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5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Started Out As A Coach

In today’s guest post Ruby McGuire uses her experiences and knowledge to share:

5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Started Out As A Coach

by Ruby McGuire

"5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Started Out As A Coach" by Ruby McGuire

I had a discovery call the other day with a client and she asked me what 5 things I wish I’d known when I started out. It got me thinking of the great things that I’d learned as a coach and then of the mistakes I’d made too!

It’s always good to reflect on your progress when you run your own coaching business, well any type of business. In everything we do we hope that we’re doing the right things. What we often don’t realise, until much further down the line, is that it could have been easier.

So here’s what I wish I’d known;

  1. Niching

How difficult it would be to niche. I knew niching was the right thing to do, I knew the reasons I should do it and I fought it tooth and nail. When people asked who I coached I might as well have answered, ‘anyone with a pulse’.

That’s OK for a while.  You find your feet, you get to know who you do and don’t like working with and what you do/don’t enjoy but over time it doesn’t pay the bills.

It’s SO much easier when you niche down. You become better known for what you do. Everything you do in your business is just so much easier. You have clarity, focus, direction, content and most importantly clients! You know what to write and to who. You understand your clients and know the pain and frustrations they have and how you can best help them.

It took me over a year to figure it out; I spent hundreds of hours, money, time and energy on it. You can read more about niching here (and when you shouldn’t niche here). I’m considering niching even tighter again in my own business, as I know how important it is.

  1. Building a business takes time and hard work

I had no idea how hard it would be to build a business. I was quite business savvy.  I’ve worked as Head of HR for a jewellery company, I ran my own HR consultancy for a while, but in doing my ‘grown up’ business it was way harder to get going.

You hear that business takes time and it absolutely does! In the early days I swopped my job for even longer hours on my business. I’ve worked incredibly hard because I knew that over time that effort would yield the results I’d been looking for.

I didn’t invest an enormous amount of money in the early days.  I did the odd coaching programme here and there, but what I’ve noticed is that when I work with other coaches and mentors my business (and confidence) grows.

Get help if you need it. Just because you’re a coach you don’t have to have all the answers. Work with someone that can coach and/or mentor you to get the results that you want quicker.

  1. You’re a trained coach, now you need to learn how to do business!

I knew I needed to build my business knowledge but I had no knowledge of social media. I knew about Facebook, which I’d avoided at all costs (it turns out that’s now my main source of business).

I had no idea about websites; I’d just had a static site when I was running my consultancy. Fast forward (let’s not say how many) years and there were different ways that you shared your expertise with potential clients, like eBooks and newsletters, blogging and YouTube videos.

Marketing now included ‘digital marketing’, ‘educational marketing’, and ‘content marketing’. My marketing strategy back then was contacting business owners, HR professionals and handing out business cards at networking meetings. There were loads of new things to consider now.

Over 6 months I had the steepest learning curve. Aside from learning all about marketing I set up an online membership club which meant figuring out my html code from my widgets, sidebars and plug ins. I was proud of myself.

I learnt how to do group coaching online, not just offline. I learnt how to record training content so had to learn how to do mp3’s and file compression, what to use to record and so much more.

I then spent a lot of time working out how to ‘sell’, how to talk to people, to build relationships. You need to learn how to run a business that includes all aspects of business. Without those skills you will not have a business.

  1. ‘Marketing’ can take up to 50% or more of your time

Ok, did you ever think to yourself, I could be different to other coaches? I have good business skills and a lot to offer. I will hit publish on my website and clients will come running? Ummm, well actually they don’t! I liken it to having a shop in the middle of the countryside. If you don’t tell people it’s there then how will you get any customers?

When I use the term ‘marketing’ here I’m using it in the loose sense of the word to include the vast number of activities that you do to bring in new clients into your business; social media posts, blogging, newsletters, article writing, networking – both on and offline, guest interviews, follow up with clients etc.

I can hear you shouting – ‘Give me the clients people – I just want to coach!’

Don’t we all, but first marketing! You have to get people to know, like and trust you.

When do you invest in a product without giving it some thought? Yes, you might have a few impulse buys but with coaching you need to like your coach and know that they can help you get the results you need.

You’ve got to get out there and be visible, that’s what brings the clients (that plus lots of other things!)

