Today’s quote of the day is:
“There is great skill in knowing how to conceal one’s skill.” (François de La Rochefoucauld)
Today’s quote by François de La Rochefoucauld invites us to contemplate a less conventional perspective on skill and its display. As coaches, this quote resonates particularly with the challenges many of us face when it comes to showcasing our coaching abilities. It often unveils a tangled web of concerns around marketing, inviting clients, and managing expectations. Let’s unravel the layers of this quote and explore how it may hold insights for coaches navigating the delicate balance of skill revelation.
Navigating the Fear of Overexposure:
In my conversations with fellow coaches, especially those starting their journey, a common theme often emerges – what will others think about how I talk about my work. Sometimes its concerns about being found to be a fraud and at the other end of the scale theres a general discomfort with not being seen as humble etc. For some displaying coaching prowess can be intimidating; it may create a concern about setting an unrealistic expectations or even foster a sense of intimidation. The fear is palpable, and it begs the question: does concealing our skill serve us and our clients well?
A Strategic Approach to Skill Display:
Im guessing if you’ve read this far an approach of “just getting on with it” probably hasn’t worked for you. So lets consider another approach. La Rochefoucauld’s quote hints at a nuanced perspective. It’s not about hiding our talents but about exercising wisdom and strategy in their presentation.
As coaches, our impact can be most meaningful when our skills are showcased thoughtfully. If you find yourself resonating with this fear, consider whether this behavior is genuinely benefiting you and your clients. Reflect on whether there’s a more strategic approach to revealing your skills that aligns with your values and goals. I can be just as guilty as everyone else and from time to time of forgetting this is my business – so I get to make up the structure that works for me and my clients.
Bespoke Solutions for Coaches:
The way I approach coaching, there’s no “one-size-fits-all” approach. It’s about discovering bespoke solutions that work uniquely for each coach. If you’ve been grappling with the fear of overexposing your skills, resist the urge to criticise yourself. Instead, explore alternative approaches that align with your authenticity. What comes to mind when you consider a different, more intentional method of showcasing your skills?
Encountering Clients’ Similar Fears:
If you recognize this fear in yourself, chances are your clients might be grappling with it too. Consider this an opportunity for growth, both for you and your coaching practice. What new insights or approaches emerge when you apply La Rochefoucauld’s wisdom to your coaching relationships? Embracing continuous growth and acknowledging that even professional coaches are works in progress can be a powerful thought.
A Gentle Reminder:
Lastly, it’s perfectly okay to be a work in progress. Yes, even professional coaches are human. 😉 I suggest that you give yourself the grace to evolve and adapt, and remember that each step forward is a step toward mastery.
Conclusion:
As coaches, François de La Rochefoucauld’s quote challenges us to reflect on the strategic unveiling of our skills. It’s an invitation to navigate what for some can be a delicate balance between showcasing our talents and managing expectations. I would suggest that its one of those things that the more you do this, the more comfortable you become with it. Embrace the opportunity to find bespoke solutions that work for you and your clients. And, in the spirit of growth, allow yourself the grace to be a work in progress, continuously refining your approach to skill revelation.
About Jen Waller
Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.
As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.