Monthly Archives: September 2024


A Walk That Change How I See Life

A clip from our Coaching From The Soul 4th September live stream. Every 3-4 weeks myself and some coaching colleagues get together online to share a conversation with the broad brief of what we’re seeing about what it’s like to be human! As you may imagine, the conversation may go in any direction, in this call Roisin shares what she saw on a simple commute. I love how simply she explains what that walk prompted for her. I think she beautifully points out how we can easily fall for judgemental thinking about how we think we should be exploring this understanding.

How to Watch More Coaching From The Soul

To watch the whole live stream that this clip came from, you can see that here.

Join us this Wednesday, 25th September at 6.15 pm UK live for our next call and see what topics come up for us this month

The Coaching From The Soul YouTube channel has lots of short clips taken from previous conversations, as well as the complete past chats.


Finding Stillness in a Busy World: A Journey Back to Self

The image captures a serene and breathtaking landscape at sunrise, featuring a tranquil river reflecting the vibrant colors of the sky and the lush greenery along its banks. The river is calm, mirroring the soft oranges and blues of the dawn sky, while the background is dominated by majestic karst mountains, their unique shapes silhouetted against the lightening horizon. The landscape is lush, with dense vegetation along the river's edge and floating vegetation in the water itself, adding to the scene's natural beauty. Above this peaceful scene, a quote by Lao Tzu is displayed: "Returning to the source is stillness, which is the way of nature. The way of nature is unchanging. Knowing constancy is insight."

The quote of the day is:

“Returning to the source is stillness, which is the way of nature. The way of nature is unchanging. Knowing constancy is insight.” (Lao Tzu)

In a world that often seems to spin faster each day, finding moments of stillness can feel like a luxury we can’t afford. Yet, ancient wisdom tells us that it is precisely this stillness that leads us back to our true selves. Lao Tzu, the revered Chinese philosopher and author of the Tao Te Ching, invites us to explore the profound connection between stillness, nature, and insight. In this blog post, we’ll delve into how embracing the unchanging aspects of nature can illuminate our path to self-understanding and peace.

As I write this, I recall times in my life when I felt so rushed and busy that the very idea of connecting with stillness seemed ludicrous. Perhaps you’ve felt something similar—a thought like, “It’s okay for them to say that,” followed by even more frustration about the lack of time to do everything, or a nagging sense that something was wrong with you. If that sounds familiar, know that you’re not alone, and there’s no need to pile on extra self-judgment or criticism.

But here’s the thing: you’re still reading this post, which tells me that a part of you recognizes the importance of stillness—even if it’s a deep longing to experience it. So, let’s explore what that stillness truly is. Have you ever noticed how peace can emerge in the brief moments between tasks? Or are you dismissing those moments as unimportant, or simply not noticing them at all when they happen?

I’ll attempt to describe that stillness, knowing that words often can’t fully capture the experience. My encouragement to you is to look beyond the words and see what resonates with you.

Descriptions like “returning to one’s true self” or “connecting with your fundamental nature” might sound grandiose. In my experience, there’s a profound beauty in this, but there’s also an ordinariness—it’s our natural state, even if we’ve forgotten it. Think about the serenity of a sleeping baby or the calm presence of a content animal. It’s that sense you get when basic needs are met, and there’s nothing pressing to do or be.

Stillness isn’t about emptying your mind or achieving some lofty spiritual goal. It’s about recognizing that beneath the constant stream of thoughts and the busyness of life, there’s a place of peace that’s always available, at any moment we can just drop back into that space. It’s not something you have to create; or even do. It’s something you return to – maybe you’ve noticed that feeling when you wake up, before any thinking kicks in about your busy day.

For me, one description I use is it’s like I’m sat in a park on a sunny day just lazily watching the comings and going around me. Imagine the warmth of the sun on your skin as you sit, observing the world without rush or obligation but without overthinking. If there’s something that becomes obvious I need to do, I naturally do it.

So, how can you begin to reconnect with this stillness? It might be as simple as pausing for a few moments during your day to take a deep breath and notice the world around you without judgment. Maybe it’s allowing yourself to sit quietly with a cup of tea, or taking a walk in nature and feeling the ground beneath your feet.

You may already know where and when you are in a habit of already reconnecting with that stillness. I’ll mention that there will be new things that just occur to you in that moment to do that you wouldn’t have thought of in advance. I think that just points to the fact that stillness is available in any moment, and it doesn’t have to be accessible by just a set route or set of activities.

Personally, I suggest that just noticing and listening makes this so much easier. Remember, there’s no time limit. If you start judging yourself for not achieving stillness quickly, gently let those thoughts pass and offer yourself kindness instead.

