Beyond Judgment: Creating a Coaching Space of Understanding and Acceptanc   Recently updated !

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The text reads: "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there." (Rumi)

Happy Monday! Today’s quote is:

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” (Rumi)

Rumi’s words resonate deeply with the essence of what coaching means to me, offering a profound invitation to transcend the limitations of judgment and embrace the boundless realm of understanding and connection. It’s one of those quotes that feels like it’s pointing towards something of real impact but finding the words to describe this does not do it justice.

Reflecting on Rumi’s profound invitation to transcend judgment and embrace understanding, I’m reminded of the transformative potential inherent in coaching relationships. For me, that field is like being wrapped in a duvet of love – safe and secure, yet vast and expansive. It’s a deeply personal space, yet simultaneously expansive and boundless.

In this tranquil and peaceful environment, new thoughts and creativity seem to flow effortlessly, transforming what once appeared as insurmountable challenges into manageable situations. When coaching, this space sets the stage for deep exploration and growth, inviting clients to step beyond the constraints of judgment and into a realm of openness and acceptance.

To me, coaching is about meeting clients where they are, without judgment, and working collaboratively from that place. In recent conversations with clients, I’ve noticed a common theme: fear of judgment often holds them back, even from the very beginning of our work together.

In light of meeting clients without judgment, a cornerstone of my coaching practice is fostering an environment where clients are comfortable being honest and truthful. As a coach, I value honesty and truthfulness from my clients. When clients aren’t fully truthful, it’s usually because their perception of the world differs from mine, and they genuinely believe what they’re saying, or they fear judgment and believe it reflects negatively on them. I don’t see my clients as broken or flawed; underneath their tangled thoughts, they’re whole and capable individuals. I approach each session with an open mind, without making judgments about what they’ve yet to uncover.

Instead of viewing situations through the lens of judgment and criticism, coaches can guide their clients to explore beyond these constructs, fostering an environment of empathy, compassion, and mutual respect.

By helping clients move beyond their limiting beliefs and thought patterns, coaches empower them to access their innate capacity for resilience, creativity, and insight. This allows for transformative breakthroughs and personal growth, fostering deeper connections and relationships.

In coaching conversations, approaching with a sense of curiosity and openness, free from the constraints of right and wrong, can lead to profound insights and understanding. In this space of non-judgmental listening and exploration, clients are empowered to navigate their challenges with clarity and confidence.

Ultimately, Rumi’s quote reminds us of the transformative power of understanding and empathy, principles that I feel lie at the heart of effective coaching. In the field beyond right and wrong, we find the fertile ground for authentic connection and meaningful relationships. I invite you to heed Rumi’s invitation and venture into this field, where compassion and understanding flourish, and where the seeds of peace and harmony are sown.

Ready to experience coaching without judgment? Schedule an initial chat or drop me an email to start your journey towards growth and authenticity

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Waiting in Peace: Cultivating Patience on the Coaching Journey   Recently updated !

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The text reads: "When we have done our best, we should wait the result in peace." - Sir John Lubbock

Happy Sunday! Today’s quote is:

“When we have done our best, we should wait the result in peace.” (Sir John Lubbock)

In whats often reffered to as a fast-paced world, where instant gratification often reigns supreme, the concept of waiting for results in peace may seem counterintuitive. However, if you coach from an inside out perspective, Sir John Lubbock’s words offer invaluable insights into the power of patience and trust in the coaching journey.

As coaches, our role is to guide and support our clients as they navigate their personal and professional challenges. We may offer strategies, insights, and encouragement to help them achieve their goals and aspirations. Yet, despite our best efforts, there comes a point where we must relinquish control and allow the process to unfold naturally.

This quote serves as a poignant reminder that after exerting our utmost effort, we must entrust the process and await the outcome with a sense of peace. It doesn’t entail passive inaction or idleness; rather, it entails seeking inner calm and serenity, acknowledging that we’ve fulfilled our part and allowing the universe to unfold as it should.

