Monthly Archives: January 2024

The Soulful Dance of Coaching: Nurturing Transformative Connections

 in quote  tagged authentic / coach / coaching / connection / Joseph Addison / presence / quote / soul / transformation
This image has a black sillhute of a forest scene with a warm hazy background, as if at sunrise and the start of a new day. Sillhutes of three human figures are stood facing away from the viewer, as if watching the start of a new day. Written at the bottom of the image is the following text: "Great souls by instinct to each other turn, Demand alliance, and in friendship burn" (Joseph Addison)

Today’s quote of the day is:

“Great souls by instinct to each other turn, Demand alliance, and in friendship burn” (Joseph Addison)

I think this quote resonated with me because it beautifully articulates the essence of deep connections. While its important to say at this stage that coaching is distinct from friendship, for me, there’s an undeniable resonance between these words and the profound experiences that coaching can cultivate.

Exploring the Indescribable:

Depending upon your style and approach, coaching can often delve into realms that challenge easy description. It’s an attempt to articulate the indescribable, a pursuit that might be deemed “woo-woo” by some. In this exploration, I invite you to ponder and recognize your own experiences, considering what draws you to coaching and what you seek in a coaching relationship, both as a coach and a client.

The Flame Within:

One of the enchanting moments in coaching is when a client connects with their “soul” — the instant when they come alive, and you witness the flame within them shining brightly. This transformative spark, often elusive and challenging to articulate, is a magnetic force that transcends mere words. It’s an integral part of my approach to coaching that not all training programs explicitly cover, yet it’s unmistakable when experienced and witnessed.

Authentic Presence and Connection:

Certain coaching approaches create an environment where both coach and client can be authentically present, open, and vulnerable. This authenticity fosters a deep connection that goes beyond verbal communication. Whilst not the only reason, it’s why some coaches insist on connecting with potential clients before committing to a coaching relationship, recognizing the importance of alignment on a profound level.

Believing in the Client:

The question of “believing in a client” might seem perplexing to some. From the perspective of seasoned coaches, the idea of not believing in a client is inconceivable. The alignment between coach and client goes beyond a professional fit; it’s about resonating on a deeper level. It’s about recognizing and respecting each other’s souls and being excited about embarking on a transformative journey together. (I did issue a “woo-woo” warning earlier ;))

I’m always very aware eith a new client, particularly if someone is used to doing everything they can to be the person they think they should be, allowing themselves to just be in that space can feel really vulnerable and can feel like it takes a lot to turn up. Whilst I don’t follow anything as formal as a script its usual for me to acknowledge that in some way during our first conversation – I’ve found it actually aids in the long term. I can often see a physical relaxation once that’s been acknowledged and we can move onto the rest of the conversation.

Beyond Transaction:

When this alignment occurs, I find that the coaching relationship transcends transactional boundaries. It becomes a sacred space for growth— its like a dance of energy to explore evolve. It’s not just about reaching goals; it’s a journey of transformation, where the internal flame burns brighter and stronger and acts as a guide.

A Transformative Journey:

Recognizing the deeper connection in this approach to coaching transforms it into more than just a service—it becomes a transformative journey. This dance of energy propels both coach and client towards growth, evolution, and a profound transformation. It’s about more than achieving objectives; it’s about that allusive term of authenticity.

Your Soulful Coaching Experience:

Do you resonate with this description and experience of coaching? Whether you’re a coach, a client, or someone considering coaching, share your insights in the comments. What draws you to your style of coaching, and what kind of connections do you seek in this transformative process? Your reflections might just inspire and resonate with others on their own coaching journeys. Feel free to share in the coments below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Beyond the Classroom: Navigating the Dual Realms of Education

 in quote  tagged coach / coaching / education / quote / training
A green chalk board is mounted on a cream coloured wall. It has a wooden shelf at the bottom of the board where 5 books are pilled to the right hand side. On the centre of the shelf us a rectangular board cleaner. The corners of the board are darker then the central area presumably due to chalk having been wipped off that section more. In white on the board is written "There are obviously two educations. One should teach us how to make a living and the other how to live." (James Truslow Adams)

Today’s Quote of the Day is:

“There are obviously two educations. One should teach us how to make a living and the other how to live.” (James Truslow Adams)

Today’s quote by James Truslow Adams serves as a poignant reminder that education encompasses more than just the pursuit of a career. It beckons us to explore the dual realms of learning — one that equips us with the skills to make a living and another that imparts the wisdom to truly live. As coaches, let’s delve into the expansive landscape of education beyond traditional classrooms that this quote point towards.