Conclusion:

Remember, stillness is not a luxury reserved for the few; it’s a natural part of who we are. By embracing it, even in small ways, we align ourselves with the unchanging way of nature and open the door to profound insight and peace. Embracing stillness, even briefly, can bring profound peace. Why not take a moment now to pause and notice what you notice about reconnecting with the stillness within you?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Exploring Inexhaustible Horizons: Coaching Questions to Unlock Limitless Potential

The image features a silhouetted figure standing triumphantly atop a high peak, arms raised in a jubilant pose towards the sky. The backdrop is a dramatic and clear blue sky, with the sun directly behind the figure, creating a radiant halo effect and casting brilliant rays of light around the silhouette. This visually striking setup highlights the figure as a focal point, enhanced by the bright sunburst that seems to celebrate the moment. Above the figure, there is a quote by Joseph Banks: "The treasures of the heavens are well known to be inexhaustible..."

The quote of the day is:

“The treasures of the heavens are well known to be inexhaustible…” (Joseph Banks)

Questions For Coaches:

  • In what ways do you support clients in exploring new horizons and expanding their personal or professional boundaries?
  • How do you perceive the concept of ‘inexhaustible treasures’ in your own life?
  • What does this quote prompt for you?
  • How do you integrate the concept of limitless potential into your coaching sessions?

Bonus Questions

  • If your insights are inexhaustible what impact would that have?
  • What hidden strengths or resources do you possess that you haven’t yet tapped into?
  • What opportunities in your coaching business have yet to be fully explored, and how can you tap into them?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Challenging Burdens: Coaching Questions to Liberate Ourselves

The image features a 3D-rendered figure, which appears humanoid and simplistic in design, standing in the center and holding a large, heavy chain with both hands. The chain extends horizontally across the image from one side to the other, symbolizing weight or burden. The figure is depicted in a neutral gray tone, contrasting against a plain white background, emphasizing the starkness and simplicity of the composition. Above the figure, a quote by Honoré de Balzac reads: "Life would be easy enough if we were not continually exerting ourselves to forge new chains, and invent absurd formalities which make it a burden."

The Quote Of The Day is:

“Life would be easy enough if we were not continually exerting ourselves to forge new chains, and invent absurd formalities which make it a burden.” (Honoré de Balzac)

Questions For Coaches:

  • How do you guide clients in recognizing and breaking free from the “chains” they’ve forged themselves?
  • What “chains” have you forged connected to your coaching that hinder your growth?
  • What areas of your life feel unnecessarily complex, and how might you simplify them?

Bonus Questions

  • What role does thought play in creating the sense of pressure from societal norms, and how can you address it?
  • How does focusing on what truly matters reduce the pressures you place on yourself?
  • What processes or formalities in your coaching business are unnecessary and causing inefficiency?
  • If life was eve easier, what would be different?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Illuminating Insights: How Moments of Clarity Shape Our Understanding and Decisions

The image features a row of light bulbs against a dark, gradient blue background, creating a visually striking and minimalist aesthetic. All but one of the bulbs are off and appear in a muted, monochromatic gray tone, conveying a sense of inactivity or dormancy. In contrast, the bulb furthest to the right is glowing brightly, emitting a soft white light that stands out vividly against the darker surroundings. Above this arrangement, there's a quote by Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.: "A moment's insight is sometimes worth a life's experience."

Today’s quote of the day is:

“A moment’s insight is sometimes worth a life’s experience.” (Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.)

Let’s take a moment to consider: what does ‘insight’ mean to you? For me, an insight is a new thought that provides a deeper, more accurate perspective on something or someone.

Defining Insight: An insight doesn’t merely rearrange what we know—it transforms how we understand. When insight strikes, it’s like a light turning on in a previously dark room. Suddenly, a clear path forward emerges where there was only uncertainty before. Whether it’s resolving a complex problem at work or navigating a personal relationship, the clarity from a true insight can feel like discovering a map that leads out of a maze.

Insights can appear as a seemingly obvious idea, or they might integrate so naturally into our actions that we barely notice the integration. Sometimes, they completely rearrange how we perceive the world—both externally and how we see ourselves. It can only take a moment so that we see something that a massive impact upon us – even if we’ve spent our entire lifetime up until that moment believing something entirely different.

The Source of Insights: Where do these transformative thoughts come from? Often, they arrive unexpectedly—during a walk, in the shower, or in the quiet moments just before sleep. It seems our brain shifts gears when we’re not actively problem-solving, allowing disparate ideas to merge into something new and meaningful.

They seem to come out of the blue. For me, it’s when we get quieter. It’s as if my intellect, which has spent a lifetime typically buzzing with activity, decides to take a ‘holiday.’ This isn’t about stopping thinking entirely, but rather allowing the constant analysis and planning to step back temporarily. When my mind isn’t fixated on solving or controlling everything, it frees up space for deeper insights to emerge. In these moments, my thinking slows down—there’s no fixed time it takes—and my mental chatter quiets. It’s in this quieter space beneath the busy surface that my inner knowing becomes more apparent. All I do is notice and listen, without the need to direct or judge the thoughts that arise. [Note, the more I play with this the more those holidays are turning into longer spells, and I’ve described it at times more like a retirement, my intellect can still potter and get involved when it wants, but there’s less that look like it’s its job to figure out.]

