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Youth at Risk and Transform Coaching

In this weeks guest post Emily Finney and Ellie Garraway share observations about how a company and charity who uses coaching has developed over the past 20 years.

Youth at Risk and Transform Coaching

by Emily Finney and Ellie Garraway

Here at Youth at Risk we have been delivering high impact personal development programmes for young people for 20 years. Our courses have a track record of changing attitudes and negative beliefs of disaffected and disengaged young people but perhaps more surprisingly we have developed a following in the world of adult personal development and coaching too.

All of our work with young people involves training adults (professionals, parents, volunteers) and we have found over the years that these adults stick around – they want more of the Youth at Risk methodology because it is impacting the way they live their lives, their sense of connection to others and their ability to make a difference.

It was really our adult champions (you know those people who are always in touch to find out when their next chance to volunteer or attend a training might come along) who were the driving force behind creating Transform Coaching.

Transform Coaching goes back to the origins of the “Youth at Risk” methodology – powerful performance coaching delivered on to a foundation of transformational personal development – and couples it with an accreditation from Edinburgh University. It’s all about sorting out who you are and your baggage first before you even begin to think about learning how to coach another. It is a high impact, challenging course – and as with the work of the charity – delivers fairly extraordinary results as Kate from Levi’s can testify

“I had heard previously how amazing the transformational coaching was but nothing could prepare me for the huge impact it had. You really do walk away feeling transformed. You really do learn about yourself and how you really do limit yourself through your beliefs and conversations you have with yourself. At times the training was challenging and at times I was completely out of my comfort zone but I overcame this and really put 100% into the training. I walked away feeling profound, energetic and with a new appreciation of myself.”

Kate – Levi’s UK

Our collective approach to transformation is based on a simple but shattering truth. In this intensively competitive globalised world, learning new skills and techniques alone are no longer enough. You must see the world in a new way and reinvent yourself. You must transform. We’ll be the catalyst. We’ll challenge you to recognise new opportunities that were not available or visible to you before.

We have witnessed some amazing transformations in people who have completed the course and participants have told us they have improved their decision-making skills, effective management of others from a coaching perspective, highly improved communication skills and increased levels of motivation. One employer told us that their staff member looked different after the course!

“This is an extraordinary course in so many ways and I know that the awareness and insights I have gained will continue to grow long after I have left and will impact on every aspect of my life and relationships.”

Our courses have certificated accreditation in association with The University of Edinburgh Business School. This is made possible through our affiliation with Peter Hill’s Coaching for More consultancy, a well-respected organisation committed to the learning and development of coaches and mentors. www.cfmi.co.uk – we enjoy working with Peter Hill a lot and he has been great in helping to bring Transform Coaching to adults.

About the author

Written by Emily Finney – Transform Coaching Manager – New to Youth at Risk with the help of Ellie Garraway.

About Transform coaching

Give us 4 days and we’ll transform the rest of your life.

To find out more ; www.transformcoaching.org / Facebook // Twitter // LinkedIn

About co-writer Ellie Garraway

Ellie’s role in Youth at Risk is as Operations Manager responsible for all Education programmes and has been instrumental in the rapid growth of this critical area of work. She is also a key trainer on Coaching for Success programmes, delivering intensive personal development training courses to school staff, year 10/11 pupils and the volunteer performance coaches.

Prior to working for Youth at Risk, Ellie worked as Training and Development Manager for a large fundraising organisation, designing and delivering all of their in-house training. She has also worked as a freelance trainer, designing and running courses for a variety of client groups including: MBA students, counsellors, actors and all manner of business people. Other work includes – company director and co-founder of a national touring theatre company, fitness instructor and personal trainer. Ellie has also represented the South of England as a long-distance runner and continues to compete at a high level.

Ellie holds a BA (Hons) in English Lit. & Theatre Studies (University of Leeds) and a Postgraduate Diploma in Acting (Welsh College of Music and Drama).

 

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Selling Made Simple 1

Supercoach Michael Neill shares some thoughts on selling in this week’s guest post.

