Daily Archives: 9 October 2024


Am I In Flow Or Just Thinking In Circles? A Coaching Conversation

A short video from our Coaching From The Soul, 25th September live stream. Every 3-4 weeks myself and some coaching colleagues get together online to share a conversation with the broad brief of what we’re seeing about what it’s like to be human! In a slightly different format this week we brought a question that we’d like to see more about, and then we had a 5-minute coaching style conversation with one of our fellow coaches. In this clip Graham and I look at the topic of being in flow and thinking in circles.

How to Watch More Coaching From The Soul

To watch the whole live stream that this clip came from, you can see that here.

Join us for our next call, Wednesday 16th October at 6.15 pm UK live for our next call and see what topics come up for us this month

The Coaching From The Soul YouTube channel has lots of short clips taken from previous conversations, as well as the complete past chats.


Embracing Stillness: Unveiling Your Authentic Self by Letting Go of Busyness

The image captures a breathtaking natural scene at sunrise. The foreground shows a lush, grassy cliff edge, which sharply descends into a vast expanse of clouds. These clouds blanket the landscape below like a soft, dense sea of cotton, stretching infinitely towards the horizon. The sky above is a gradient of deep purples at the top, blending into vibrant oranges and yellows near the horizon where the sun emerges. The scene is both majestic and serene, evoking a sense of calm and introspection. This visual is paired with a quote by Georges Bataille that reads: "If I give up the viewpoint of action, my perfect nakedness is revealed to me."

The quote of the day is:

“If I give up the viewpoint of action, my perfect nakedness is revealed to me.” (Georges Bataille)

Georges Bataille (1897–1962) was a French philosopher and writer who delved into themes of mysticism, eroticism, and the depths of human experience. His thought-provoking ideas often challenged conventional norms and invited readers to explore the hidden facets of their inner lives. For me this quote is pointing towards the stillness that is available underneath any busy thinking and need for action.

Always Looking Busy

In one of the very first jobs I had, we were taught to always look busy in case the owner of the business walked in. Even when there was no actual work to be done, the expectation was to appear engaged—always in motion. This wasn’t just about productivity; it was about the perception of hard work.

This mindset isn’t unique to that job. Many of us carry the sense that we should always be doing something, even when there’s no pressing task at hand. Society often equates constant action with value, leading us to fill our time with busyness. But is this relentless pursuit of busyness truly fulfilling, or is it preventing us from connecting with ourselves on a deeper level?

Letting Go of Busyness: Embracing Stillness for Self-Discovery

But what happens if we pause and let go of this constant need for action? If we allow ourselves a moment of stillness, what might we discover?

Two Paths of Discovery

  1. Confronting Discomfort: You might feel uneasy or anxious. The absence of activity can bring underlying fears or doubts to the surface. Thoughts like “Am I wasting time?” or “What if I’m not doing enough?” may arise, accompanied by a sense of restlessness. It may also seem unusual and unfamiliar if you are not used to an absence of busy thinking.
  2. Embracing Openness: Alternatively, you might experience a sense of peace and expansiveness. Without the constant buzz of activity, there’s room for self-awareness and clarity. This stillness can reveal your authentic self—the “perfect nakedness” Bataille refers to—a state of being where you’re connected with your true thoughts and feelings.

Unveiling Your Perfect Nakedness

Letting go of incessant action allows the layers of busyness—both societal and personal expectations—to fall away. While it may feel odd or vulnerable at first, this state allows you to encounter your genuine self without pretence or distraction. You may rediscover forgotten passions, recognize suppressed emotions, or gain clarity on what truly matters to you. This “perfect nakedness” is about emotional and psychological openness, allowing you to connect deeply with your authentic self.

Reflection

Consider taking a moment to step back from the whirlwind of daily tasks. What do you feel when you allow yourself just to be? Does it bring discomfort or relief? By noticing these feelings, you might uncover insights about yourself that constant action has kept hidden.

I’ve found that when I allow myself moments of stillness, I reconnect with parts of myself that get overshadowed by daily demands. It’s in these quiet times that I’ve gained clarity on what’s truly important to me, and had ideas and solutions apparently pop out of nowhere without me needing to try to do anything. It also just feels really lovely.

Embracing moments of stillness can be a transformative experience. While sometimes it may initially seem unfamiliar and odd, it also offers the opportunity for profound self-discovery and growth. I encourage you to take that first step toward unveiling your “perfect nakedness” and see what insights await.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

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