Coaching Confidence

In today’s guest post Transformation & Wealth Coach Debra Larson shares some of her expertise and knowledge as she recommends:

Empower your clients by Standing in your power

by Debra Larson

It isn’t a secret that most of the people I attract are highly conscious women coaches, consultants, authors and speakers. I’ve been very blessed to have some real movers and shakers attracted to my style of coaching.

But there is something else about this group of people that really makes them stand out, and that is that there is a deeper core, a deeper meaning to their business which gives them a higher purpose than just making money and allows them to show up as powerful as they do each and every day.

It doesn’t mean every day is a good day; it’s just means they own whatever comes their way. They know there is something bigger than themselves then what is happening at that very moment that helps them over the hump and holds them true to their vision.

Many of my clients weren’t always this way when they first came to me. Shoot, I wasn’t even this way a while back. It took some guidance, but here is the secret… YOU already have this courage within you, sometimes it just takes some coaxing. I am going to share with you the underlying mindset that I have and each of my clients learn that will help you show up each and every day, to stand in your own value, and serve your clients fully.

• Being fully in alignment with what you love, your passions in life create unstoppable momentum within your business and for your clients, as well.

• You must take a stand for your clients, meaning love them enough to say what needs to be said. Sometimes your clients may not be quite ready for your training, or if they are their fears are standing in the way. Which ultimately means, your love for them must be greater than your own fears!

This is one of my favorites that I am constantly reminded of, so I’ll pass it on to you!

• Your strength has to come from a bigger place than your need to be liked. Do what is in the best interest of your client and for you. They didn’t hire you to be their best friend, (even though I have some pretty incredible relationships that blossomed from my clients), they need someone to help them get unstuck and move thru their stuff!

My current success coach & mentor Kendall Summerhawk shared this one with me, which is pretty powerful, as well!

• Practice passionate detachment. What does Kendall mean by this? At the end of the day, you can’t be the one taking action for your client. But if your client(s) is consistently not taking action, or the same “challenge” keeps popping up, please take this as feedback and learn from it, but don’t take it on as your problem, or your responsibility. We are here to guide and support them, not DO for them.

• Expecting instant transformation. This is a toughie; you want everyone to have a transformation, and if you are like me, you want it now. The truth is many times your client won’t have a transformation, (definition of transformation: a shift in perception), until later, after the call.

OR, sometimes they won’t get “it” until they hear whatever you’ve told them a couple more times from another source. It’s funny; they will come back and say, “I just heard this really cool _____ from ______!” And, I’ll be thinking to myself, didn’t we go over that 2 weeks ago!! It doesn’t matter when they get it, what matters is that they do!

There is a huge paradigm shift happening in the world and I have slowly but surely been grasping onto it, which I’m sure you already have.

What is it?

We are all meant to be part of each other’s path. Many times what your clients are going thru is a reflection upon yourself. Whether you are going through the same thing now, or did in the past, or possibly will in the future, perhaps you need to get some type of learning or awareness through their challenges to help you grow as a person.

Just know that there is a connection between you and them, but you are not responsible for them. If you continually look for approval and validation thru your customer, you will be disappointed. You will begin to attract needy and demanding clients, as well.

Another thing Kendall taught me this year that is so powerful that is always right there on top of the tool box when I need it!

“Hold someone as powerful, no matter what, even when they can’t do it for themselves.”

Decide who and how you want to show up in your business, not from where you are now but from where you want to be. If you desire to be a multi-million dollar coach that runs her business with grace and ease, then ask yourself if you are showing up as this person. If you are stuck and have a decision to make, what would the multi-million dollar coach do with grace and ease?

Ask your clients this as well, Whom do they want to show up as? Are they making decisions from this place or where they are now. Remember where you are now is already in the past so you might well be how you want to be!

Don’t let your clients run the show and be bigger than you, this is your dream, stand in your values. Always remember, people don’t take our power; we give it away.

About Debra Larson

Debra Larson is a Transformation & Wealth Coach, founder of Simply Wealthy by Debra. Debra, an award winning coach, Amazon best selling author, empowers women around the world on how to turn their own true gifts, passions and purpose into a profitable, meaningful business thru simple, doable – yet result driven concepts and systems. She prides herself in helping her clients achieve transformational results by weaving timeless truths and Universal Laws with mastery marketing counsel, teaching on everything from mindset to marketing that assists you in growing yourself while empowering you to fulfill your life’s purpose. You can find out more about Debra and get free tools, business and life building gifts, tips and steps to becoming simply wealthy in your business & in life at: www.DebraLarson.com