It’s important to note that this doesn’t imply a stagnation of personal growth or development; it simply means recognising that we’ve given our best in the present moment. It doesn’t mean you can never improve your skills or understanding further to make quicker and greater impact. It’s about honoring your current best without feeling constrained by it indefinitely

This concept aligns with the understanding that our experience of reality is created from the inside-out. Our thoughts, beliefs, and perceptions shape our reality, and when we’re able to cultivate a sense of peace within ourselves, we invite that peace to permeate our external circumstances.

So how can we, as coaches, embody this principle in our practice?

First and foremost, it’s about cultivating a deep sense of trust in the coaching process. Trust that our clients have the innate wisdom and resilience to navigate their challenges. Trust that the insights and breakthroughs will emerge in their own time. And trust that, as coaches, we are merely facilitators in their journey towards growth and self-discovery – it’s not our job to produce answers ourselves.

Secondly, it’s about embracing patience as a guiding principle in our coaching practice. Instead of rushing to find solutions or fix problems, we can create space for our clients to explore, reflect, and uncover their own answers. This requires us to resist the urge to intervene or provide immediate solutions and instead allow our clients the freedom to discover their own truth.

Finally, it’s about embodying a sense of peace and presence in our coaching interactions. When we approach our work with a calm and grounded presence, we create a safe and supportive environment for our clients to explore their thoughts and feelings without judgment or pressure. This sense of peace not only benefits our clients by fostering deeper connections and trust, but as an added bonus it also transforms outcomes for us as coaches. By embodying peace, we may notice a positive difference in our own perspective and the overall coaching experience.

In conclusion, Sir John Lubbock’s quote reminds us that as coaches, our role is not to control or dictate outcomes but rather to trust in the inherent wisdom of the coaching process. By embracing patience, trust, and peace in our practice, we can create profound opportunities for growth, transformation, and self-discovery for ourselves and our clients alike.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


True Silence: Rest for Mind and Spirit   Recently updated !

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The text reads: "True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment." (William Penn)

Happy Friday! Today’s quote is:

“True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment.” (William Penn)

Silence is not merely the absence of sound; it is a space of being—a sanctuary where the mind can find respite from the relentless chatter of thoughts and worries. Just as sleep rejuvenates the body, true silence offers a space for the mind to rest, recharge, and regain clarity.

Sometimes, it can feel that in the chaos of modern life, finding moments of true silence can be challenging. Our days are filled with constant distractions—from buzzing smartphones to overflowing to-do lists. Yet, amidst the noise, there exists a sacred stillness waiting to be discovered.

In the midst of external chaos, true silence provides an opportunity to reconnect with the innate wisdom and tranquility that reside within us.

When we quiet the incessant chatter of our minds, we create space for insight, creativity, and intuition to emerge. It is in these moments of stillness that we can more easily listen to our inner wisdom and find answers to life’s most pressing questions.

Moreover, that space that Penn is describing as true silence has a profound impact on our spiritual well-being. Just as nourishing food sustains the body, silence nourishes the spirit, providing sustenance for our innermost being. In the absence of external distractions, we can cultivate a deeper connection with our true selves and rest within that space. True silence allows us to access this innate wisdom and resilience, empowering us to navigate life’s challenges with grace and equanimity.

Yet, sometimes we resist embracing silence. We seek solace in distractions or external stimuli, unaware that true peace lies within. We’re often accustomed to relying solely on our +tellect. So, it can feel counterintuitive to give our intellect some time off—to send it on a spa break, if you will—and simply rest in that space.

There’s whole practices that allow you to embrace that silence intentionality. It can means carving out time for solitude and reflection, away from the noise and distractions of the outside world. Its also possible to take a moment at any time to let your mind quieten as best you can because that space is always available to us – even when we dont seem to feel it. I think it does means cultivating a willingness to sit with discomfort and uncertainty, or at least not resisting an of that feeling as the intellect wants to figure everything out. Instead trusting that true wisdom will emerge in the silence.

As we journey through life, may we remember the profound wisdom of true silence—a sanctuary for the mind and spirit. May we cultivate moments of stillness amidst the chaos, allowing nourishment and refreshment to wash over us like a gentle breeze. And may we embrace the transformative power of silence to awaken our true selves and illuminate the path forward.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Finding Resilience: Lessons from Queen Victoria’s Wisdom   Recently updated !