Education Beyond the Classroom:

Contrary to the conventional image of education confined within classroom walls, todays quote encourages us to envision a more holistic approach. It’s about embracing the idea that education is not solely about diplomas and certificates; it’s a lifelong journey that extends into every facet of our life and existence.

Reflecting on Your Educational Journey:

As we embark on this new year, take a moment to contemplate the areas of education and learning you wish to focus on. Is it the refinement of a specific skill, the pursuit of personal growth, or the exploration of a new field altogether? Whether it’s mastering a language, enhancing cooking skills, or delving into the intricacies of emotional intelligence, the possibilities are boundless.

My 2004 planned Educational Journey:

Personally, I’m embarking on a new coaching certification. The opportunity to be mentored and receive personalised support from a coach with decades of experience was too enticing to pass up. For me, my decision to pursue this certification aligns with the belief that education is not a static achievement but a dynamic process of continual growth and refinement.

It’s getting on for a couple of decades since I first did any sort of coaching course and I view continuing professional development as part of my natural development. Its about finding those spaces that allow me to play and explore and in some instances to re-examine.I think theres an art and a science to coaching and it has always just seemed natural to me to delve deeper into whatever aspects interest me at any given time.

It’s seldom about getting the bit of paper at the end of the course. (In fact the one time I did that, it was actually one of the least rewarding courses I’ve done). For me its about that learning experience and the rewards that come from that.

The Power of Sharing:

Education is a journey best shared. In the comments, I invite you to articulate the areas you’re focusing on this year. It could be a skill you’re honing, a language you’re learning, or a new perspective you’re seeking in the realm of personal or business development. Sharing your educational aspirations not only fosters a sense of community but also has the potential to inspire others on their unique journeys.

Enriching Lives and Making a Difference:

The essence of Adams’ quote lies in recognizing that education has the power to enrich our lives and empower us to make a difference. It’s about acquiring knowledge that goes beyond the immediate demands of a career and seeps into the very fabric of our existence.

Conclusion:

As we navigate the dual realms of education, let’s embrace the breadth and depth of learning opportunities available to us. Whether you’re pursuing a traditional course of study or venturing into uncharted territories of some other form of personal development, every step is a valuable contribution to the tapestry of your educational journey. I’d love to hear your plans and how you’re embracing the transformative power of continuous learning and growth – feel free to share in the coments below.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Breaking Free from Judgments: A Friday Reflection for Coaches

 in quote  tagged coach / coaching / Henry Wadsworth Longfellow / judgement / quote
The background colour is similar to an old parchment shade. In a black watercolour style border gives smudges in the corners of the image. Black text in that space reads: "We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done" (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow)

Today’s coaching quote of the day is:

“We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.” (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow)

As we welcome the first Friday of 2024, let’s pause and reflect on the words encapsulated in today’s quote by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. “We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.” I think that this quote invites coaches to delve into the dynamics of self-judgment and the impact it may have on both personal and professional growth.

The Paradox of Self-Judgments:

Longfellow’s words illuminate a paradox that many of us grapple with – the disjunction between our internal assessment of our capabilities and the external judgments based on our past actions. As coaches, it prompts us to consider whether the perceptions we hold of ourselves align with the judgments others make based on our track record.

Limiting Potential Based on External Perceptions:

The invitation to ponder extends beyond our personal reflections to the clients we guide. Are you, or your clients, constraining potential based on past achievements or failures? Longfellow’s quote prompts a critical examination of whether these judgments, whether self-imposed or externally influenced, are inadvertently hindering the exploration of new possibilities and personal growth.