  1. Outsourcing / Investing

I spent TWO days trying to figure out something on my membership site when I was setting it up. TWO days! Do you know how long it took my techie VA to fix it?  ONE hour! £25!

So, when I was spending all that time in a stubborn state of ‘I’m not stupid, I WILL figure this out’, I could have been earning some money, or at least taking action that would have produced money longer term. It’s crazy. We think that just because something takes us days on end it will take someone else the same time. It’s not true. Outsource even just a tiny amount so that you can start noticing what you could be doing when you’re not sweating the small stuff.

Ps. There’s probably an app for that! Not ready to outsource? Then find out if there’s an app that can save you loads of time. I invested £50 on a file compressing app for my videos – I spent FIVE days trying to do it on my own, asking around in groups. Invest!

I hope you’ve enjoyed learning some of the things I wish I’d known when I started out. It can be an overwhelming time with so much information out there.

If you enjoyed these tips then you will like my 7 Things They Didn’t Tell You At Coaching School mini eBook, where I share a few more things around this area.

Ruby Mcguire Be the coach you dream to be

About Ruby McGuire

Ruby McGuireRuby McGuire, a Clarity & Focus Diva is a mum, wife and cappuccino lover. She helps Coaches to take the ‘next step’ – whether that’s getting their first client through the door or taking their coaching business up a notch; She works with them to boost their confidence, coaching skills and business so that they can move forward.

Extra info…

Her big mission is to rid the world of grumpy people, and the more coaches that stay coaching the more people get coached = happy people with happy lives. Ta-da, mission accomplished! If you liked this article then watch out for her co-authored book as part of the Dial-A-Guru series coming out next month. You can find Ruby at her pretty online home, www.rubymcguire.com or Facebook at Be The Coach You Dream To Be. Failing that she may be satisfying her obsession of pinning on Pinterest!

 

 

 

 


Your Success Is Directly Proportionate to Your Ability to Be Incredibly Honest With Yourself

In today’s guest post Kathleen Gage invites you to become honest about your coaching business.

Your Success Is Directly Proportionate to Your Ability to Be Incredibly Honest With Yourself

by Kathleen Gage

"Your Success Is Directly Proportionate to Your Ability to Be Incredibly Honest With Yourself" by  Kathleen Gage

A few weeks ago I completed my first ever marathon. Crossing the finish line at the 26.2 mile marker was my gift to myself for my 61st birthday.

It’s likely I hold the distinction of being the last to cross the finish line for the 2015 Eugene Marathon and yet, as many of my friends and colleagues have said, “You finished.”

The challenge with believing finishing is as good as it gets is that I’m fooling myself to believe I did my best. Looking back I know I could have done a heck of a lot better.

Here’s why…

From the start, I hired a coach to work with me. My coach recommended a three prong approach to the process.

  • Power walk training
  • Healthy eating
  • Resistance training

It didn’t take but a few training days to notice the number of parallels in training and completing a marathon to running a business. I became keenly aware as to why many people barely reach their potential in virtually anything they attempt.

In order to be successful we have to be willing to get really honest about what we are and are not doing to reach our maximum potential.

We also have to have a multi-prong approach to what we do. In business this includes product/service creation, marketing and sales. There’s more than just these three, but for the sake of this post, I’ll use the comparison of product/service creation, marketing and sales.

In addition, we have to manage our self talk. You know the talk… it’s that part of us that tries to get us to quit or to say, “What in the world were you thinking?”

Although I completed the marathon, I can honestly say I could have done much better if I would have balanced the three prong approach my coach recommended.

From the start my primary focus was on training every day to improve my time and distance with power walking. Although I would occasionally eat the way my coach recommended, I wasn’t consistent. Nor was I consistent with the resistance training.

I wanted to do the “fun” stuff. How often do we see this in business? Entrepreneurs are often very creative individuals. We love coming up with ideas. We love mapping out those ideas, but more times than not the areas that are lacking are marketing and sales.

Entrepreneurs fool themselves into believing they are doing all they can to be the best at what they do, but fail to put as much effort into areas that may not be as much fun as the creation side of things.

One area that is crucial to our success is to have the clarity, energy and focus to get things done. Running a successful business is not just about creating ideas, it’s about implementation.