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The text reads: "Great events make me quiet and calm; it is only trifles that irritate my nerves." (Queen Victoria)

Happy Thursday! Today’s quote is:

“Great events make me quiet and calm; it is only trifles that irritate my nerves.” (Queen Victoria)

In what seems to many as today’s fast-paced world, where the constant barrage of information and stimuli can overwhelm even the most resilient among us, Queen Victoria’s words offer a timeless reminder of the power of perspective and resilience. Let us delve deeper into the wisdom encapsulated in this profound statement and explore how it can inform our approach to navigating the ups and downs of life.

At first glance, Queen Victoria’s assertion may seem paradoxical. How can someone remain serene and composed in the face of significant events while being easily perturbed by minor inconveniences? Yet, upon closer examination, her words reveal a profound truth about human nature: our responses to external circumstances are shaped by our internal perceptions and thinking.

Stormy seas

Consider the metaphor of a ship navigating through stormy seas. During moments of great turmoil and upheaval, when the waves are crashing against the hull and the winds are howling, the captain must remain steadfast and focused. It is in these moments of crisis that calmness and clarity of mind are most crucial, guiding the ship safely through the tempest. All the Captains attention is on focusing upon what is happening in that moment – there is little room to get caught up in thinking around other things or even what may happen in any time but the immediate future.

In much the same way, when confronted with major life events or challenges, we are called upon to summon our inner strength and resilience. Whether it be the loss of a loved one, a career setback, or a global crisis, maintaining a sense of quietude and calm can help us weather the storm with grace and dignity. It’s not uncommon for individuals to report, after experiencing a significant event, that they operated almost instinctively, without overthinking. This suggests that in moments of crisis, our natural response is to prioritise immediate action over complex thought processes – just focus upon that one thing in front of you.

Trifles

On the other hand, it is often the trifles—the things we can think of as petty annoyances and minor inconveniences—that have the power to unravel our composure and apparently disturb our peace of mind. From the frustration of being stuck in traffic to the irritation of a malfunctioning device, these seemingly insignificant disturbances can seem to chip away at our patience and resilience. We can get caught in loops of thinking, piling meaning and stories upon how we think about the original circumstance so that we end up feeling totally overwhelmed by our own thinking.

Perspective

So, what can we learn from Queen Victoria’s words, and how can we apply it to our own lives? One key insight is the importance of perspective. By recognizing the relative insignificance of trifles in the grand scheme of things, we can choose to respond to them with equanimity rather than allowing them to dictate our emotional state.

One way you could do that is by using that feeling of overwhelm as a type of alarm clock if you like, a reminder that any moment we can relax our metaphorical grip on all the pile of thinking we have going on and let that just evaporate so we can just see that original circumstance for what it is without all the extra baggage of story telling and thinking.

Resilience

Moreover, Queen Victoria’s words remind us of the power of resilience—the ability to bounce back from adversity and remain steadfast in the face of challenges. It’s often said that kids can bounce back so much faster from things than adults and I’d like to suggest that this is because we are all born with that ability, we just often get into the habbit of overthinking that we forget that at any moment we can relax back into that space of inner wisdom where it seems resilence comes from.

In essence, Queen Victoria’s quote serves as a poignant reminder of the value of maintaining perspective and resilience in the face of life’s challenges. By embracing her wisdom, we can cultivate a sense of calm amidst the chaos and navigate the journey of life with grace, dignity, and fortitude.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Radiating Sunshine: Spreading Joy and Kindness in Coaching   Recently updated !

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The text reads: "Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves." (J. M. Barrie)

Happy Wednesday! Today’s quote is:

“Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.” (J. M. Barrie)

In the realm of coaching, we often encounter profound truths that resonate deeply with our understanding of human nature and our capacity for positive change. One such truth is beautifully encapsulated in the quote by J. M. Barrie: “Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.” This simple yet profound statement holds within it a wealth of insight into the interconnectedness of our actions and their impact on both others and ourselves.