Selling Made Simple

by Michael Neill

Over the past couple of days, I’ve really enjoyed participating on a “Creating Clients” seminar given by Supercoach Academy faculty members Steve Chandler and Rich Litvin. We were challenged, cajoled, and at times even coddled through the process of facing up to and breaking through our fears about enrolling clients and selling our products and services in the world.

While there were a number of wonderful strategies shared throughout the weekend for inviting conversations and making powerful proposals, I became fascinated early on by a simple question that was being asked by the still, small voice in the back of my head:

What would selling be like if I didn’t know anything about how to do it and was completely comfortable with that fact?

The first thing I realized is that I would show up without much on my mind. I wouldn’t fill my head with affirmations about my self-worth or “visualize success”. If I had any intention at all, it would simply be to see what I could best do to assist, help, or serve the person in front of me.

Not having much on my mind would leave me very present. This quality of presence would ensure both high quality listening and a natural, unforced human connection.

I wouldn’t need to prepare any questions because anything I wanted to ask would arise instinctively out of my curiosity and interest in answering fundamental questions like “what would make the biggest positive difference in your life right now?”, “how can I serve you?”, and for myself, “do I want to?”

Because I’m comfortable not knowing what I don’t know, if you asked me anything that I hadn’t thought about, I would just think about it in the moment. If a satisfactory answer didn’t come, I would promise to get back to you when I had an answer and then keep my promise.

I wouldn’t have any fear about telling you the cost of my product or service because (as Steve repeatedly pointed out throughout the weekend) it would be no more significant than giving you my phone number so you could get in touch if you wanted to speak further. And if I hadn’t already decided what my fee was, I would make it up based on what would make me want to choose you as the next person to serve.

My lack of agenda would inoculate against the appearance of much “sales resistance”, and concepts like “overcoming objections” would become irrelevant because my job is to find a way to serve you, not to find a way to get you to do what I want. In fact, selling would never feel forced or manipulative because if I couldn’t find a way to serve you that I actually wanted to do, I would just move on to the next person.

If I wasn’t enjoying my sales and enrollment conversations, I would know that either I had slipped into thinking my job was to “make a sale”, or that perhaps I wasn’t terribly convinced that what I had to offer would actually be of service.

As the essayist Lawrence Platt writes:

“If you’re experiencing enrolling others in your possibility as a chore, it’s likely you haven’t yet completely distinguished your possibility. If you possibility is authentic, if it’s clear, if it’s genuine, then it’s inspiring to you. When it’s inspiring to you, then it’s inspiring to others. No effort is required for it to be enrolling. Inspiration grounded in possibility is naturally contagious: everyone gets it, everyone wants it. It literally enrolls others by itself.”

When we began enrolling Supercoach Academy three years ago, my first instruction to the enrollment team was that I would evaluate their effectiveness by how often I was thanked by potential students for allowing them the chance to speak with my team. I figured that if we found a way for people to feel grateful for being “sold to”, chances were we would not only wind up making sales, we’d also wind up building strong relationships for the future.

What made my reflections this weekend so powerful was the realization that “sales as service” isn’t just a clever ideology – it is the most natural and unforced way to sell, and as such will provoke the least internal resistance to the process.

In other words, when selling is really about you, not me, it’s really fun to do. Since I’m enjoying doing it, I’ll do more of it. As I do more and more of it, I’ll get better at it. And when I start getting noticeably better at it, chances are I’ll begin to enjoy it even more…

Have fun, learn heaps, and a belated Happy Mother’s Day to all!

With all my love,

Michael

About the author

Michael Neill is an internationally renowned success coach and the best-selling author of You Can Have What You Want, Feel Happy Now!, the Effortless Success audio program and Supercoach: 10 Secrets to Transform Anyone’s Life. He has spent the past 21 years as a coach, adviser, friend, mentor and creative spark plug to celebrities, CEO’s, royalty, and people who want to get more out of their lives. His books have been translated into 13 languages, and his public talks and seminars have been well received at the United Nations and around the world.

Copyright © 2012 Michael Neill. All Rights Reserved

 

 


The Challenges of Developing an Online Coaching Package

In this week’s guest post coach Beverley Ireland-Symonds shares what she has learnt developing an online coaching packages.