If we don’t have the energy for implementation we are shortchanging ourselves and our customers and clients.

One of the most immediate ways to improve our energy is to notice what we are putting into our bodies. It’s likely most people have heard, “Garbage in, garbage out.”

On the flip side, “Good stuff in, good stuff out.”

About Kathleen Gage

As an early adopter of online marketing, Kathleen Gage is known for cutting through the fluff and helping people leave their sob stories behind so they can stop focusing on the past and start looking towards the future. She speaks and teaches about what she believes are the core elements of a successful life: accountability, integrity, honesty, and living with passion and hope.

Although Kathleen Gage is best known for her no nonsense approach to life and business, when she’s not working with clients, creating information products, writing books or speaking on the platform, Kathleen can be found training for a marathon, walking her dogs, working in her many flower gardens, feeding her horses or playing a fierce game of cards.

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Do You Know Where to Start in Growing Your Business?

In this weeks guest post expert Sheela Masand shares on the topic of business and growing a coaching practice.

Do You Know Where to Start in Growing Your Business?

By Sheela Masand

"Do You Know Where to Start in Growing Your Business?" by Sheela Masand

 

“I just don’t know where to start”

This is one of the common answers I hear having asked the question – how can I help you?

So in my business, practitioners are coming to me to help them grow their businesses/practices which generally means they need clients. They are heart centred service professionals and the fact that you are part of this community, I imagine you are one of these too and can relate.

You may have just the same question too.

Where to start?

Well, there are no hard and fast rules as far as I am concerned, but one of the most helpful places to start is to ask yourself WHY?

The big why.

The reason you took that training and paid all that money and spent all that time. What inspired you to do that?

My guess is that it is because you experienced some type of transformation in your life and so you want to go and share that with others because it has been so life changing for you. It might be a health issue, a relationship struggle, a financial challenge or a mental/emotional situation. Whatever it is, I encourage you to write it down and dig deep.

This is the fuel for your journey of growing your business. At least it’s one type of fuel I know of that works. When you really dig into your big why, your reason for embarking upon the road less travelled (not the traditional job route), you will feel the inspiration and the next step ie, where to start, will most likely reveal itself to you.

There are a couple of reasons I see why this happens.

1. As you explore the question… WHY… your thoughts are changing and so are your feelings. Generally this leads to feelings of inspiration as you uncover the reasons why.

2. You will feel more connected to the Source/Universe/God as old habitual thinking of overwhelm or confusion drop away. This leaves space for new thoughts to emerge and the first step to be seen.

Ever feel like giving up?

Your big why is what will keep you going in times you feel like giving up, that’s why it’s so important to write it down and keep it somewhere you can refer to when required. We all have those times we feel like throwing in the towel. Yours might sound something like:

  • “I’m just not good enough”… or
  • “nobody will ever work with me”… or
  • “why do I keep struggling when I could just get a job?”

This is completely “normal” and normal in this context means you are not the only one! I speak to lots and lots of solo-preneurs who feel like giving up many times over and yet something keeps them going (most of them anyway).

They remember WHY they chose to do their “thing” whether it’s coaching, massage, teaching, homeopathy or creating dream weekends for people. Quite often they remember how it felt to them to not have the solution to the problem they had and if they hadn’t found that particular service, their lives would not have changed.

Remembering the big WHY is what gets most practitioners jumping out of bed in the morning and raring to take action.

Me too!

Here’s a little of my BIG WHY shared with the intention of helping you get yours written.

I love to help people who love to help people! I love knowing that for each person I can support with their work, there is a ripple effect through the work they are doing and so it goes on rippling out in the world. I also know that what I do is not just about business. My work helps on a very personal level too and that ripples out within a person’s personal life too.

My aim through sharing the understanding of the Three Principles is specifically to help end unnecessary human suffering. As I watch and listen to what is happening in the world, I quite often question us as a species, why do human beings cause so much destruction and pain and how can I help to change it? I always come back to the same answer. The reason I see that this is happening is because of a lack of consciousness and misunderstanding.

When I hear stories of young girls being sold into prostitution, my heart is so heavy it hurts and I ask why again. Why would one human being do this to another human being? What is wrong with them? And then I remember again. The misunderstanding. That’s WHY I do what I do.