The Liberation from Past Definitions:

Consider this: What if your past doesn’t dictate your future? What if the constraints we place on ourselves, fueled by judgments, are merely thought created illusions? Coaches are uniquely positioned to guide individuals through a transformative journey, challenging them to break free from the limitations of past achievements and embrace the boundless potential that lies ahead.

The Art of Predicting the Unpredictable:

Longfellow’s quote raises an intriguing question: What if we are simply bad at predicting the future or the duration it “should” take to achieve a goal? Coaches can facilitate a mindset shift by encouraging clients to relinquish rigid timelines and embrace the fluidity of progress. Sometimes, the most remarkable transformations unfold when we release the need for predetermined schedules and allow growth to take its organic course.

A Day Off from Self-Judgment:

As we navigate the complexities of self-judgment, here’s a Friday challenge: What if you took the day off from judging yourself? What if you granted yourself the grace to be a work in progress, free from the weight of past judgments? This simple act of self-compassion can pave the way for a renewed perspective and a more empowering journey ahead.

Conclusion:

In the spirit of Longfellow’s quote, let’s use this Friday as an opportunity for reflection and liberation. Release the shackles of self-judgment, challenge the constraints of past achievements, and embrace the infinite possibilities that lie beyond. As coaches, let’s guide ourselves and our clients toward a future untethered by judgments, where the journey is as important as the destination. Have a fantastic and judgment-free Friday!

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

The Power of Action: Turning Coaching Ambitions into Reality

 in quote  tagged Abigail Adams / action / coach / coaching / quote
A background border of multicoloured empty speech bubbles and other swirly shapes, including some that could be quotation marks leaves an irrigular squished circular white space in the centre of the image. In that space black text reads: "We have too many high sounding words, and too few actions that correspond with them." (Abigail Adams)

Today’s quote of the day is:

“We have too many high sounding words, and too few actions that correspond with them.” (Abigail Adams)

In the whirlwind of coaching aspirations and the energy that often accompanies the new year, Abigail Adams’ quote stands as a gentle yet powerful reminder: “We have too many high sounding words, and too few actions that correspond with them.” I chose this as todays quote as a call to reflect on the balance between our words and our actions, emphasizing that the steps we take daily play a pivotal role in bringing our dreams to life.

Actions Speak Louder than Words:

Another way of looking at this quote is the addage “actions speak louder than words”. It’s a common inclination to express our grand ambitions and dreams with eloquent words. However, this quote Abigail Adams nudges us to shift our focus from mere words and rhetoric to tangible actions. In the realm of coaching, this may resonate with your coaching approach – urging us to channel our energy into the small, consistent steps that pave the way for significant transformations.

As we approach the end of the first week of 2024, many will no doubt have spent time to articulate your coaching visions for the year ahead. Have you also commited to any daily actions that align with those aspirations? Whilst you are allowed to change those actions at any point – small, intentional steps accumulate over time, creating a foundation for success. Whether it’s reaching out to potential clients, refining coaching techniques, or investing time in professional development, these actions form the building blocks of a thriving coaching practice.

A Reminder for Coaches:

The quote serves as a timely reminder for coaches to examine their daily routines and practices. Are your actions aligning with the words you share with your clients and colleagues? Take a moment to assess whether your daily efforts are moving you closer to your coaching goals. It’s the consistent, purposeful actions that can ultimately define your journey and impact.

Conclusion:

As we absorb the wisdom of Abigail Adams, and the truth that actions can indeed speak louder than words. In the realm of coaching, where transformation is a constant pursuit, the daily steps we take can be paramount. As we journey through the first week of 2024, let’s be mindful not only of the words we use but, more importantly, of the actions we take to turn our coaching dreams into reality.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

Great skill

 in quote  tagged coach / coaching / coaching skills / quote
There is great skill in knowing how to conceal ones skill. 600 x 400

Today’s quote of the day is:

“There is great skill in knowing how to conceal one’s skill.” (François de La Rochefoucauld)

Today’s quote by François de La Rochefoucauld invites us to contemplate a less conventional perspective on skill and its display. As coaches, this quote resonates particularly with the challenges many of us face when it comes to showcasing our coaching abilities. It often unveils a tangled web of concerns around marketing, inviting clients, and managing expectations. Let’s unravel the layers of this quote and explore how it may hold insights for coaches navigating the delicate balance of skill revelation.

