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Does This Fear Inhibit Your Business?

In this weeks guest post Adele Michal shares some of her experience and knowledge gained from working with women entrepreneurs.

Does This Fear Inhibit Your Business?

By Adele Michal

"Does This Fear Inhibit Your Business?" by Adele Michal

Do you ever wonder why so many mission-driven entrepreneurs find getting really clear on what they offer and how to talk about it to prospective clients so difficult?

FEAR plagues many women entrepreneurs who want to make a difference. Fear has many faces. I’ll talk about several of them here in the next few weeks.

Naming fears and clearing them out of your system is the BEST WAY for you to get clear on what services you offer in your business so that you develop ease enrolling your ideal clients.

Let’s talk about one fear that may be affecting you and your business without your knowing it so that you can address and change it.

The FEAR of doing it WRONG!

If you are like most women in business, you fear:

  • messing up,
  • not being perfect, and
  • not knowing how to respond to a new situation or challenge.

Many men do not have this fear and in fact, are quite confident that they can do things they’ve never done before or been trained to do.

In contrast, many very capable women resist trying something new and instead seek another certification or more training so they are sure to be able to handle what might come up.

As you can imagine, fear of doing “it” wrong keeps many service-based entrepreneurs from getting clear on exactly what they offer, how it benefits their clients, and how valuable it is.

Many of us were raised to be “good girls” and want to please the people who are important to us. Caring about others is what we do as women, but in business we can carry it too far.

Let’s look at a way to address the Fear of Doing It Wrong:

Ask yourself where in your business and offerings you are trying to please someone besides yourself.

  • Do you discount your prices?
  • Do you stay unclear about your services and offers so that no one knows exactly what you do?
  • Do you do too many trades or complimentary sessions?

(** See my note below)

Behind all of these actions is a fear of not pleasing someone who matters to you. Ask yourself:

question mark smallWho is that person?

question mark smallWhat would s/he say if you tried something new or bold?

question mark smallHow would s/he respond if you did something wrong?

As you come up with your answers to these questions, imagine a different response than fear.

question mark smallCould you laugh at yourself for thinking that anyone would really want less than the best for you?

question mark smallCan you release some of the fear by breathing it out and give yourself some freedom to move forward another step?

question mark smallHow about giving yourself a Free Pass from Perfection for the next 30 days? Intend to do it wrong. Let yourself learn. You can perfect it later and the world will not fall apart.

It is critical to you and your business that you name, face, and disable your fear of Doing It Wrong. If you’re not clearly sharing your work and gifts with the people you are meant to help, they cannot get the benefit of working with you. And that is a shame.

Life and business are messy. There’s no such thing as perfection. Doing is better than perfect. We’ll all survive if you don’t get it right this time. Next time you’ll know how to make it better.

I invite you to disengage from your Fear of Doing It Wrong this month. Please let me know how it goes for you. You may be surprised at how much you like the freedom to learn by doing.

** When you’re first starting your practice or service business, it’s good to do a few no cost or low-cost sessions to get experience and clarity about who you like to work with. It’s also sometimes appropriate to do a trade with someone whose work you really value and want. And it’s surely good to give pro-bono work to someone who can’t afford your fees at this time.

But if you are not charging, not charging enough, or doing a lot of trades, you are sabotaging your business, not giving your clients an opportunity to invest in themselves, and telling yourself subconsciously that what you do is not valuable.

This is a dangerous trend and does not serve you or your clients. Look at what you are afraid of and summon up the courage to face it. I promise it will be rewarding.

About Adele Michal

Adele MichalAdele Michal helps entrepreneurs and small business owners help more people and make more money by teaching them how to sell authentically instead fearing sales.

Adele is the creator of Peak State Selling™ Process. She works with individual clients and leads training courses on Selling Without Fear™. She focuses her work on helping her clients enhance their performance in authentic selling by using simple mind/body practices that create confidence, certainty, and charisma in every situation.

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It Is What It Is: The Art of Letting Go

Change can be a catalyst that prompts someone to turn to a coach for support. In today’s guest post coach Melani Luedtke-Taylor share some thoughts on letting go.

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It Is What It Is: The Art of Letting Go

by Melani Luedtke-Taylor

My husband is not typically a guy who shows his emotions readily, but when I recently used the phrase “it is what it is” to describe a situation he spoke up – loud and clear. “I hate that phrase”, he said. “Too often it is used by people who are too lazy to know what it is and turn it into what it should be.” Unfortunately for my husband, he gets this a lot in his line of work from employees who simply do not want to tackle a difficult situation.

In some ways, I agree with him. There are people who are willing to let situations continue simply because it would be too much effort to work towards a solution. I work on membership for a national nonprofit organization and am always surprised with how many people do not belong or support causes for a myriad of reasons, most often because they feel that they do not have time to devote.

However, I use the phrase “it is what it is” a very different way than my husband’s employees. I use it to verbalize my understanding that I cannot change the situation therefore, letting it go and dealing with whatever comes my way.

For example, I cannot change someone else’s behavior. I can voice my displeasure with their choice, but I cannot dictate the action that they will take. Acts of God are the same way. So when my flight is delayed for an hour when a storm blows through, “it is what it is”. When I miss my connecting flight because we took off late due to a storm, “it is what it is”. No amount of worrying, yelling or planning would have changed the situation. I have to accept the situation and do my best with it.

Don’t get me wrong. There are plenty of situations that appear as if they can’t be changed. World hunger to me is a colossal problem that makes me so overwhelmed but it isn’t an “it is what it is” situation. I may not be able to solve world hunger by myself with my limited resources, but I can certainly do something about it; donate to the local food bank, volunteer at a soup kitchen, bring meals to the elderly, or countless other ways. My actions may not solve world hunger, but they certainly work towards alleviating the symptoms of it.

It is important to know what can and cannot by changed. Being able to let go of unchangeable situations helps maintain a calm core which improves your health. Changing what can be changed helps increase your level of happiness by giving more purpose to your life. If you need help with either, or simply help with knowing the difference, contact a coach. We are here to help you live more successfully.

About the Author/Further Resources

Melani is an accomplished marketing professional with over 16 years at a Fortune 100 company and has served on multiple non profit boards. She is certified in coaching through the Coaching Academy of North America (CANA) in Marketing, Non Profit Board, Resolution Success, Infertility and Life Coaching. She values education and is constantly working on updating her skills to ensure the most success for her clients.

She is married with a twelve year old daughter.

www.lifecyclescoaching.com

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