So if I can help in some way to open people’s eyes to the misunderstanding and point them in the direction of how it all works, then that’s what I want to do.

That’s what I am doing and that’s what keeps me going when I feel like it’s all too much or too little, or that little voice tells me I’m just not good enough at what I do.

So what’s your BIG WHY?

question mark  I encourage you take 10 minutes to uncover it. Please don’t underestimate the power of knowing your BIG WHY, it really can reveal your next step to growing your heart centred business.

I’d love to hear your BIG WHY. Please share with the community either on the blog knowing that this inspires others, or if it’s not for public consumption, send me a private message by emailing sh****@**********nd.com

About Sheela Masand

Sheela Masand was a co-founder and working partner of a multi-million Euro import business in Spain where she has lived for over 29 years. Her passion to help more people led her to open her current business, SheelaMasand.com, where she specializes in coaching and mentoring heart-based service professionals worldwide to get more clients and make more money.

Since coming across the Three Principles that explain how our lives work on a spiritual and psychological level, her work has shifted to become more organic, guided by wisdom and less dependent on tools and techniques.  Her clients speak of major transformations in the way they see marketing, and instead of it being the hated piece of their business, they are happy to jump in and work their plans because it is fun, authentic and non-sales-y.

Sheela loves to work with people who are passionate about helping others have their own transformations, she sees herself as a support system for the helpers of the world.  She has several different mediums through which she offers the support including bespoke one to one coaching programmes, VIP Days and an annual telesummit in partnership with a not for profit, plus several different training events and retreats on the sunny Costa Blanca in Spain.

Contact Sheela for more information on sh****@**********nd.com or call (0034) 67 759 6880

Sheela can help you to attract more clients and make more money in a fun and authentic way. Visit http://www.sheelamasand.com to pick up a special free gift “Top 3 Secrets to Attracting Clients without Spending a Cent.”

 

 

 

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Want more (and more) clients? 5 essential lessons for successful coaches

In this weeks guest post Susan Tomlinson shares some of her knowledge and experience.

Want more (and more) clients?

5 essential lessons for successful coaches

By Susan Tomlinson

"Want more (and more) clients? 5 essential lessons (or secrets) for successful coaches" by Susan Tomlinson

Twelve years’ ago when I escaped corporate life, and started my journey as a solo entrepreneur, coaching was a relatively new profession.  At that stage I didn’t even know whether anyone would hire me!

Fortunately individuals and organisations quickly embraced the value of coaching and readily signed up coaches, who could provide skilful challenge and support, to help them make changes in their work and life.

Today the coaching profession has exploded with many more people eager to embrace a career and lifestyle which offers not only an escape from the normal office routine but also a way to make a positive difference in the lives of others.

And for many of us it’s been an exciting and life changing opportunity.

However, with growth comes greater competition!

From what I’ve learned along the way to truly succeed as a coach today you must…

Be true to you.  We are naturally drawn to people who are genuine and authentic.   Living and sharing your own experiences, interests and values will build trust and attract more ideal clients

Be clear, confident and consistent.  You will be more memorable when you share a simple message about what you do, who you help and what outcomes your clients can expect.  As people have many more options to choose from they tend to act on the specific rather than the general.

Reach a wider audience and serve more clients.  Technology has enabled us to go global in our coaching practices and has opened up many more opportunities to work internationally. Experiment with different ways you can increase your visibility and engage people throughout the world, with creative, innovative and stylish marketing campaigns.

Be special.  How is your service different or unique compared with other coaching businesses? Perhaps for example you have developed your own system through your own hard won experience or you show others how to access their inner wisdom to build 6 figure businesses.

Capture attention.  The attention span of our audiences is getting ever shorter!  With dozens of things distracting us throughout the day the challenge for all of us is to grab and sustain attention.  Some of the ways you can achieve this is through the use of visual imagery, engaging emotions and establishing credibility

Ultimately, as a service based profession coaching is all about creating connections and developing relationships.  When you are in alignment with who you are, what you do and how you communicate with your audience then you’ll naturally attract more and more clients.

If you would like to learn more about being a Client Attractive Business Owner then click here (www.clientattractivebusiness.eventbrite.com ) for details of a new programme which starts on 12 March 2015.