The Challenges of Developing an Online Coaching Package

by Beverley Ireland-Symonds

Have you ever thought about developing an online coaching package that you can use with clients?

I know for many coaches the thought of trying to coach a client online, other than using Skype would be a complete anathema. In fact to many it would be a training programme – not a coaching programme, but when I first started training as a coach I knew it was something that I wanted to explore.

Coming from a teaching background, part of my MA studies in Post Compulsory Education and Training had been to examine the challenges of online tutoring and mentoring so I knew a lot about the amount and type of support that might be needed. I was also used to creating all sorts of different resources for access through a VLE (Virtual Learning Environment) so I was confident about my ability to produce good content.

I also knew that I had valuable skills that not only did I not want to lose, but I also thought could be effectively utilised in my Coaching. I knew online coaching wouldn’t suit everyone but I was certain that there were potential clients out there that would make it a viable proposition. After all there has been a huge growth in online training.

However, it’s easy to have these ideas but quite a different thing to implement them. Other things soon got in the way and took priority and although I kept kicking the idea around and researched what other people were doing the ideas that I periodically sketched out stayed in a file. But this year I decided I didn’t want to keep putting it off and I wanted to make it happen.

And what a learning curve it has been. I had no idea the amount of things I would have to think about.

Firstly I had to consider whether any part of my niche confidence and career coaching would lend itself to being delivered online. Having decided it would and having made the decision I wanted to create a programme for people who are job hunting and struggling to get their ideal job I was then very quickly on to thinking about:

  • Advantages and disadvantages of coaching online
  • Identifying potential clients
  • The programme offer
  • What coaching methods could be used
  • Course content
  • Writing materials
  • Finding a suitable online platform to run the programme
  • Creating video and audio files
  • Additional support for clients
  • Marketing strategy
  • Quality …

And so the list went on. It was a much bigger job than I had initially thought, particularly as I decided from the start that I didn’t want to outsource any of the work. This was partly a cost issue but also because I wanted to be able be able to change things and update them easily without having to contact someone else to do it.

However, this meant although I had lots of skills I still needed to learn new ones including how to build my own VLE (Virtual Learning Environment) from scratch.

Foolish perhaps, but I stuck with it and if all goes well, I’m hoping to launch ‘Become a job seeking superstar’ within 7 weeks.

So what are the some of the advantages of offering an online coaching programme?

For the clients

  • Flexibility to study when they want
  • Ability to choose what they learn
  • Opportunity to work at their own pace
  • Opportunity to be able to access some coaching without immediately committing to 1 to 1 coaching sessions.

For the coach

  • Able to expand services offered
  • Opportunity to earn passive recurring income
  • Able reach more potential clients

And the key disadvantages which could affect both coach and clients

  • Technical errors
  • Timely support
  • Limited personal contact (depending on the programme offered)
  • Competing priorities

So what have I learnt from creating a coaching programme? Well lots of things …

  1. The need to research thoroughly including looking at any similar programmes.
  2. The importance of Identifying the needs of the potential clients and offering them ‘solutions’ to problems.
  3. Have an offer that is flexible to the needs of different clients.
  4. Coaching online requires a completely different mode of delivery – ‘teach’ first and then coach – rather than coach and draw ideas out of the client.
  5. Anticipate some of the ‘difficulties’ people may have either with the system or the materials and consider what support will be offered
  6. A fairly high level of technical skill is required if you want to offer a multi-media programme (unless you outsource the work)
  7. Testing and receiving feedback is a key component of the whole process
  8. Offer a product that doesn’t compromise on quality or in any way diminish the concept of ‘coaching’
  9. Recognise that there’s nothing wrong in starting small. Expansion can come later.
  10. Keep a positive attitude and a sense of humour at all times!

And now I’m nearly there will it be a success? That I won’t know until some months after I have launched the programme, but my testers have been positive and I have set myself very small manageable targets so I am very optimistic.

