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A Challenge Every Coach Faces… and what to do about it

In today’s guest post Ling Wong shares some of her experience and knowledge as a business and marketing coach:

A Challenge Every Coach Faces… and what to do about it

By Ling Wong

"A Challenge Every Coach Faces… and what to do about it" by Ling Wong

 

As ‪coaches and mentors, how much are we “diagnosing” our clients’ problems through the lens of the tools/skills we possess?

And by doing so, while we are offering a solution, are we in a way limiting our clients’ possibilities?

When I was working on my Sacred Money Archetype Coach Training, I interpreted many things that came up for my clients through the lens of money mindset. When I was getting my Fear Releasing Method certification, seemingly every problem’s root cause was fear.

While my clients were getting great results, I felt we might not have seen the problem in its entirety if I were to stick with just one particular tool or method.

We are all human. Having a point of view is inevitable, and probably desirable (especially if you are looking to position yourself uniquely in the marketplace.)

The challenge comes in when the nature of a coaching or mentoring relationship somewhat puts us in a position of being an “authority” (again, it’s not a bad thing. From a marketing perspective, we want to be seen as an expert or an authority. From a coaching perspective, clients DO want to be lead to a certain extant.)

Which means OUR point of view is going to impact the clients’ decisions and actions, therefore, the outcome.

(We don’t have to look far… I have worked with many clients who had hired business coaches or taken those $1,997 or $3,997 programs only to find themselves being squeezed through an “agenda”, and spat out of the “guru factory line.”  They got themselves into the “niche pickle,” building out business structure and going down a rabbit hole they have no business to be in.)

We can probably guide our clients to achieve an outcome that is “desirable” from an objective point of view. The question I want to pose is whether that is an outcome that serves THAT particular client best? Is it most aligned with his/her core value, identity, beliefs etc.?

Here are a few thoughts on how we can mitigate this challenge:

  1. Cultivate Awareness

Let’s start with the assumption that there is no way around the fact that we have our own point of view.

The first step is to cultivate the awareness that we do bring our own filters into a coaching/mentoring relationship.

Our clients probably hire us because they resonate with our point of view and that’s why they want our guidance.

However, I believe when we are expressing our own opinions we can make it clear that it is our point of view and thus just one way to approach their challenges.

Our role is to expand our clients’ thinking and help them see their challenges from different perspectives, instead of (unintentionally) steering them into one particular decision or action that stems from our perspective.

  1. You Are Not Your Trainings and Certifications

A lot of times the way we approach a problem is determined by our skills and the tools we have at our disposal.

“If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.”

It is important to not to let the “tools du jour” drive our coaching conversations. (More on It’s OK to Say Thank You and Now F*** Off To Your Trainings and Certifications)

Instead, what is the bigger message that drives your work? What is the identity you want to inspire your clients to take on? What beliefs you want to instill in your clients so they can achieve their goals in alignment with what’s true for them?

From there, what tools and methods can you apply, for your clients’ greatest good instead of a self-gratuitous way of using a tool just because you paid money to learn it?

  1. Lead with a Deeper, Bigger Message

Maybe it is about exploring a deeper message, so when we approach a challenge with a client, it’s not about finding a tool-driven solution but a identity/belief-driven solution that can encompasses multiple approaches and perspectives.

This may mean, for many of my multi-passionate and multi-talented peeps, is to gather all their skills, experience, talents, superpowers and ideas, tap into their beliefs and conviction, to device a cohesive message that transcends individual skills and tools.

By doing so, it gives you the framework and allows you the freedom to choose what new skills you want to learn, and what tools you want to add to your toolbox, without having to “redefine” what you do every time, or look like a Jack-of-all-trades.

This framework also acts as a filter so you can avoid the Bright Shiny Object Syndrome, and invest your time, money and effort on what truly matters to YOU.

By having this ONE cohesive message, you will not only be able to give your clients a more inclusive and expansive container to grow and explore, but you will also create more powerful marketing communication because of the clarity, conviction and confidence you achieve in your business.

>> Grab this free training to see how to turn ALL your big ideas into ONE cohesive message that sells.