About Susan Tomlinson

Susan Tomlinson, Business Coach and Mentor, is founder of Real Coaching Solutions a company dedicated to helping coaches, consultants and solo entrepreneurs attract more clients, make more money and build a business they love. To get your free ‘Boost Your Business Success’ report and to receive her ‘Highlights on Business Success’ newsletter visit www.realcoachingsolutions.co.uk

For many years Susan held senior roles in well known international businesses and industry sectors. It gave her a fascinating insight into how businesses work, as she was often involved in start up ventures.

Eventually, always being an entrepreneur at heart and feeling restless, she took the leap and set up her own coaching and consulting business winning large contracts and working with top names.

Even with all her previous experience Susan soon realised the challenges of being a solo entrepreneur, so early on she made the decision to make a significant investment of her time and money in hiring her own mentors and learning everything she could about marketing, sales and mindset to consistently grow her own business and continue to create the lifestyle of her choice.

Having coached and taught hundreds of people in business Susan now shares her hands on, real life experience and knowledge with other coaches, consultants and solo entrepreneurs, who know that the quickest route to success is working with a trusted business coach and mentor.

Connect with Susan via:

Her website: www.realcoachingsolutions.co.uk
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Stop Comparing Yourself: Improve Your Business and Focus By Being You

In this weeks guest post Carrie Greene addresses an issue that often gets in the way of developing your coaching business.

Stop Comparing Yourself: Improve Your Business and Focus By Being You

by Carrie Greene

 "Stop Comparing Yourself: Improve Your Business and Focus By Being You" by Carrie Greene

I received an email from a client…

“I am feeling crazy stuck in a comparison cycle today – and I have so much to do. Just wanted to share my mind-tape today in case you have any sage wisdom.”

When you play the comparison game it seems that you always fall on the short end of the stick.

Everyone else’s business is better. Everyone has more clients. Everyone is making more money. Everyone else is doing more than you. Everyone else can do it.

Now wait a minute. Is that really true?

If you are going to play the comparison game at least play full on.

When you find yourself stuck in the endless loop of “everyone is better than me” think about this:

  • How many people have actually taken their idea and started a business?
  • How many people have said to you… wow, that’s a great idea, I wish I could do something like that.
  • How many people have taken any of the steps necessary to achieve their dream?
  • How many people have taken the types of risks you have to better yourself?
  • How many people have told you that they admire your courage or bravery?
  • How many people have any sort of plan to take them to their goals?
  • How many people have had the successes or achieved what you already have?
  • What would happen in your life and business if you played the comparison game fairly?

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About Carrie Greene

Carrie GreeneCarrie Greene is a speaker, author and business coach.

Carrie helps entrepreneurs get clear on what they want and understand their value in the marketplace. Carrie helps her clients create simple and straight-forward plans to get where they want with a smile on their faces while they increase their profits.

Carrie spent fifteen years on Wall Street in marketing and product development for major brokerage firms and The New York Stock Exchange. She is the author of “Chaos to Cash: An Entrepreneur’s Guide to Eliminating Chaos, Overwhelm and Procrastination So you Can Create Ultimate Profit!” and the forthcoming book “The Value Formula: 5 Steps to Knowing What You Are Worth and Getting It”

Connect with Carrie at www.CarrieGreeneCoaching.com, www.Facebook.com/CarrieGreeneCoaching or on Twitter @CarrieCoaching


Coaches and Money: 7 breakthroughs to help the money flow in 2015

In the first guest post of the new year money coach Helen Collier focuses upon:

Coaches and Money:

7 breakthroughs to help the money flow in 2015.

By Helen Collier

"Coaches and Money 7 breakthroughs to help the money flow in 2015." BY Helen Collier

My MacAfee Vulnerability Scanner has just popped up and told me it has found two new programme updates I need to install to keep my laptop running optimally.

How useful would it be if we had the equivalent of an internal money vulnerability scanner, that automatically scanned every 24 hours? Installed to spot what needs up dating and what needs binning to keep ourselves and our money life running optimally? More importantly it then goes on to make the necessary changes to get us back in tip top condition.

In the absence of our own personal ‘app’ it’s down to us to hone our own ability to look both internally and externally at ourselves and adjust as necessary.