At its core, this quote speaks to the power of kindness, compassion, and generosity—the qualities that allow us to uplift and inspire those around us. When we extend a helping hand, offer a listening ear, or share a moment of joy with others, we not only brighten their day but also nourish our own spirits. By spreading sunshine, we create an abundance of warmth and light that envelops not only those we touch but also ourselves.

But what does it mean to “bring sunshine into the lives of others”? It goes beyond acts of kindness or generosity; it’s about embodying qualities such as empathy, understanding, and love in our interactions with others. Being a source of positivity, encouragement, and support, even in the face of challenges or adversity, is essential. Whether it’s offering words of encouragement to a struggling friend, lending a helping hand to someone in need, or simply sharing a smile with a stranger, each act of kindness has the power to brighten someone’s day and lift their spirits.

Moreover, bringing sunshine into the lives of others is not just a selfless gesture—it’s also an act of self-care and nourishment. When we give freely of ourselves, whether it’s our time, attention, or love, we create a ripple effect of positivity that returns to us in unexpected ways. By shining our light into the world, we attract more light into our own lives, illuminating the path ahead and guiding us towards greater fulfillment and happiness.

In the context of coaching, this principle holds particular significance. As coaches, we have the privilege of guiding and supporting others on their journey of personal growth and transformation. By embodying the qualities of kindness, compassion, and positivity in our coaching practice, we not only empower our clients to thrive but also cultivate a sense of fulfillment and joy within ourselves. It’s a symbiotic relationship where both parties benefit from the exchange of positive energy and support.

Have you ever witnessed someone melt at the sight of a contented baby or a cute puppy/kitten? When someone is in that space of calm, peace, and wisdom, with little thinking on their mind, it can be infectious, with those around them often quieting down. It’s like a resonance.

The reason I like this quote in connection to coaching is because it speaks to the direction my coaching has headed—helping clients connect more with their own wisdom and creativity, while I guide them through exploration of that space.

In conclusion, J. M. Barrie’s quote reminds us of the profound truth that those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. By embracing the power of kindness, compassion, and generosity, we uplift those around us and nourish our own spirits, experiencing greater fulfillment and happiness in our lives. As coaches, let us strive to embody these qualities in our practice and spread positivity wherever we go, knowing that in doing so, we create a brighter and more joyful world for all.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Flexibility in Action: Navigating Life’s Twists with Grace   Recently updated !

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Happy Tuesday! Today’s quote is actually a proverb:

“Coincidence defeats a well-laid plan” (Filipino proverb)

While it may seem counterintuitive, this proverb carries profound wisdom that resonates with both our personal and professional experiences.

In our fast-paced world, we can often pride ourselves on meticulous planning and strategic thinking. We meticulously outline our goals, chart our course of action, and leave little room for deviation. However, despite our best efforts, life has a way of throwing unexpected curveballs our way.

Think about a time when you meticulously planned every detail of an event or project, only to have it derailed by an unforeseen coincidence or twist of fate. Perhaps it was a chance encounter that led to a serendipitous opportunity, or a random event that completely altered the trajectory of your plans. Whatever the case, these moments serve as powerful reminders that we are not always in control of our circumstances.

Real life can be fluid, and situations can change in manners we could never have imagined. Let’s face it; a global pandemic in 2020 was not on many people’s radar as a possibility. By necessity, many plans had to be altered, be they personal or business ones.

So, how do we reconcile the tension between planning for the future and embracing the uncertainty of the present? How do we navigate the delicate balance between intentionality and spontaneity in our coaching practice?

Flexibility and Adaptability

One approach is to adopt flexibility and adaptability. Instead of rigidly adhering to our plans, we can learn to embrace the unexpected and see coincidences as potential catalysts for growth and innovation. Rather than viewing them as obstacles to our success, we can reframe them as opportunities for learning and discovery. Or just look at them as the next step to complete.

Moreover, coincidences often have a way of revealing hidden patterns or connections that we may not have noticed before. They can serve as valuable clues or signposts that guide us toward new insights or directions. By remaining open and receptive to these synchronicities, we can tap into a deeper wisdom that transcends our logical reasoning.