Would I recommend creating online coaching programmes to other coaches? Yes I would. It’s hugely challenging and it needs a whole different mindset and creativity to make it work but it is a real opportunity to offer a different service and expand your client base. It won’t suit everyone, but if it is something you’ve toyed with, give it a go.

About the author

Beverley Ireland-Symonds has worked in different fields including the NHS, travel and tourism, fashion, as well 16 years in adult and further education. As a qualified NLP Coach and Certified Practitioner, she works with clients to improve their confidence and image and has developed an online coaching programme for people returning to work after a break. She also runs a training and consultancy company specialising in communication skills and language development. You can follow her on Twitter and LinkedIn


Leadership Decisions – A Lesson From McDonalds

In this week’s guest post teambuilding coach Sean Glaze shares his expertise and knowledge.

Leadership Decisions – A Lesson From McDonalds

by Sean Glaze

Can you close your eyes and see the menu board from your local McDonald’s?

Most of us who have visited often with our kids can effortlessly envision their value meal options and can order things from the “dollar menu” without even looking up.

I thought of this after my son’s basketball game when our family chose to stop in for a late lunch, too far from home to get away with making them settle for chips and a turkey sandwich.

royalty free mcdonalds

We all entered the restaurant, walked to the back of the short line, and then were greeted by the cashier who asked what we would like to have. Of course, my son was very clear before we had arrived. He wanted a Big Mac, fries, and a chocolate shake. When I told him it didn’t come with a chocolate shake, he even offered to pay the difference, saying “I’ve got money at home, dad- I just really want a shake!”

I gave him a parental “We’ll see…,” but was pretty sure he could survive without the shake.

My wife and our two daughters were not ready to decide as quickly, though.

They have been to McDonald’s restaurants on numerous occasions before, but still struggled to choose what it was they wanted, and grew even more uncomfortable when they saw a group of incoming customers. Feeling rushed and exasperated, they responded in three very different ways.

I thought of a quote from Seth Godin – “You don’t need more time. You just need to decide”

My wife said to me, “Oh, goodness – just get me something. You know what I like.” My oldest daughter said to me, “Whatever is cheap dad- I don’t really care.” And my youngest daughter followed that with, “I’ll just get whatever she does, okay?”

At first I was a bit shocked, but I hurriedly ordered, and then waited at the counter while I considered what had just happened while our food was prepared.

My family was a microcosm of decision making styles!

Leaders must make decisions – and the higher you climb, the more important your decision become. But it occurred to me that there were four very distinct examples of decision making in our family – at least in this illustration…

  1. Some people refuse to make a decision and let others choose for them – that isn’t very healthy, and usually results in dissatisfaction of some kind – usually regret by the decision maker for their hesitancy.
  1. Some people want to take the easiest route, wanting only to invest the smallest amount to get by with whatever is cheapest in terms of effort or resources. This “penny wise – pound foolish” approach is dangerous, because it fails to consider the long term effects that their short sighted decisions might have.
  1. Some people just follow the crowd and do what their friends or acquaintances will deem as acceptable. But what is popular isn’t always best, and what is best isn’t always popular… and strong leaders must be willing to make decisions that are unique to their situation and organizational needs.
  1. And some people want more than is offered to the masses on a menu. They want more and are willing to pay the price to enjoy it. They push their people to perform at a higher level and demand extraordinary results – and they recognize that it is often rewarding to invest more than others think is necessary.

I stood there thinking to myself that the McDonalds menu in front of me was what we all look at as leaders of any organization. We all have a menu of opportunities and goals– whether it is a principal setting teacher expectations of performance or a coach setting goals for the season, we all make decisions that impact the people we work with.

Joel, a prophet in ancient Israel, wrote “Multitudes, multitudes in the valley of decision!” (Joel 3:14). I can only imagine how that looked; people milling around confused and wondering which way to go. Things haven’t changed much over the past 2,800 years.

The question of how to approach your decisions as a leader then becomes at least as clear as how to approach what we’re having for lunch. Be sure to order what you want, and consider what it will cost, whether up front or in the future.