2014 has been a year of big breakthroughs for me personally. Looking back I see how I have been scanning my installed money mind-set as I prepared to take my money coaching practice to the next level of success. Some of it is new learning, other parts simply deeper learning and some of it came with the ‘Durr!!’ moment. ‘How have I not seen these things!!?!’

7 breakthroughs to help the money flow.  In no particular order.

  1. This year I have had many conversations with women who outwardly ooze confidence and composure and yet underneath they were squirming with dread and embarrassment about money. Suddenly there was my niche right in front of me, these very women. In fact they had been there all the time but I simply hadn’t seen them. Since discovering this niche I’m focused and my client list has increased. I know who I am talking to when I write, when I am out giving talks, when I go out networking.

Action

 

Action: Find your Niche

 

  1. Find those things that keep you stuck. What are those big beliefs and assumptions that keep you stuck? I’ve discovered some great material this year developed by Keegan and Lahy called ‘Immunity to Change’ It provides a great structure for understanding why sometimes our best intentioned progress is held back almost by having the foot on the brake at the same time as trying to accelerate.   It’s one I knew well. It described my resistance perfectly. A belief that went something like. ‘I have to resist because if I don’t I’m going to lose control then something (unspecified) really bad will happen.’  The thing is this resistance in itself was very generalised and it was preventing my money flowing.

Action

 

Action: Find those big beliefs and assumptions that keep you stuck and test them for accuracy

 

  1. It’s important to pay attention to the practical side of money in your business. I’ve always known this, I don’t always do it but this year I’ve put some really simple systems in place that have helped me easily stay in control of my cash flow. I know when it comes to doing my tax return next week I’ve got everything I need at hand to do it. Andi Lonnen has just published a great little book called ‘Be fabulous at Finance’ which is well worth buying.

Action

 

Action: Pay attention to the practical side of money in your business.

 

  1. Getting down to your own deep layers of assumptions is like peeling the layers of an onion; it may well come with tears but that’s when you know you’ve hit on something and if you keep peeling you eventually get to the sweet spot. I’ve long known that I am the mistress of creating a smoke screen. Setting up elaborate psychological screens to prevent me from doing that which I say I want to do. This year I have finally outed a real big one for me. I’ve not got to the sweet spot yet. ‘If I make a success of my business then I will be exposed as a fraud’ is sitting on my desk as I work. I do cringe as I type. It throws up the one Brene Brown has been talking about, vulnerability. What will people think? What will people say when they hear this? This though is what my clients experience when they take that first step to talking about themselves and their money. I owe it to my clients to continue working through my own personal money issues so that I can be cleaner and clearer in my interactions with them

Action

 

Action: Be prepared to feel vulnerable in order to be in a clearer, cleaner place for your clients

 

  1. Writing as a way of gaining understanding, clarity and perspective. I encourage my clients to keep a journal in order to explore their relationship with money and keep track of their progress. My own writing this year has taken on a whole new perspective as I have explored my own spirituality and where money fits into this picture. It’s been sumptuous spilling my innermost thoughts onto paper. I have created a module on money journaling for clients and included topics for exploration.

Action

 

Action: Consider using journaling as a tool to help you understand your own money life and to help you make peace with your own money story.

 

  1. I finally asked for help. I had a huge assumption running through me that said ‘I should be able to do this. I am supposed to be the expert, if I ask for help people will think I’m a fraud’ (notice that fraud thing popping up again!). It kept me quietly and privately battling with my own demons. It also kept me very safely and frustratingly going around in circles. I’ve engaged a business coach. She’s very different from me and has a very different style but she has helped to plug a gap and has helped me to keep focused on moving forward in my business. Crazy as it now seems I imagined she was going to laugh at me and criticise me when in fact she said ‘Helen, what is stopping you, this sounds great!’ Hugely motivating.

Action

 

Action: Don’t be afraid to ask for the help that you need to move your business forward

 

  1. My biggest breakthrough of the year has undoubtedly been completing my 60th year on the planet, getting grand parented for the first time and discovering that both these are huge blessings rather than things to be feared! Bizarrely it has given me more focus in my business. I concentrate better. I don’t spend as much time drifting into the cyber world and amazingly have more time! Which means that when I am with my granddaughter I am truly with her, not thinking I should be doing something else.