In my coaching practice, I’ve seen firsthand the transformative power of embracing coincidence and spontaneity. Instead of viewing them as disruptive forces, I encourage my clients to see them as invitations to explore new possibilities and perspectives. By letting go of rigid expectations and embracing the flow of life, they often discover hidden opportunities and insights that lead to profound shifts in their thinking and behavior. When we think that something “should” happen a certain way, then it’s entirely possible we just aren’t thinking to look for other potentially easier or better routes, etc.

By the very conversational style of coaching, it lends itself to being flexible and adaptable. You may have an idea where the conversation is heading, but at any question, it may become obvious it needs to diverge in a different direction.

I’ve spoken to so many over the years who are just starting as a coach and feel that they should have the conversation fixed in their heads ahead of time. That they need to know all the questions that they “should” ask and have a plan for any technique, story, or exercise they think they may use during the session.

Clinging onto that belief, that way of thinking means that they also tell me that they feel pressure and tension. When they let go of that expectation and release that thinking, they find that they can relax into their coaching, and the conversation usually flows much more easily.

Of course, this is not to say that planning is irrelevant or unnecessary. Planning provides us with a sense of direction and purpose, helping us to stay focused and organized in pursuit of our goals. However, it’s essential to recognize that plans are not set in stone and that flexibility is key to navigating the complexities of life.

In conclusion, the proverb “Coincidence defeats a well-laid plan” reminds us of the inherent unpredictability of life and the importance of remaining open and adaptable in the face of uncertainty. By embracing coincidence as a natural part of the human experience, we can harness its transformative power and navigate life’s twists and turns with grace and resilience.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


The Art of Asking the Proper Question   Recently updated !

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The text above reads: "To ask the proper question is half of knowing." (Roger Bacon)

Happy Monday! Today’s quote is:

“To ask the proper question is half of knowing.” (Roger Bacon)

In the pursuit of knowledge, we often focus on finding the right answers. However, Roger Bacon reminds us that asking the right questions is equally crucial. Questions have the power to shape our understanding of the world around us and guide us towards deeper insights.

Think about a time when a single question changed the course of your thinking or led you to a breakthrough. Perhaps it was a simple inquiry that challenged your assumptions or a thought-provoking query that sparked a new line of inquiry. Whatever the case, asking the right question can be a transformative experience. After all, all it can take for change to happen is for a new thought, seeing something from a different perspective. If you like an idea suddenly striking you.

But what makes a question “proper” or effective? It’s not just about seeking information but also about framing the question in a way that stimulates new thinking and curiosity. To use the language of the quote, I think a proper question encourage exploration, invite multiple perspectives, and open the door to new possibilities.

In my coaching practice, I’ve seen firsthand the power of asking the “right” questions. By guiding clients to explore and look afresh, we uncover deeper insights and unlock hidden potential. It’s often not just about the perfect phrasing but coming from “a space” where the client actually hears you. It’s about creating a space where the client feels safe to explore and reflect, where they can gain clarity, discover new perspectives, and chart a course of action that aligns with the direction they want and know to travel.

Moreover, asking the right questions is not just about seeking answers but also about fostering a mindset of continuous learning and growth. It’s about embracing curiosity and remaining open to new ideas and experiences. As the philosopher Socrates famously said, “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” By asking questions, we acknowledge our limitations and invite the opportunity for growth and discovery.

So, how can we cultivate the art of asking the right questions? It starts with curiosity and a willingness to challenge our own assumptions. It involves listening, empathy, and a genuine interest in understanding others’ perspectives. It requires humility and a recognition that we don’t have all the answers but that we can learn and grow through inquiry and exploration.

As we navigate through life’s complexities, let’s remember the wisdom of Roger Bacon’s words. Let’s embrace the power of inquiry and curiosity, knowing that asking the right questions is not just half of knowing but also the key to unlocking new possibilities and deeper understanding.

In conclusion, the art of asking the right questions is a skill worth cultivating. By framing inquiries thoughtfully and engaging in meaningful dialogue, we can expand our horizons, challenge our assumptions, and embark on a journey of lifelong learning and discovery.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.


