what they could do to solve it?

Get Out Of Jail Free Card image (c) Mark StrozierIf you are hooked in, then this person will keep coming back with issues for you to solve. If your advice is ever wrong they have their get out of jail free card – Mr X told me to do it.

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Coaching can help if you let it

Last week, I hosted a fellow teacher from a different subject on a learning walk. Our focus was the quality of marking and feedback. Steve had commented in a 1-1 coaching session, that he felt his marking was not up to scratch. He carried around a feeling of guilt that he did not spend sufficient time on this area of his job, but also struggled to see how he could do more of this without it impacting on his lesson planning time. When I asked him what he could do about this feeling, he proposed a visit to see what happened out in the wider school.

Afterwards in our coaching session, he talked to me about what he had seen and how it made him feel. He realised that his marking was great and the students were getting good value from his efforts. The smile on his face was tangible; our fifteen minute foray across the quad to a different department had worked. He was able to let this feeling of being inadequate go and also began to think of the next steps for his own department in terms of marking and feedback.

The key principle I had to negotiate with the Head teacher was that coaching was confidential

In order to achieve the open, honest conversation about teaching and learning that was required, the process must be non judgemental. It was vital that the Senior Team or Head of Department did not require coaches to tell them how a particular teacher was doing with their coaching. Coaching must provide a supportive, open door approach in every classroom where teachers are encouraged to be innovative and take some risks which they would not necessarily do in a judged lesson.

It was agreed that the coachee is responsible for all the records of the meetings. The Coach can only be asked by the Senior Team to confirm how many coaching meetings have been held.

The Assistant Head teacher allocated the staff to the teacher coaches. I became the coach to the Senior Leadership team and also to the teacher coaches. Next academic year, I fully expect that I will not be required and the teacher coaches will take on my role. This is my goal – not to be needed!

Feedback so far – after term one

The co-coaching program has been in place for a term now and I have completed a brief feedback with the teacher coaches. It is pleasing to see the resulting comments summarised below:

  • Having support has helped. Taking to others about their teaching has also made me reflect greatly upon my own.
  • People are changing their attitudes and practise. They are thinking things through before reacting.
  • Time to reflect for coachees and giving the opportunity to focus on an area for improvement has been a luxury.
  • Staff are valuing the input and attention; goal practice is being shared
  • Staff have more confidence within their own teaching ability. Coachees now realise that lots of teachers have similar problems but just have different ways of dealing with things; this has led to independent success and cross sharing of ideas.
  • Identifying and raising people’s self limiting beliefs and challenging these has been beneficial.
  • It is great to have the chance to talk confidentially about things and not worry about it being repeated.
  • The chance to discuss aspects of pedagogy is great
  • Having someone who is non judgemental to talk to is great
  • More useful than anything else we have tried. I wish we had done this years’ ago.
  • Very beneficial – has opened a lot of conversations up and got people into different areas of the school and lessons.
  • My coachees are thinking about how to be outstanding consistently and willing to try new things
  • Wider relationships which are cross curricular. There is an openness to learn and teachers are talking about T&L
  • The coaching process is leading to meaningful, practical sharing of good practice and identification of areas for development which I believe is leading to a genuinely reflective process and better T&L. I feel we are both learning and improving our practice as a result.
  • I am hugely happy with the process and feel I am benefiting enormously

What types of goals are being set?

I asked coaches to summarise the types of areas their coachees were working on. It was great to see both the diversity but also the congruence of the goals.

distribution of goal areas from "Co-Coaching" A guest post by Amanda Clegg

As with any new intervention there are teething issues, but these seem very minor in comparison to the positive comments and benefits above. I am looking forward to term 2 and also setting up the co-coaching programme in another school.

About Amanda Clegg

Amanda CleggAmanda Clegg has been a science teacher in state secondary schools for almost thirty years. She was a member of a Senior Leadership team for 15 years before being asked to lead a private sixth form college through their initial ISI inspection. The college achieved an outstanding judgement. Amanda now works as an Educational and Coaching Consultant in Oxfordshire and Swindon. She is currently acting as temporary Head of Science two days a week in a local secondary school, as well as being an Associate trainer for Creative Education, co-author of a GCSE revision guide and an Associate Lecturer for UWE on the PGCE programme.

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The Change Journey

In today’s guest post Phil Manington shares how he’s using his coaching knowledge and skills with a personal experience.