Action

 

Action: Concentrate on the here and now and count your blessings.

 

Here’s to a prosperous and peaceful 2015.

 

About Helen Collier

Helen Collier is a money coach working with bright, smart women who are tired of squirming with dread and fear about their money. She trained with the Money Coaching Institute in California. Helen developed Harmoney as a direct response to her growing disquiet that something was out of balance in the financial world. She set an intention to play her part by supporting people to put money in its rightful place in their lives, no more, no less. Helen writes a weekly column for the Yorkshire Evening News and blogs regularly.

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Website: www.harmoneylife.co.uk

 


Self-Confidence does play a role in your Success

In this week’s guest post coach Diane Dutchin shares some of her experience and knowledge:

"Self-Confidence does play a role in your Success" by Diane Dutchin

Self-Confidence does play a role in your Success

By Diane Dutchin

I believe to improve the effectiveness as a coach, it’s imperative to practice what we continually say to our clients.

There is a natural pull to admire and gravitate towards those who project self-confidence in how they show up in life, how they speak, what they do personal and professionally, and how they carry themselves. The opposite is also true for those who lacks confidence in themselves, and it works against you and the message you are hoping to convey.

A person who is successful in relationships, business, sports, life, is likely a person who has a level of self-confidence working for them. It is highly unlikely to meet someone who lacks confidence and is successful. Self-confidence is like a reliable partner, friend, parent or family member, like a muscle it is strengthened by use, intricately connected to our belief system, and accessible to everyone.  It is there to serve you if you would recognize its importance and value. It is a combination of heart, belief, attitude, thought and life experiences that feeds and nurtures its growth.

Self-confidence or a lack of it starts from childhood and carries into adult life and affects your life. It stems from your belief system about yourself, others, society and your life experience. It guides the shaping of how you feel, think, act, react to others and live your life.

Some areas that can have a positive or negative influence are:

  • Your upbringing impact your level of confidence
  • Life experiences shapes your confidence
  • Parent/role model affects your confidence
  • What you believe about yourself shows your confidence
  • Your self-worth affects your confidence
  • Finally your decisions mirrors your confidence.

Some people are more self-confident that others not because they are more special, had a better upbringing or more gifted. Like you they have had their struggles, faced the critics, ridiculed, bullied, questioned, lived with fear, and various forms of abuse, and had doors closed on their ideas, abilities and dreams. What caused those same individuals to be at their best today? A few things to consider – Their resilience and belief in themselves that they matter provides a stronger internal belief in themselves, a poise more powerful than the external forces that may have temporarily shaken them.  The external factors were used instead as fuel to boost their confidence.

Stories are told every day about people both famous and not so famous, privileged and not so privileged who despite the hand dealt to them, are displaying a level of self-confidence that matches the level of success in their lives. There are a number of things you can begin to do to take the level of your self-confidence to another level of success that will benefit your personal and professional life.

Here are a few points to consider:

  • Write down your past achievements and celebrate your wins
  • Reflect on your accomplishments, be proud and grateful
  • Move your body – the physical and physiological benefits of exercising is massive
  • Read a book that feeds your soul and spirit
  • Laugh/smile daily
  • Make it a habit to compliment yourself (we can be our worst enemy)
  • Do something that you have always wanted to do, but was afraid to – step into that moment and watch the fear disappear and your self-confidence rise.
  • Be honest with yourself and admit when you are wrong
  • Make self-improvement/learning a part of your life
  • Start focusing more on your strengths and less on your weaknesses
  • Stop comparing yourself to others and run your own race
  • Awake your expectancy and breathe into it what stimulates positive growth

As you use the suggestions to build your self-confidence you will begin to notice the positive changes in your personal and professional life. Being swayed by external force will minimize and the noticeable improvement coming from you internally will give you the edge to succeed.

Do not put off building your self-confidence! It is time you connect to it, begin to feed and nourish it and watch how it will begin to add a deeper level of richness to your personal and professional life. You will notice a positive shift in how you think about yourself, which will overflow into how you present yourself, how you speak, your steps will be purposeful, steady and your success within and without will materialize.

About Diane Dutchin

Diane Dutchin is a certified personal and career coach at www.makethemovecoaching.com Follow Diane on twitter or connect on LinkedIn