Everyone has a menu in front of them. Everyone is responsible for their choices, and must stomach it – even if it was a choice they tried to evade having to make for themselves.

And everyone is capable of asking for and getting more than the ordinary meal.

Yes, I got my son the chocolate shake. Because he asked for it… Because he was willing to give more to enjoy something he really wanted… But mostly because I wanted a taste!

So, the next time you go into a McDonalds – look up at the menu and smile. Know that making decisions is a skill you can develop – both in yourself, and in those on your team.

And encouraging them to participate in team decisions is important, even when sometimes they make mistakes. Mistakes are less common, though, when people take ownership.

If you want your people to invest in team decisions, consider the impact that a full or half day of fun Atlanta teambuilding and leadership training could have on your organization.

With improved morale, communication and leadership skills they will be far more willing to collaborate and contribute to the team’s success – and as a leader, that is ultimately what your decisions are supposed to produce.

About the author

sean blue picAs a speaker, author, and team-building coach, Sean Glaze entertains and influences groups with a unique blend of dynamic content, interactive activities, and practical action steps. His team-building website, www.GreatResultsTeambuilding.net, provides more information on the team-building events, speaking engagements, and training workshops he offers.

If you are part of a business, school, or athletic team that needs to improve communication, inspire accountability, energize morale, contact him and transform your group into a more productive team!

 

 

 

 


What has Shakespeare got to do with coaching?

This was originally published as a bonus article in the Coaching Confidence weekly email during June 2011. To start getting your very own copy each week enter your details under “Don’t miss a thing!” to the right of this page.

What has Shakespeare got to do with coaching?

The catalyst for last weeks post was observing a workshop that the Royal Shakespeare Company “Head of Voice” Cicely Berry ran. It was a piece based around what we can learn about best practice in other fields and including a few coaching questions. If you missed it you can read it here.

This weeks message will continue with that theme as I also observed a second workshop ran by two top directors working with a group of actors on a particular speech.

You’ll notice that there are coaching questions to consider throughout the piece. Feel free to play with those questions and I invite you to notice which one makes the most difference for you.

Greg Doran is currently Chief Associate Director with the RSC and has been described as “one of the great Shakespearians of his generation.”

John Barton co-founded the RSC 50 years ago and possesses an encyclopaedic knowledge of Shakespeare and is known to be able to identify one of his plays from a single line of text. With such a background of experience and knowledge he shared his perspective about how things have changed.

One of the things he mentioned is that “Now what I do is different to what I did then …Then the basic needs were different.”

The experience of actors and the expectations of the audience not being the same is probably not a surprise when you consider that half a century has passed since the RSC began. If you have a coaching business you may be aware that your dream clients expectations and what they see their needs as being have changed over time.

That may be that you find that potential clients over time approach you with different requirements. It may also be that an individual client, if asked, will say something different at the start as compared with at the end of you working together about what was important to them about your work.

A coaching question to consider: When was the last time you checked what your dream clients expectations and needs are?

In the workshop the actors all had the speech that they were working on, in their hand, printed on paper. One of the pieces of advice that the actors were given was not to read straight from the text and worry about getting the words exact immediately. They were invited to share with audience until that happens. The focus was ”not how to speak the verse but how to make the audience listen”.

A coaching question to consider: What else can you do to make a potential client listen?

If you were to draw connections between the last two points you may say that being aware of when things change allows flexibility in approaches and communication to reflect where someone is now.

As a coach you may be aware of a benefit that your clients value above all else at the need of your work together, however, if that’s not something that they rate as important as a potential client you are likely to struggle to attract their attention initially.

One of the changes that John Barton talked about was that 50 years ago actors had far more experience of working with Shakespeare’s texts in rep theatre etc prior to working with the RSC. This has also brought a change in attitude in those who he works with – “Now actors are perfectly prepared to turn up, knowing nothing, plunge in and find out.”

One of the things that many talk about that you can get from coaching is new insights – which can be thought about as a new thought or perspective not previously seen. As a coach I love when clients are happy to plunge into a conversation and find out what happens.

A coaching question to consider: If you were to let yourself” plunge into a topic and find out,” what would you do differently?

