Each Monday on this blogs Facebook page I usually issue the following question and invitation:
“Have you written/seen a blog post in the past week that you’d think is of interest to coaches and that you’d like to share?”
Many of the posts shared on Facebook will then appear on this list.
I personally add posts that have attracted my eye for one reason or another. Sometimes this will be because it fits with a request from a reader about what the want to read more about. Sometimes it’s a post that covers a topic I know from working with clients that coaches will find valuable and/or interesting. Then there are also the posts that just really resonate with me personally.
Whilst to some extent I’m reliant on what’s written each week and what I see, I attempt to provide a mix in this list of different approaches. Some of the posts deal with logistics and answering “how to” style questions, some will be coaches sharing their own experiences and approaches and some posts will fall more in a spiritual category.
I’ll guess that because of the broad spectrum of the list they’ll be some posts you love and others that really don’t appeal to you. My suggestion is to read the posts you’re drawn towards – it’s here to inform, entertain and provide value not to create lots of thought about which you do and don’t like.
Whilst it’s lovely for posts to be sent to me via twitter, the nature of a tweet means that it can easily be overlooked when this post is being compiled at a later time. Please leave links in one place, ie the thread on our Facebook page so they can be easily shared.
Procrastinationis the practice of carrying out less urgent tasks in preference to more urgent ones, or doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones, and thus putting off impending tasks to a later time, sometimes to the “last minute” before the deadline. – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
Was Rodin’s Thinker really a Procrastinator?
There’s no single type of procrastinator and no single explanation for why procrastinators do their thing, or, rather, don’t do the things they should be doing.
What I see in my coaching practice are three types of procrastinators:
Chronic procrastinators, who have difficulty starting and finishing most tasks.
Situational procrastinators, who avoid certain kinds of tasks.
Rebellious procrastinators, who dodge or evade imposed tasks.
Regardless of type, procrastinators usually feel bad, stressed and guilty about their habit of not getting things done in a timely manner or not getting things done at all.
If I could stand the guilt or stress I probably would be a procrastinator. But, I don’t do well when I’m stressed, falling behind, missing deadlines, or late. I hate being late with library books! For me, the benefits of doing things on time far outweighs the high costs of procrastination.
Yet who doesn’t have difficulties choosing between morepleasurable tasks that give you a quick fix and the tougher less pleasurable tasks that require discipline, commitment and getting your hands dirty or at least sweaty?
Do I go to exercise class or stay at home and watch a movie?
Should I order in food or make something healthy?
Should I tackle that tough project or wait till I clear my Inbox?
What you find if you do a Google search, or a literature review of the research on procrastination, or consult procrastinators, are:
Irrational reasons for postponing doing something they know they will feel bad about later.
Concerns about others controlling, imposing or dictating deadlines or tasks that they would prefer to decide for themselves (the rebellious type!).
Anxiety-producing stress leading to a range of responses and emotions:
Desire to avoid any unpleasant and uncomfortable feeling;
Worry about not doing something well (perfectionist streak);
Fear of not knowing how to do something (incompetence);
Paralysis due to the complexity or number of tasks (fear of failure); and
Certainty they might not be making a right decision.
Are you are one of those people who gets down on yourself about not getting stuff done? Are you easily distracted? Impulsive? Or prone to avoiding stressful tasks in favour of more pleasurable pursuits?
If you are saying “yes” then here are some ideas that will help you kick the procrastination habit. Or at least minimize the negative impact of putting off tasks till later.
The first three ideas are foundations for the others. As with any change, it’s best to start with small steps.
Work with a short timeline – day to day, week to week, and month to month.
Don’t make a big resolution – “I’m done with procrastinating and I’m doing everything on-time from now on” – because that will never work.
What is most important is to never stop trying. When you fall short of your good intentions, which is inevitable, don’t give up. Try again.
Ask for help – there is usually someone in your life who can help you break down that long list of tasks into smaller and more manageable pieces.
Self-impose a few deadlines with tasks that are important to you and, if that doesn’t work, seek out externally imposed deadlines (e.g. from your spouse or a friend)
Counter the temptation to surf the Net by using apps that block you from Facebook or other sites that are more pleasurable than the task at hand.
Use timers on your smart phone or on your stove to keep you on-time and track.
Recognize you are compromising longer-term goals (that really matter) for short term pleasures (that just prompt you to seek out more short-term fun to cover up your feelings of guilt).
Tell yourself a story about the importance of conquering procrastination, how it will make your life better, or how you will feel better about yourself.
If all else fails, work with a coach! You need help.
Keep trying, Coach Minda
Often I feel that projects overwhelm us when we look at how many hours are involved until completion. But just getting started is usually not that difficult. Emily Giffin
About Minda Miloff
Minda Miloff, M.A., has developed, implemented and managed educational and training programs for over twenty years – for blue chip companies, professional associations and non-profit organizations.
In her coaching practice she helps clients:
Improve their productivity and effectiveness, at work and at home
Make the most of work relationships with superiors, direct reports and colleagues
Develop time management and organizational skills, overcome procrastination, increase focus, concentration and motivation, become professionally and personally more effective
Adopt healthier lifestyle habits and learn healthier responses to stress in all phases of life
Typical coaching clients are:
Assessing a career change or coping with a challenging new job
Struggling with time management and prioritizing tasks
Looking for practical solutions to problems at work or at home
Coach Minda – provides confidential coaching services in Montreal, and internationally by telephone or by SKYPE.
To know more about her services, email: mindamiloffsympaticoca
Visit her website www.coachminda.com to learn more about her work history and achievements or to review client testimonials
Each Thursday I share the most RT’d quote(s) from the blogs twitter account over the previous week. Last week the most RT’d tweet was:
“Continuous effort – not strength or intelligence – is the key to unlocking our potential.”
Tweeted on 17th January
The next highest amount of RT’s was a tie between the quotes:
“”If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”
Tweeted on 14th January
“Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you.”
Tweeted on 18th January
Many thanks to everyone who shared the quotes above and the other quotes from last week. I know that there are various aspects that can influence if a quote attracts your attention – if you saw the tweet, personal style, if it speaks to something happening in your life at that moment etc.
(For those of you as geeky as I am and wondering what tool I’m using to measure individual RT’s this week I’ve been playing with www.twitonomy.com)
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