Navigating the Fear of Overexposure:

In my conversations with fellow coaches, especially those starting their journey, a common theme often emerges – what will others think about how I talk about my work. Sometimes its concerns about being found to be a fraud and at the other end of the scale theres a general discomfort with not being seen as humble etc. For some displaying coaching prowess can be intimidating; it may create a concern about setting an unrealistic expectations or even foster a sense of intimidation. The fear is palpable, and it begs the question: does concealing our skill serve us and our clients well?

A Strategic Approach to Skill Display:

Im guessing if you’ve read this far an approach of “just getting on with it” probably hasn’t worked for you. So lets consider another approach. La Rochefoucauld’s quote hints at a nuanced perspective. It’s not about hiding our talents but about exercising wisdom and strategy in their presentation.

As coaches, our impact can be most meaningful when our skills are showcased thoughtfully. If you find yourself resonating with this fear, consider whether this behavior is genuinely benefiting you and your clients. Reflect on whether there’s a more strategic approach to revealing your skills that aligns with your values and goals. I can be just as guilty as everyone else and from time to time of forgetting this is my business – so I get to make up the structure that works for me and my clients.

Bespoke Solutions for Coaches:

The way I approach coaching, there’s no “one-size-fits-all” approach. It’s about discovering bespoke solutions that work uniquely for each coach. If you’ve been grappling with the fear of overexposing your skills, resist the urge to criticise yourself. Instead, explore alternative approaches that align with your authenticity. What comes to mind when you consider a different, more intentional method of showcasing your skills?

Encountering Clients’ Similar Fears:

If you recognize this fear in yourself, chances are your clients might be grappling with it too. Consider this an opportunity for growth, both for you and your coaching practice. What new insights or approaches emerge when you apply La Rochefoucauld’s wisdom to your coaching relationships? Embracing continuous growth and acknowledging that even professional coaches are works in progress can be a powerful thought.

A Gentle Reminder:

Lastly, it’s perfectly okay to be a work in progress. Yes, even professional coaches are human. 😉 I suggest that you give yourself the grace to evolve and adapt, and remember that each step forward is a step toward mastery.

Conclusion:

As coaches, François de La Rochefoucauld’s quote challenges us to reflect on the strategic unveiling of our skills. It’s an invitation to navigate what for some can be a delicate balance between showcasing our talents and managing expectations. I would suggest that its one of those things that the more you do this, the more comfortable you become with it. Embrace the opportunity to find bespoke solutions that work for you and your clients. And, in the spirit of growth, allow yourself the grace to be a work in progress, continuously refining your approach to skill revelation.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.

No impossibilities

 in quote  tagged coaches / coaching / dream / János Arany / love / quote
A red, green and purple watercoloured marble effect borders a cream heart shape n the centre of the image. Within the marbel effecr are what is either flying birds or leaves. Around the edge of the heart space are small red watercoloured flowers. The text in the centre reads "In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities" (János Arany)

Today’s quote of the day is:

“In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities” (János Arany)

I suspect that this quote will resonate with some coaches who find that it holds the key to unlocking our fullest potential. As with all quotes on here you may find its not one that resonates for you – that doesn’t make your way of coaching any less valid – the quote is purely here as a prompt and an invite to explore.

For many delving into the realms of dreams and love, brings discoveries of boundless opportunities for growth, transformation, and personal development.

Dreams as Catalysts:

It’s not at all uncommon for the language of what a client wants to be phased as their dreams – you’ve probably either used the language yourself or had clients who have said it to you. Coaches often witness the transformative power of helping individuals identify and pursue their dreams. It’s in the pursuit of these dreams that we also often confront challenges, learn resilience, and ultimately evolve into the best versions of ourselves – all of which many coaches list as what they support their clients with.