As coaches, you’re probably use to phrases such as “the client has their own answers.” As a Transformational coach, I spend a lot of time pointing people towards this inner world, more a dimension, where creativity seems to spring from and our own wisdom “hangs out”. Which allows those answers to more easily appear at their own pace and speed, without the hard work of figuring it all out, because if nothing else the answers that often come are usually surprising and do not follow a logical intellectual formula.

The Impact of Insights: The value of a single insight can be immense. Consider how Isaac Newton’s insight into gravity, prompted by a falling apple, fundamentally changed our understanding of the universe. Or think about how a sudden realization about a loved one can mend a strained relationship. These moments are not just about acquiring information; they are about gaining new perspectives that can radically shift our actions and outcomes.

Conclusion: Insights are powerful because they cut through noise and confusion to reveal underlying truths. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. was right—a moment’s insight can indeed be worth a life’s experience and light up new understandings. Would you be open to experiencing more of those moments? Personally, I think that begins by recognizing that this profound potential is available to us. Then, it’s about being open to explore and play with this potential, simply observing what we notice without judgment.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


Analyse Impact: Questions for Coaches to Reflect on Their Practice

The image features a wooden artist's mannequin, a simple, jointed figure often used in drawing studies, sitting with one arm resting on its knee and the other supporting itself on the surface. Positioned against a plain white background, the mannequin appears to be deep in thought, looking upwards. Above its head are thought bubbles, the largest of which contains a chaotic, tangled scribble, symbolizing complex or perhaps confusing thoughts. The quote by Emily Greene Balch displayed at the bottom of the image reads: "It is natural to try to understand one's own time and to seek to analyze the forces that move it."

The Quote Of The Day is:

“It is natural to try to understand one’s own time and to seek to analyse the forces that move it.” (Emily Greene Balch)

Questions For Coaches:

  • What societal forces do you feel have the most significant impact on your life right now?
  • In what ways do you support clients in adapting to rapid changes in their environment?
  • In what ways do you assist clients in building resilience against uncertainties in their environment?

Bonus Questions

  • How do your thoughts and perceptions shape your understanding of the world around you?
  • How do current events impact your personal goals, and how can you adapt to them while staying true to you?
  • What would you say is the force that makes the biggest impact for you and your coaching practice?
  • What aspects of your coaching practice are you consciously analysing? Upon reevaluation, is there anything else you analyse?
  • Do you analyse the impact that your coaching has? If so, how do you do that?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.


A Delayed Train And The Willingness To Consider

A clip from our Coaching From The Soul 7th August live stream. Every 3-4 weeks myself and some coaching colleagues get together online to share a conversation with the broad brief of what we’re seeing about what it’s like to be human! As you may imagine, the conversation may go in any direction, in this call I was reminded about my experience of having a train delayed.

How to Watch More Coaching From The Soul

To watch the whole live stream that this clip came from, you can see that here.

Join us Wednesday 25th September at 6.15 pm UK live for our next call and see what topics come up for us this month

The Coaching From The Soul YouTube channel has lots of short clips taken from previous conversations, as well as the complete past chats.


Exploring Artistic Insights: Questions for Coaches

At the centre are two mirrored profiles of a human face, rendered in a translucent, cloud-like texture against a backdrop of a deep, star-filled cosmos. The faces appear serene and introspective, blending seamlessly into the surrounding nebula of blues and whites, suggesting a state of deep thought or dreaming. The stars and galactic clouds enhance the mystical and otherworldly atmosphere of the image. Above this celestial portrait, there is a quote by Paracelsus: "From time immemorial artistic insights have been revealed to artists in their sleep and in dreams, so that at all times they ardently desired them."

The quote of the day is:

“From time immemorial artistic insights have been revealed to artists in their sleep and in dreams, so that at all times they ardently desired them.” (Paracelsus)

Questions For Coaches:

  • In what ways do you support clients in creating environments conducive to spontaneous creativity?
  • How does embracing your intuitive side influence your decision-making processes?
  • How can you, as a coach, continue to develop your own intuition to better assist your clients?

Bonus Questions:

  • If you think about it, to you, does the phrase “artistic insights” mean something different to a description of “insights”?
  • How does appreciating the transient nature of thoughts influence your openness to new and unexpected ideas?
  • How might periods of rest and reflection contribute to increased creativity and clarity in your life?
  • How can you balance structured planning with openness to new, unexpected insights in your professional endeavours?
  • How can coaches create a safe space for clients to explore and share spontaneous insights?

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is a transformative coach dedicated to empowering individuals to get out of their own way and make a meaningful impact in the world. With an impactful, nurturing coaching style, Jen supports clients in unlocking their potential and achieving their goals. As an experienced coach and trainer, she guides clients from self-doubt to success.

Discover how Jen can support you to get out of your own way here.