I loved watching two different directors at work with the same group to see each reaction and hear the comments that they made at specific points.

Both directors explained that they had similar approaches about how they work. John Barton said “You do a bit, then I react and pick out what I think will be the most useful for you at this moment.” Whilst Greg Doran said that he was only going to give a “Small nudge [as I] don’t want to say more then I have to, to get you going.” Asking himself “What can I say that’s minimal that will allow them to take off?”

This means that the responses and comments are different for different actors.

Why do I mention this in this piece? I don’t know about you but when I coach one of the questions I’m considering is a variation of “what is going to make the biggest difference at this moment?” And “what is the nudge that is going to get this person going?”

A coaching question to consider: What is the one thing that is going to make the biggest difference for you?

As part of a discussion about the words in the text that the actors were working on they were told, “Words themselves have a life of their own” providing a “series of clues and opportunities, that as long as you know how to read, you can then make it your own.”

As a coach you may be aware that in a coaching conversation sometimes it is certain words that prompts you to ask a particular question. Sometimes it may be a specific statement but other times it may be a clue that suggests a belief or perception that is hindering a client.

One of the things that I can see new coaches hunt for is the “right question” to ask in a specific circumstance. I’ve come to see, over time, that there is often more than one question that can be asked. It’s picking up on the clues and opportunities that allow you to develop your own coaching style that makes a difference for your clients.

There were many, many other areas I could discuss prompted by the examples and comments I saw and heard in that session and the one I wrote about last week. However, if I did this would turn into a piece as long as a Shakespearean play!

So before I go I wanted to share one last thing. That workshop had individuals with a wide range of RSC experience involved – ranging from 50 years to those who had only just joined. They all agreed that the great thing about RSC is “the other stuff that goes on” – it’s a learning environment.

To put this into context; the RSC has some of the best in their fields working for them – to my knowledge, an actor can only audition if they are specifically invited. Yet they are continually asking questions and it’s “impressed on that [we] don’t know it all.” They “encourage you to ask questions and to explore” which was credited with inspiring “investment from the company.”

I invite you to ask questions and explore more this week and see the difference that focus has for you.

Love

Jen

About the Author

Jen WallerJen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

She has created a free 7 day e-course about how to create your own unique coaching welcome pack that works for you and your clients. Get your copy here.


Have Faith

Coach, creative consultant and soon to be Yoga teacher Louise Gillepsie-Smith shares her personal experience and lessons she’s learnt so far in this week’s guest post.

Have Faith

By Louise Gillepsie-Smith

Do you ever wonder where your next clients are going to come from?

Do you ever start to worry or feel desperate about finding business?

As coaches we all know about the law of attraction and getting what we focus on but how much do you fully trust the universe to provide you with everything you need? To allow yourself just to go with life’s flow and have faith everything will work out exactly as it is meant to be.

When I first started as a coach over 5 years ago I was super positive, I had my goals, my week by week, day by day action list and work started to come in. As promised by the company I trained with after so many months I had 10 clients. I was really pleased with my self! Then they started to drop off a bit, people finished their course with me and not all the free taster sessions I gave turned into paying clients. From then on it started to feel a little like a up hill struggle, I was doing everything I could to find clients but not feeling like I was getting enough. I would do things I didn’t really want to do just to try to find work and working all hours. Then one day I discovered Yoga, it relaxed my mind so much that I set an intention for the next year ahead……to only do things I love.

That year a miracle occurred, I was doing less work to find business, I was enjoying myself fully and guess what, more work flowed to me that year than ever before! You see when you are having fun, enjoying what you do and not acting desperate you become like a magnet. People want a bit of what you have got. I know this is something I am sure we all tell clients all the time but even coaches can have loose our faith a bit sometimes too!

Since then I have slowly but surely deepened my faith in the Universe to provide me with everything I need. This became even more powerful after January 2011 when I sat on a beach under the full moon in India and set my intention for the year ahead. I was going to finally move to the beach, after 4 years of thinking about it, and to travel for 6 months around India in 2012, a dream I held for the past 13 years. The day after I returned from my holiday I lost a coaching contract in a company which set the wheels in motion for me to make these changes.

