Todays quote of the day is:

“A man is known by the company his mind keeps.” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

First, a nod to language: While respecting its historical context, let’s acknowledge the inclusive shift: “An individual is known by the company their mind keeps.” The book where this quote can be found was first published in 1903. For the sake of clarity I’m interpreting this quote to mean humans in general rather than it being a odd quirk that only applys to the male proportion of the worlds population!

In the dance of our daily lives, our thoughts can play a significant role in shaping our experiences and interactions.

The Impact of Thoughts on Feelings and Interactions:

At its core, this quote prompts us to contemplate the profound connection between our thoughts, feelings, and interactions. Have you ever noticed how a simple thought can trigger a cascade of emotions? Picture a sad thought, and suddenly, you feel a wave of sadness. Envision an argument in your mind, and its subtle effects might unconsciously seep into your interactions with others.

From Seeking Better “Company” to a Fresh Perspective:

Reflecting on my coaching journey, I recall a phase where my emphasis was on finding better “company” for the mind. However, as understanding deepened, a fresh perspective emerged. Visualize your thoughts as guests at a lively festive party. Some, like old friends, bring familiarity and comfort. Others may be less welcome, but playing the gracious host, you acknowledge their temporary stay. Just like guests, thoughts can overstay, but the key lies in recognizing that you don’t need to forcibly evict them. Left to their own devices, they graciously make space for new, different company.

The Festive Season Analogy:

Consider the festive season analogy—thoughts, akin to energetic guests, may make their presence felt before conscious awareness. Left to their own devices, they carry on with their “day.” Perhaps you know someone who always wears a unique scent – you may not have seen them but you know theyre around if you smell that scent. I find some thoughts are like that I may not consciously have been aware of the thought but can tell by its unique feeling that its been around. How does this reshape your approach to managing the diverse thoughts in your mental soiree?

Are Techniques to Change Thoughts Useless? A Different Perspective:

Now, you might wonder if this perspective renders techniques to change thoughts useless. Far from it. I present an alternative viewpoint inspired by today’s quote. Embracing this led me to naturally ease off on techniques. They remain in my toolkit, ready if ever needed, yet the shift unfolded organically. Your coaching journey might unfold differently, and that’s the beauty of diverse perspectives.

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What insights or fresh thoughts does this quote spark in your coaching practice? Share your thoughts, experiences, and alternative perspectives in the comments below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.