Dreams can act as catalysts, they can igniting the flame of motivation within us. Sometimes they provide a roadmap for any goals and aspirations, pushing us to overcome obstacles and strive for excellence. I feel that with my approach to how I coach that fostering an environment where a client feels safe to acknowledged their dreams and supported to actively pursued is essential for nurturing personal and professional development.

Love as a Driving Force:

Love, in its myriad forms, is a potent force that permeates every aspect of our lives. Whether it’s loving yourself, love for others, or passion for what we do, love becomes the driving force behind meaningful self-improvement. Coaches, with their unique ability to guide individuals towards self-discovery, often play a pivotal role in helping clients recognize and harness the power of love in their lives – even if you don’t use that specific language to describe it.

You could argue that a cornerstone of a healthy and fulfilling life is loving yourslef. When individuals embrace and cherish themselves, they cultivate a positive mindset that fuels personal growth. Coaches can facilitate this process by encouraging clients to acknowledge their worth, may be you have clients celebrate achievements, and practice self-compassion.

The Intersection of Dreams and Love:

The synergy between dreams and love creates a powerful intersection where possibilities become limitless. When we align our passions with our aspirations and approach self-improvement with a loving mindset, we break through self-imposed barriers. Coaches can guide individuals to explore this intersection, helping them recognize the interconnectedness of their dreams and the love that fuels their journey.

In this space, individuals discover that love is not only an emotion but a dynamic force that propels them towards their dreams. The love for what they do, the love for the journey, and the love for the people around them become driving factors in overcoming challenges and embracing growth.

Overcoming Perceived Impossibilities:

Arany’s quote suggests that impossibilities dissolve in the face of dreams and love. Coaches often encounter clients who grapple with thoughts of self-doubt and limiting beliefs, perceiving certain goals as unattainable. As a coach, is this something that you have seen in real life?

Dreams instill the belief that the impossible is merely a stepping stone to the extraordinary. Love, on the other hand, provides the emotional resilience needed to navigate the uncertainties and setbacks that can crop up. Together, dreams and love empower individuals to overcome challenges with unwavering determination.

By nurturing the dreams of those we guide and fostering a culture of loving themselves, I think it is one way to pave the way for transformative personal development and helps find the keys to unlocking the best versions of ourselves.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen provides here.

What may be done at any time ….

 in quote  tagged coaching / Procrastination / quote / tasks / time / to do
Ther image is in black and an off white, similar to an image that could be found in an old paperback book. There is a round clock face with roman numerals around the outside, it does not have any hands. Instead in the centre of the image is a snowy forest scene in silhouette. A figure can be seen in the mid distance. Around the outside of the clock face is a stary night sky with planets and snow mountains. Beneath this image is the text: "What may be done at any time will be done at no time." (Scottish proverb)

Today’s quote of the day is actually a proverb:

“What may be done at any time will be done at no time” (Scottish proverb)

People often utilize the start of a new year as an opportunity to contemplate their accomplishments and aspirations. It is common to have a list of tasks, encompassing both personal and professional spheres, that we continuously postpone with the belief that they can be tackled at any time. However, the question arises: how frequently do we actually leave these tasks unfinished?

Regarding the proverb Tasks postponed are tasks abandoned, coaches may interpret it in various ways. It can serve as a gentle yet pragmatic reminder to seize opportunities promptly and avoid procrastination. By prioritizing tasks and addressing them promptly, we can maximize our productivity each day.

Then there is also a nudge to actually check what we have on our mental to do list is just something that is purely there to beat ourselves up about not doing – there’s no actual consequencies if its not done, its not something you actually want to do etc.

I invite you to ponder on the following questions:

What tasks have you put off for a “later” that never seems to come?

Are these actually tasks that need doing, or just something that clutters up your head/ can be used to beat yourself up with when not done?

Are there things there that don’t need doing but you want to do?

(I’m not saying scrap you’re entire to do list, I’m just suggesting that some times its worth checking what is actually on there and if its still relivent)

What steps can you take today towards accomplishing what you’ve been postponing?

How will completing these tasks impact what you’re wanting to work on this year?

What else springs to your mind? Feel free to drop a comment below and share

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.