Here I am now writing this blog for you in Mcleod Ganj in the mountains in Northern India, I am here training to be a yoga teacher! When I get back in June I am moving to Brighton. My intention I set in January 2011 manifested and the events that led me to be here were not all under my control. Everything just seemed to shift to make it happen. I just trusted that it would some how and learnt how to be patient!

Here are a few tips I have learnt for setting your intention and having faith life will work out exactly as it’s meant to be:

1. To remind myself of what I choose to create in my life I like to use crystals as each type has a different energy and healing power. For example Rose Quartz is great for opening your heart and attracting love. Citrine is good for abundance, joy, creativity and fully trusting the universe. When you get a crystal you have to cleanse it (this can just be done by running it under water and focusing on any negative energy washing away whilst returning to it’s full power) set your intention for it and then when ever you see or hold it you will be reminded of your intention. A post it note on the wall works well too if you don’t believe in crystals!

2. Be with uncertainty. We don’t ever want to know the ending of a great film so why do we want to know what is going to happen next in our lives?! Replace “I hope” with “I wonder if” and enjoy watching the mystery of your life unfold!

3. Have faith in yourself and learn to listen to your heart. So often we get caught up in our minds but as we all know our minds often get caught up with fear. If you believe in what you are doing and feel deeply it is the right path for you then trust it.

4. Be patient. It’s impossible to put a time on when something will materialize in your life, just trust it will happen when the time is right.

5. Trust you will attract the clients and business that is right for you. It’s easy to get concerned that there are so many other coaches out there but I really believe we all have something unique to offer and the right clients will find you.

6. Do what you love. As I mentioned before I learnt that getting desperate and trying everything to find work including some activities that didn’t fill me with joy just didn’t work! As soon as I relaxed it all started to flow.

I am sure you already have a good understanding of the law of attraction being coaches, I had too but there was always a little part of my that didn’t 100% have faith in it until now. Over the past year I have been running an experiment to see the impact setting intentions have, I have set a different intention for each month and lived by it. You can read about it here; http://ajourneyofintention.com/ or follow me on Twitter LouiseatCreate.

About the Author/Further Resources

Louise is a confidence coach, image consultant, and soon to be yoga teacher, she runs a business called Create Yourself supporting people to create lives they love.


What can we learn from best practice in other fields? 1

Although it’s a best guess, today is the day which is credited as being Shakespeare’s 448 birthday! So it seemed appropriate to publish this post today.

This was originally published as a bonus article in the Coaching Confidence weekly email during June 2011. To start getting your very own copy each week enter your details under “Don’t miss a thing!” to the right of this page.

What can we learn from best practice in other fields?

Both this week’s Monday post and next week’s will focus on two workshops I have recently observed. Some of the following will specifically talk about a different industry with different job titles, yet I invite you to consider the points that you, as a coach, can take from this experience.

To help, I’ve added a few coaching questions to consider throughout this piece, however, feel free to ask your own coaching questions as they occur to you.

Last week I spent a delightful, if somewhat rainy, day in Stratford – Upon – Avon. The Royal Shakespeare Company (the RSC) was having an open day with various events scheduled throughout the day.

For those who are not aware of The RSC they are a theatre company who see their “job to connect people with Shakespeare and produce bold, ambitious work with living writers, actors and artists.”

The first workshop I watched was led by the RSC’s “Head of Voice” Cicely Berry. We were first treated to a bit of history about how in 1969 the RSC was the first theatre company in the UK to employ someone specifically to work with actors just for voice. It was felt that the training that the young actors were getting did not prepare them to “fill spaces.”

Being a new approach, Cicely Berry described how she was working on her feet, figuring out strategies and techniques as she went along.

She described how one of the issues she saw was that often actors lost connection with characters by conforming to what the director wanted.

Coaching is often discussed as being a “new field” and I do see some coaches figuring out new strategies and techniques as they go along – ones that work for themselves and their clients.

However, I also see some coaches who have lost connection with themselves – either because they are conforming to what a respected “expert” has wanted or by their own interpretation about who they “should” be as a coach.