Embracing Intuition: Navigating Life’s Uncertainties   Recently updated !

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The text to the right reads: “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” (Zora Neale Hurston)

Happy Sunday! Today’s quote is:

“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” (Zora Neale Hurston)

Hurston’s words capture the essence of the ever-changing nature of our experiences, where some periods are characterized by questions and uncertainties, while others bring clarity and understanding.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your intuition guided you towards a decision, even when logic seemed to suggest otherwise? This silent knowing, this deep sense of intuition, is a powerful guiding force that often defies rational explanation. It’s a whisper from within, nudging us in a certain direction, urging us to trust the process even when the path ahead seems unclear.

Intuition

Intuition, often described as our inner knowing or gut feeling, is a powerful yet subtle force that guides us through life’s uncertainties. It’s that quiet voice within us that whispers guidance when logic falls short. For example, think back to a time when you had to make a significant decision, and despite all the pros and cons laid out before you, something deep inside urged you in a particular direction. Perhaps it was a job offer that seemed perfect on paper, but your intuition told you it wasn’t the right fit. Or maybe it was a relationship that looked ideal from the outside, but your inner voice warned you of underlying issues.

These moments of intuitive insight often come when we least expect them, and they can be easy to dismiss or ignore, especially when they contradict our rational thoughts. However, learning to trust our intuition is essential for navigating life’s twists and turns with grace and confidence.

For me, this sense of intuition or innate wisdom recently manifested in my decision to pursue a Transformative Coaching certification. Despite feeling that the timing was not ideal from a logical standpoint, I couldn’t ignore the persistent pull towards this opportunity. Trusting my intuition, I took the leap, and as I embarked on this journey, I began to understand the subtle yet profound ways in which our inner wisdom shapes our experiences.

In embracing the uncertainty of life, we cultivate a deeper sense of trust in ourselves and the universe. We learn to listen to the whispers of our intuition, recognizing that they often lead us towards growth and self-discovery. It’s about surrendering to the unknown, letting go of the need for certainty, and allowing ourselves to be guided by the wisdom of our inner compass.

Ultimately, learning to trust our intuition is a journey of self-discovery and growth. It requires patience, practice, and a willingness to lean into the unknown. But as we cultivate a deeper connection with our inner guidance, we gain a powerful tool for navigating life’s complexities with grace and confidence.

Moreover, being comfortable with the unknown doesn’t always mean passively waiting for answers to come to us; rather, it’s an active engagement with the process of self-exploration and discovery. It can be about asking the right questions, exploring new perspectives, and being open to the lessons that each experience brings. Just like when googling for an answer and changing the wording of the request can produce a different set of answers – sometimes the requests we make to our own inner knowing/wisdom can seem logical to our intelect but changing that wording can produce different answers.

As we navigate through the uncertainties of life, let’s remember that every question, every moment of doubt, is an opportunity for growth and self-awareness. It can be in these apparent moments of vulnerability that we can discover our true strength and resilience, and it’s through embracing the unknown that we unlock the door to endless possibilities.

Whilst it may appear that time has a strict linear progression of cause and effect, in my experience we don’t always know the answers at a time when we think that we “should”. Which is what I think Zora Neale Hurston is pointing towards with this quote. Sometimes the answer to explain what our wisdom is guiding is to do isn’t actually revealed to a later time.

In conclusion, Zora Neale Hurston’s quote serves as a poignant reminder of the cyclical nature of life, where questions and answers intertwine to shape our journey. By embracing uncertainty, trusting our intuition, and remaining open to the mysteries of the unknown, we embark on a path of self-discovery and transformation that leads us towards deeper understanding and fulfillment.

About Jen Waller

Jen Waller

Jen Waller is on a mission to support, nurture and encourage coaching skills and talents from non-coach to coach and beyond.

As an experienced coach and trainer Jen is happy to utilise all skills at her disposal to assist clients from getting out of their own way and making a difference in the world with their coaching. Find out more about the support Jen offers here.