"The Change Journey" A guest post  by Phil Manington

The Change Journey

by Phil Manington

I recently returned from a month’s holiday in France and was keen and enthusiastic to get back to work. Imagine how frustrated I felt when I suffered a retinal detachment in my right eye. Now I’d had problems previously with my left eye but this was serious – I needed an emergency operation and there was a real risk of losing my sight.

After the initial shock, I realised that this was a great opportunity to practise what I preach – after all, my colleague Steve and I run coaching courses which are aimed as much at people who want to coach themselves as those who want to coach others.

The approach we use is very simple, based on the principle that coaches help people to change. We use the metaphor of a journey – a successful change journey will involve a start (understanding where we are), a goal (where we want to get to) and action, with monitoring and adjustment on the way before celebrating success.

Now recovering from an eye operation might seem a slightly unusual topic for coaching – usually we are coaching someone through a change they have chosen to make – but it is proving really useful through what is a difficult period of enforced change for me.

So, two weeks after the operation, how am I doing and what lessons have I learned that are helping me in my coaching practice?

Start: This seemed obvious at first sight (as it is with many clients) but it was actually quite complex. My physical state was clear but my emotional state much less so. I was filled with conflicting emotions – feeling simultaneously optimistic, shocked, scared, impatient and irritated at not being able to drive or work. I notice how often my clients are similarly mixed up and are often very uncomfortable about that. In extreme cases, mixed feelings can generate demoralising inner conflicts that are tough to resolve.

Goal: The answer to that favourite coaching question – what do you want – also seemed obvious but was it? I wanted full sight restored. But there was a significant risk that the operation would not be successful and I seemed to have limited ability to control that. This added to all those mixed feelings which created an almost overwhelming sense of doubt and uncertainty.

So what did I really, really want? I needed to think wider than the operation – what was really important to me? What did I want to be able to do whatever state my sight was in? What was possible even if the worst happened? How did I see my life in 5 years’ time? Exploring these questions helped me particularly with the fear and uncertainty and put me in a much more resourceful state.

Two key learning points for me are:

  • Many clients find it very difficult to define what they want. It always seems to help to link it to a bigger picture – helping them to imagine future possibilities and tying into their core values and life goals.
  • ‘SMART’ goals are often very useful but there are times when they can get in the way. Sometimes a client is better served by an intention which guides direction and can be used to inform intermediate goals.

Take action: I didn’t seem to have much choice – have the operation (or lose my sight), then follow recommendations for recovery. Normally, clients have some choices, but sometimes they feel as if they don’t and this can lead to a feeling of powerlessness. One of my favourite quotations offers help:

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor E. Frankl

I couldn’t change what was happening to my eye but I could choose how I responded. For me, this is a key part of coaching – helping clients realise that only they can empower themselves. There are then two roles the coach can play:

  • helping clients be in the best emotional state to maximise their chances of success – for me, this included meditation, music and support from friends and family, but it is different for each person and worth spending time identifying what will help.
  • holding clients to account – some people will push too hard, be over-ambitious or unrealistic; others might lack confidence and hold back. A valuable role for the coach is to hold up a mirror, give good feedback, which is factual and objective.

Monitoring and adjustment: I thought I’d be well on way to recovery by now but complications mean I still have badly blurred vision, headaches and dizziness and I’m still not able to drive. So there’s not much progress to monitor, just lots of waiting and trusting in the healing magic of time.

The big lesson for my coaching is that it’s not just about monitoring progress towards any objective. It’s also monitoring emotional state, the impact on the rest of life, on relationships, etc.

Celebrating success: I’m not there yet on my own change journey but it’s useful to remember that it’s not just about waiting to finish before celebrating. Small successes on the way are hugely valuable, helping to build enthusiasm and confidence and maintain momentum. In my case, successes have included allowing others to help, resting even though I have a big backlog of work and getting round without a car. This might seem like small things for others but have been massive for me. It reminds me how important it is to put myself in the position of my client.

The overall learning for me is that, whilst there are lots of different approaches to coaching, the important principle that underpins it all centres on helping the client maintain an emotionally resourceful state throughout the whole change journey.

About Phil Manington

Phil Manington is co-founder of Suffolk Coaching Zone. He is a professional trainer, coach and management consultant, specialising in helping businesses and individuals to make successful change and achieve their full potential.

Phil currently offers training, workshops and one-to-one coaching for personal and business clients. Specialist areas include leadership skills, building self-confidence and self-esteem, and improving relationships. Follow Suffolk Coaching Zone on Facebook and Twitter.