About Ling Wong

Ling is an Intuitive Brainiac. Through her unique blend of Business + Marketing coaching with a Mindset + Psychic Twist, she helps the highly creative, intuitive, multi-talented and multi-passionate maverick solo-entrepreneurs distill ALL their big ideas into ONE cohesive Message, nail the WORDS that sell and design a Plan to cut the busywork and do what matters, through her intuitive yet rigorous iterative process born out of her Harvard Design School training and 10 years of experience in the online marketing industry.

Find Ling and grab her free “How to Find YOUR Winning Formula” Training Series at http://business-soulwork.com/ywf-free/

 


Getting The Message Across Is Vital 1

In this week’s guest post Ryan Toms shares his thoughts about working with, and speaking to, groups in a business setting.

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Getting The Message Across Is Vital

By Ryan Toms

Whether you’re a full-time coach or someone who dabbles in motivational speaking, you’ll know how the credibility of your message can set the tone for the whole coaching session. If you’re trying to get across a degree of positivity but your demeanour suggests otherwise, the whole session will have been little more than a waste of time and effort.

The Internet, various coaching manuals and the occasional video tutorial will tell you there are different answers to the debate about the most important aspect of coaching, but I feel there is one answer to this: you simply MUST get your message across at every session you hold. If attendees come away without knowing what you were trying to say, a vital opportunity would have been missed. Therefore, always have in mind the goal of the session and don’t over-complicate a presentation with too many objectives or take-homes for the audience: each should build on the previous point.

Coaching sessions are often used to improve morale in the workplace, which can be something of a knife edge for the speaker: the wrong approach could end up demotivating employees or be seen as condescending; exactly the opposite result to what is intended! Therefore, you should always make sure you do a little research beforehand. While one group of workers might benefit from a gung-ho approach, others may prefer to be encouraged in a more subtle manner.

Different strokes for different folks

For example, it’s often the case that a sales team responds more positively to practical tips that have case studies and proven results to back them up, whilst those who work in finance may prefer to hear a speaker who can show a respected track record in a related field of expertise. It’s never ideal to think in terms of generalisations, of course, but a little homework will go a long way to ensure that you are not talking down to a particular audience.

If a company decides to call in an expert speaker in a bid to boost morale, it’s likely that team spirit won’t be particularly high at that moment in time. For the coach, it’s vital to remember the importance of maintaining a confident air. The delegates will look to you to take them on to a new level of ability and potential, and your message will struggle to be heard if it appears that you don’t believe in it in the first place.

Some commercial organisations spend a small fortune on team-building activities for their staff members, in a bid to engender some spirit in the workplace, but in many cases this isn’t really necessary. A well-prepared presentation by a recognised expert can achieve far more, purely because it’s more of a hands-on approach. A competent coach can tailor the message to each individual delegate, as opposed to the more scatter-gun approach of an organised physical event.

Variety is the spice of life

Any group of employees that attends a coaching session, whether there are four of them or forty, has to be seen by the speaker as a disparate band of individuals. Assuming them to be an autonomous conglomerate rather than separate entities is a dangerous tack, and will inevitably lessen the chances of success. The very best coaches maintain the balancing act of talking to a group while at the same time speaking to individuals.

Of all the tools that can be used to help with a team discussion, PowerPoint remains the number one choice for most speakers. However, there are many more that can be utilised and incorporating alternative methods is always a good idea. If the message is delivered with a bit of a twist, it’s more likely to be remembered.

One aspect of coaching sessions that is often overlooked is the provision of written materials for delegates to take away with them afterwards, or an online sharing function to receive copies of the presentation or supporting slides and documents. It’s somewhat surprising to know some speakers feel there’s no need to supplement the message with text, but this can be a huge mistake. If you’re speaking to a group in a workplace you should always assume the audience are attending other similar events that month – when you do that, you can then appreciate there is very little chance of any individuals remembering all the things you’ve said.

Keep the message clear and simple

Needless to say, you don’t have to supply an expensive and potentially unnecessary booklet to accompany your coaching session. It’s often the case that a few sheets of text and diagrams is enough to suffice. Remember, keep written documents simple and concise, and never underestimate the power of bullet points! Many offices these days use remote workers or virtual set-ups, so having materials available online, or a chat function to answer questions and follow-ups marks out a great coach from the average ones.