A coaching question to consider: if you were working on your feet figuring out strategies and techniques as you went along, what would you be doing different?

As head of voice, Cicely Berry says “My job is to get them [the actors] free from their left hand side of the brain, understanding and really hearing it for themselves.”

A coaching question to consider: Are you aware as a coach what your role is working with your clients?

I know, personally I can have many different roles depending upon the client I am working with and where they are at any given moment. Certainly, as a coach one of the roles that I am aware that I do is to assist my client to hear their own inner wisdom – instead of listening to the stories and logical reasons they had been telling themselves.

As it was a workshop you probably won’t be surprised to hear that we also saw the actors participating in various exercises designed to emphasis various technical aspects.

One of these exercises was about recognising the beat and rhythm of a particular piece as the underlying rhythm gives incredible energy and makes it active.

A different exercise focused upon demonstrating that it Isn’t necessarily the volume you speak but reaching out with constinents etc that means you can be heard even in the back row of the auditorium.

A coaching question to consider: what else could you do to add incredible energy to something you are currently working upon?

Even though more mature in her years and walking with the use of a stick, she still got up during exercises to stand in the middle of the action. She made sure that she was monitoring what was happening and what each participant was doing. Often the exercises involved lots of movement and quick changes in direction. In the middle of this if any actor turned unexpectedly in her direction she just put a hand in front of her and stood her ground so they didn’t unintentionally bump into her.

A coaching question to consider: What more can you do to be more in the middle of the action?

As I watched I was aware that if we were to use labels that coaches would be familiar with there were numerous examples that we could use.

For example, after explaining an exercise she asked a variation of the question “Do you mind doing that?”

You may be familiar as a coach with checking someones willingness to an action. This phrasing not only does that but also being a closed question she was inviting a straight forward yes or no answer without any “story” associated with that.

At the end of each exercise the participants were asked, “What did you get from that?” giving them the opportunity to reflect and reinforce the learning from the exercise.

So my final coaching question to consider this week is: “What can you learn/take from this post?”


Do You Know Enough To Be A Coach?

Judy Rees asks a question that many new to coaching asks themselves, in this week’s guest post:

Do You Know Enough To Be A Coach?

By Judy Rees

Are you a coach who actually coaches people? Or are you a perpetual preparer?

I often coach people who are in the process of becoming coaches. I’ve noticed a lot of beginners seem to attend endless workshops and events, learning more and more about how to be a coach, and how to market themselves as coaches, rather than getting on and actually doing it.

Using Clean Language questions and metaphor, I’ll help my clients to understand the pattern – and we’ll frequently discover that on the current plan, they’d never know enough to get started.

As Nicholas Taleb points out in The Black Swan, the more expert someone becomes, the more they realise what they don’t know.

“You will accumulate more knowledge and more books as you grow older, and the growing number of unread books on the shelves will look at you menacingly. Indeed, the more you know, the larger the rows of unread books,” he says.

If you are determined to become a coach, perhaps because you want to help people, it’s important to find a way to manage this. (Just getting a Kindle doesn’t do the trick!)

I like to pride myself on “making change happen, whatever happens” in my coaching work, and I have a pretty solid record of success.

But that success is not just based on knowing a lot of stuff – it’s based on having a coaching methodology that is robust enough to work well, even when I don’t know what’s going on for my client.

At one level, I have to accept, I’ll never know what’s happening. I can’t see the world exactly through my client’s eyes.

And the more clients I have, the more I learn… and the more I realise I don’t know.

If you suspect you might be a perpetual preparer, I’d strongly suggest shifting your attention towards finding a robust coaching methodology that works well for you (Clean Language is my suggestion: others are available) and then getting started.

Practice, get feedback, practice some more, get referrals… and enjoy discovering how much you don’t know.

About the Author/Further Resources

Judy Rees is an author, mentor and information marketer, and an expert in Clean Language and metaphor. Her blog is at www.xraylistening.com

You can learn Clean Language online, free on Judy’s new website http://learncleanlanguage.com