Motivating a group of individuals can be a difficult task, but for the coaching professional it represents an intriguing challenge. Research shows that people in all sectors of industry respond to feel-good success stories, so a good strategy would be to include a tale or two of companies that have managed to turn things around after improvements to morale levels in the workplace.

Team spirit can be an inconsistent factor, however, and it’s hugely important to bear in mind that it can change very suddenly and with dramatic effect. Even at the end of the most successful morale-boosting coaching session, a series of negative events in the workplace can undermine all the good work that has been done. The wisest business owners and directors will know that staff morale should always be seen as a work in progress.

Finally, a vital factor in the success of any coaching session, but especially one that’s intended to boost morale, is the demeanour of the individual coach. If you provide a dry, unemotional experience for the delegates they will take nothing from it. While I’m not suggesting you burst into the room like Ronald McDonald when he’s overdone the energy drinks, you should at least be enthusiastic and energetic. And above all, you have to project a positive image at all times.

About the Author/Further Resources

Ryan Toms is based in the UK and writes extensively on business coaching and motivation for a virtual office start-up consultancy.

 

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Coaches Need Coaches Too

In this week’s guest post Angus MacLennan shares his expertise and thoughts about what a coach should have if they want to succeed.

Angus is also offering a special offer to readers of Coaching Confidence, the coaching blog. You’ll find the details at the bottom of this page for you to read after this post.

Coaches Need Coaches Too

By Angus MacLennan

Every coach should have a coach if they want to succeed! I have a coach and I have coached many coaches over the last few years. Coaches who were great at helping their clients get the results they need but not so good at making a living from coaching. The reasons tend to be the same – they need help with what I call the Business Essentials.

Some of the basics that need to be covered in any coaching business are:

  • Clear Message – have a clear and concise message.

Many coaches try to be all things to everyone they meet. You need to have a good answer when someone asks you what you do and you need to get it across quickly. I recommend you have a niche and know how to pitch to them – across social media and face to face. If you can’t explain your offering and how to buy it in four points then you are overly complicating it. Keep it simple and interesting and people will want to know more.

  • Business Plan – without a plan you are guaranteed to struggle.

Keep it simple. A one page plan is a good place to start. Make sure you answer all the questions you need to in that one page and you will know where your business is going and what you need to do to get there.

  • Marketing Plan – you need a marketing plan to succeed.

Coaches who want to be successful need to create a plan and work it consistently. Something simple is what I recommend. If it is longer than one A4 page then you are going into too much detail. It should cover online media, networking, referrals, direct marketing, newsletters and advertising. Focus on where your target market “hangs out”. Remember that action gets results and massive action gets massive results.

  • Financials – always be on top of your incomings and outgoings.

Have a simple schedule to invoice and a procedure to follow up with anyone who pays late. I personally ask all my clients to set up their retainer payments by Standing Order payable at the beginning of the month. Charge fees that reflect the actual cost of doing business. The money you charge for one hour actually pays for the many hours you put into the client including your preparation time and follow up time.

  • Time Management – manage your time or it will manage you.

If you are not getting the results you want then go back to basics. Have a prioritised To Do List, SMART 90 day goals and make sure you manage your interruptions. I recommend the Spinning Plates Process. It’s a great process to get your business and life under your control. Create a weekly schedule that includes all the key results areas in your business and then stick to the plan until you start seeing the results.

Running a successful coaching business is not easy but it can be simple. Focus on the Business Essentials and make sure you have someone to hold you to account and you will get the results you deserve. Get yourself a coach!

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Have a great day.

Angus MacLennan

About the Author/Further Resources

My name is Angus MacLennan and I am a Business Coach who gets results with motivated Entrepreneurs and SME Business Owners by providing practical no-nonsense support.

I enjoy writing articles about Business Growth and Development and I am lucky enough to be published in the UK, USA and Australia and to have my work incorporated into multiple training and support programmes.

My mission is to deliver a quality service to help every client develop their business and enable them to have the work/life balance they want.

Over the past 7 years I have had hundreds of hours experience coaching business owners across three continents.

I am a Master Practitioner of NLP, a Master Results Coach and have a Degree in Industrial/Organisational Psychology and a Post Grad Dip in Personnel Management.

Special Offer

Angus is happily setting aside time for anyone who comes via here for an Introductory Coaching Session. He will also give 3 readers 1/3 off his 3 month program if they sign up before the 8th July.